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I am 30 yrs unmarried male. I have married girl friend, having a child studying in 7th. She talk's about sex with me. Shall I have sex. She is calling me to her house. I till now not have intercourse anybody. Only kissing & hugging with my younger girl friend only. So if I have sex this married friend, any problem? Advice me.
Ok, your post was written in a confusing way... but I'll try. So you aren't married,you are a virgin, have a married/pregnant girlfriend whom you are wondering if you should engage in sexual intercourse with? The answer is NO. First of all, she's married! And yes, many problems will come with having sex with her. Problems for her, you, and her family. The best thing you can do is end this relationship and find someone who can give you their all... not just sex.
Please do not sleep with this woman, at least wait for her to get a divorce.. and if she's not planning on doing that than sorry to say but she's just a skank with no morals cheating on her husband. That's one of the many things that angers me is cheaters. Especially MARRIED ones. Go find yourself someone with less baggage. Once a cheater always a cheater. And if you're a virgin.. which I'm not sure. But if you are, do you really want to lose it to someone who's cheating on another. Good way to go out huh? No not really. BAD IDEAA ALERT!
Also if your 30 and a virgin you must have some SERIOUS self esteem problems & should probably work on that before sleeping with some random hussy that's going to leave you hurt. Cause she will.
I am from india, here virginity till marriage is not problem, But till this age may be aproblem, what I have to do . I think having sex with a experienced person can slove my problem. Is it so?Quote:
Originally Posted by itsamor
I think having a meaningful relationship with someone who is not married will benefit you. If you have sex with this woman, you will get hurt and cause several problems.Quote:
Originally Posted by binucbg
I am told by her , that she is not going to carry this relationship for long, she ask me to have this till my marriage & I have not told her that am virgin. She ask me, if I had earlier experience. I said YES. She is tempting me , to have FUN. She daily call me, I have no peace...Quote:
Originally Posted by rankrank55
After reading his other posts, I think the point about having a child studying in 7th grade was because he is asking about a 7th grade textbook on another board.
I am bit concerned that you are not as old as you are attempting to portray yourself. However, it could just be a language barrier. I am giving you the benefit of the doubt.
She is married so stay away from her. Plain and simple she is off limits no matter what she thinks. I would even go so far as to break off any relationship with her or her son.
I am friend of her , not her son. I didn't him,she said that all. There is no doubt of my age, only to doubt is, I am have no sexual experience. I have not gone beyound friendship . So, there is a confusion & I not going to marry recently.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cat1864
In India is sex with a married person accepted? Morally is it acceptable to you to have sex with someone else's wife?
My advice? Have a first-time experience with a virgin. This woman is out of your league for several reasons.
OK frds , I would convey all you are answer to her, & reply after . THANKSQuote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
Why are you accepting her calls, corresponding with her at all?
How about "I am not interested. Do not contact me again."
That would work.
I am her friend , I or she connected we cannot break the friendship inaday. Then there will be queries from every side and if she is in need sexual satifaction,she would had with another guy. If , I cut her relelationship , she would take her own path. I want to be agood friend . That's all . Thank'sQuote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
Hi, binucbg!
If you were to put yourself in her husbands' place, what would you think about someone like you having sex with your wife, please?
Thanks!
Nobody can be in anyplace & if anybody want cheat , no one can stop . Is it wrong for having sexual pleasure , which she did't have. I also, not believe I too can satisfy her.Quote:
Originally Posted by Clough
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Originally Posted by Clough https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/images...s/viewpost.gif
Hi, binucbg!
If you were to put yourself in her husbands' place, what would you think about someone like you having sex with your wife, please?
Thanks!
Hi again, binucbg!Quote:
Originally Posted by binucbg
That still doesn't answer my question. What would you think if you were her husband, please?
Thanks!
I can't answer in a word, it depends on circumstance & my physcial condition. For U referance , read OSHO, books . U must know that still I had not have sex with awoman. I want to have sex with little risk. Still I have not thought of marriage, going for avirgin , later she holds me. Sorry if my idea is wrong.Quote:
Originally Posted by Clough
And what do you as a virgin have to offer this woman sexually?
According to this you have a girlfriend. How does she feel about you wanting to get laid by your "married friend"?Quote:
Originally Posted by binucbg
You live in India. Adultery is nothing to take lightly in any part of the world. How lightly is it taken in India? What happens if her husband, family, community, etc. find out about your "fun"?Quote:
I want to have sex with little risk
Have you thought past losing your virginity?
I have girlfriend, means I didn't have sex with her . She is a friend like any other. The girl I kiss was my collagemate once. The married girlfriend is not going to lose her virgnity, because of me. Adultery means adding unreal to real and here we are not going to add , instead subtracting the need of her unstasfication toward her sex stravation.me too. So...Quote:
Originally Posted by Cat1864
I did a quick search and found this article interesting:
Indian Law - India Legal Issues - Adultery - ShaadiTimes
The Indian Penal Law makes no mention of adding "unreal to real" or subtracting anything. It does say that YOU can be held criminally liable for seducing HER even if it is her idea. It also goes on to say that her husband can use it as grounds to divorce her. Doesn't sound like the consequences would be very satisfying to me.Quote:
What Constitutes adultery ?
As in India Section 497 of the Indian Penal Code, 1860 which reads as :
"Whoever has sexual intercourse with a person who is and whom he knows or has reason to believe to be the wife of another man without the consent or connivance of that man, such sexual intercourse not amounting to the offence of rape, is guilty of the offence of adultery."
Thus under Section 497 of the Indian Penal Law :
1. an adultery can be committed only by a man and not by woman.
2. the person committing adultery must also know or should have reason to believe that woman with whom he had intercourse is the wife of another man, and
The sexual intercourse should not amount to the offence of rape.
3. The complainant husband can only vindicate himself if he can establish the above, otherwise his complaint would fail. What is most significant in the penal offence of adultery is that invariably the husband takes his vengeance against the third person, i.e. the adulterer: though in some jurisdictions he may also be able to reap it against the wife. But in most cases the main target of his vengeance is the adulterer.
The criminal action is filed not against the wife but against the adulterer. The wife is not guilty of offence, not even as an abettor.
I think this married woman knows you are a virgin, and has for a long time. I don't really know where Im going with this. She could just be using you. How would you feel about being used? Losing your virginity is a big price to pay to get used and then hurt. You have not a clue what your going to invest in her emotionaly after you begin this affair. Think before you act in this.
Here in india law permit the polygamy in certain religion & communities, I can challenge any legal issue in court. It's not aproblem for me , its my inner conscince, which has is abarrier for me to get her. I want a strong reason , for which I should discard her. If I go for a virgin or single woman whom I not going to marry , how can I continue that affair too. So ,I am thinking this is a better option having affair with this married friend. Till I got a proper person. I am Correct or...Quote:
Originally Posted by Cat1864
So you're using her for sex?Quote:
Originally Posted by binucbg
You're horny, you want to get laid. I can understand that, at 30 years of age I'd feel the same way.
Aren't most marriage in India arranged? Why not find yourself a wife, then you can have all the sex you want.
I am going to be blunt.
I don't know why you came to us for advice. You have your penis made up. It definitely is not your brain that is doing the thinking.
You are looking to get one person to say go for it. Sorry, but I have yet to see any of the people who regularly answer questions on this website agree that adultery is ever a solution to a problem. In fact, most of them get upset at even the concept of adultery as a solution.
If you want to mess up your life and hers, that is on your conscience. You won't get us to do anything other than attempt to talk you out of it. However, it appears that nothing we say is 'a strong enough reason' to "discard her', because you keep making excuses as to why you should have an affair with her.
Why don't you find a wife of your own?
I did not want nod from anybody . But your reasons did not satisfiy me. OK you are reason is correct, should I marry aperson for sex.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cat1864
Of course not, but that's what you seem to want.Quote:
Originally Posted by binucbg
You don't seem interested in right or wrong, love, marriage, anything. It seems that all
You want is sex and you're willing to ruin someone's marriage to get it, or marry someone to get it.
You have a one track mind, and that track is only leading to what you want, and to hell with everyone else.
I want to get laid, sometime's your correct . In midist of my all year, I never think of woman for only sex. I have very respect for woman. So marry a woman , to make wife only for all want of sex,.Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
I am person who believe in god . I didn't ,only want sex, I want love too. I didn't want to ruin anybody's life. I want to help. That's all .Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
If you want to help then don't have sex with a married woman... That is a sure way to destroy many things in your and others lives. Find another woman to have sex with that is not married. Honestly I think you have no idea about how destructive your desire is. You habve no idea about the suffering that you andothers will endure if you go ahead with this. You will regret it one day.
Hi again, binucbg!
You still have never directly answered my question that I asked in post #14! You keep skirting around the issue here.
Would you please answer the question that I asked, without making up excuses and rationalizations?
Thanks!
What would she do if , her husband in not capable of giving her sexualpleasure. Should she have permission from her husband for this affairQuote:
Originally Posted by sandalwood7
Hello B,
I agree with everyone else on here. Let me ask you something, What is it about this woman, MARRIED woman at that, that you feel you just have to have? Surely there are more women where you are from?
You came on here for advice, right? So here goes, Stop thinking about your peepee and put yourself in someone else's position for a second. By going threw with this you will destroy her marriage. Think of her husband and how he would feel. Not to mention, would you even have respect for her afterwards for going threw with it?
You may not agree with what I have told you, but oh well. Good luck.
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Originally Posted by binucbg
If her husband has any morals he would not agree with this.
If she is not getting sexual pleasure from her husband then she needs to talk to him about it, not find that pleasure elsewhere.
They need to either talk about it or go to counselling, either way you should stay out of it and let them sort their own issues out.
If she decided she wants to divorce her husband and be with you then fine but until they get a divorce she is off limits.
How would you know if her husband is not capable of giving her sexual pleasure, please? If she's willing to cheat on her husband, she is capable of cheating on anyone.Quote:
Originally Posted by binucbg
Would you want to be intimately involved with someone who is so prone to cheating?
Thanks!
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