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My b/f wants me to come up with new and ''strange'' ideas to spice up our sex life. I'm happy with the way it is going, but he wants to try new things,as do I... Any other things we have tried have been his idea, so now he wants me to come up with some. Help please, ideas anyone? I'm quite reserved when it comes to talking about sex, but lost for ideas here... :(
What do you call strange versus what he calls strange?
Well, strange to him is having his arse fingered and he is DEVOUT hetro!! I don't think he means strange as in weirdo, but something different...
That's normal. You have a g-spot, that's ours.. cheers.
Mmmm I knew that, but I still need some help here...
In the www there is nothing you can't find when it comes to different. Do some research, I'm sure you'll find something. Have you went to a sex shop? There's lots of ideas you might get from there. It's kind of hard to come up with ideas to this question when we don't know what kinds of things you've tried already.
Costumes, body paints, role playing, blind folds
Thanks for your replies... I have been to sex shops and used toys, but was looking to elaborate a bit, cheers guys!
You could do something different like ridding him then slapping him across the face as hard as you can when he starts getting off. I don't think it will turn him on, but I'm sure it will surprise the chit out of him. :D
I'm not too sure I want to get into the violent side of things, but thanks anyway!
I am voting on the side of simply web searching. You can find everything from A to Z in the areas of sexuality and preferences and all the things you want and did not want to know. I won't put any links on here - just because minors read through some of these posts. Happy surfing.
Dump him fast!!
It seems you guys have tried all kinds of "strange" sexual positions, and all your friend wants to do is get more and more weird instead of developing his and your sexuality in more powerful and satisfying physical and emotional directions. Perhaps, he doesn't even know about vast unexplored areas of human sexuality that are far more sublime than him simply "getting off".
Females have a far more complicated sexual process than men and are capable of such wonders of orgasmic power if they are with a half-way decent partner. Unfortunately, it seems that young people's sex lives are really unsatisfying these days.
There must be some books that describe the wonders of sex... not how to books... just so you can get an idea of what you are missing, but what you are capable of having. I think it would be worth your while to understand human sexuality and not get stuck with a selfish guy just trying to get his rocks off.
Good Luck, you can do it. :)
MMmmmmmmm Thanks for your comments, Choux. As for young persons sex lives, well, we aren't ''young'' as in 20's or 30's. I was married for 22 years to a boring in bed person (god knows why I stuck it so long).. He was married to a ''prude''. I am willing to try new things, don't get me wrong, but am at a loss as to what!!
Perhaps he can be invited to "finish" in new places on you...
Okay well the first thing to consider is your comfort level. If you are not comfortable with something then do not do it and he should respect that. Sometime sex can start to get a little monatinous, but try simple playful things that could really spice things up. Go to a bar and have him pick you up. Act like you never met and go from there. Role playing is a great way to be creative and comfortable. It like an adult version of playing house. He can be the robber and you the innocent woman all alone. Say daring and bold things. It will surprise him if your not usually like that. Talk about sex in a non sexual way. Ask him what he would like. Tell him what your comfortable with. Make boundries. Sex is all about personal prefrence and as long as both are comfortable and safe that is what really matter. But do not do anything your not comfortable with. And do not lie to him and say something is okay when it's not.You will begin to resent him for it. Honesty and Comfortablility. I hope this help!
Danielle
Play a game. Take 3 - 4 extra strength tylenol PMs... and try to finish sex before you guys fall asleep. Either case, it's win win.
Just kidding. Don't do that.
Play games such as... role play? I always found communication (actually talking) during sex to be sort of fun. And I don't mean talk about the weather or the stock market. Such things like DO YOU LIKE THIS? DO YOU WANT ME TO DO THIS? And at times, I play a game such as IF YOU TOUCH ____ (insert body part such as ears, head, neck, chin, etc.) THEN I WILL DO ______ (go up, go down, go fast, go slow, lick, etc.)
It gives your partner some control over what they want.
Try the 69erQuote:
Originally Posted by uncertaingirl
Get a pole for the bedroom, and give him a real lap dance. Dress up like a Klingon and mate with him. Oh gosh, I have to many ideas. Try those first and comeback in an hour.
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but people will never forget how you made them feel."
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Depending on what you like and what you are willing to do, I have a thing for being submissive/uncooperative. Not necessarily rape, per se, because to be raped for real is not sexy, but to have to be coerced, or held down, or play coy and make him get "angry" with me for not knowing what to do by feigning innocence. You can take this to as an extreme as you'd like. Pretending that it's your first time is hot too, telling him to go slow, wincing with imaginary pain... all in what you like and what gets you going.
Hope this helps
Lots of ideas, have you tried bondage, spanking, blindfolds, role playing like Master/slave, Boss/secretary, Doctor/patient?
Get creative :)
Fill the tub with chocolate and... whipped crème.
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Originally Posted by talaniman
Eww have you ever licked a melted Hershey's almond bar off a hairy man before? It seemed like a good idea at the time.
Read Cosmopolitan, there are many great ideas, and tricks in there.
Otherwise, just ask him. Ask him what feels good, and what turns him on.
Try different positions, in different places, wearing different outfits.
And see what works. But more importantly, have fun with it. If you're doing something that makes you uncomfortable just for your boyfriend's own pleasure, than it's not worth it. Find something new that works for the both of you.
Ok I'm dead serous on this. It's a little weird but I've never been accused of being normal. It's called monkey sex (I came up with that myself). I've only had one guy that was ever crazy enough to play it with me... man I miss him! Anyway both of you act like monkeys and make all the monkey noises. You can pick lice off each other, hang off the bed in different monkey positions, you can even jump on the bed if you want to. Oh yeah and the only rule is you can't talk, remember you're monkeys. Hey don't knock it till you've tried it! It's actually a lot of fun!
I'll stick with the chocolate, My wife is not hairy. We do play Tarzan/Jane , but cheetah ain't allowed.
Cheetah more fun than Tarzan, Jane would like cheetah! Tarzan would like cheetah Jane too!
MMMMMM Like I said earlier... We isn't in the first flush of youth, I don't think his heart would cope!! Thank you all for your ''input''... I am very grateful. I have tried new things in this relationship. My main problem... (not right wording, but) my 12 year old lives with me, so... I do have to consider his feelings... i.e. whether he can hear us!! OMGQuote:
Originally Posted by stonewilder
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So good to hear you are concerned for your mans health,:rolleyes: and your child's... feelings.:D Send him out to play and take care of your man. He is more durable than you think.:eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by uncertaingirl
If I read right you are in your 20 and 30's. You make it sound like you're in your late 60's,on Viagra and with a heart condition! Stop thinking like that! Sex is suppose to be fun, exciting and playful. I know your son must spend the night with family and friends sometimes, if not it's time he did. Girl open your mind, loosen up and have a F-ing good time... literally! I'm 42 years old and would still have the monkey sex if I could find someone who wasn't such a stick in the mud. Oh, speaking of mud...Quote:
Originally Posted by uncertaingirl
Just because you aren't necessarily in your 20's or 30's doesn't mean you can't get wild.Quote:
Originally Posted by uncertaingirl
This may just be me but I love oily sex. Especially after a very romantic massage and then your bodies slide against each other and it is very erotic and sexy. For me, it always feels the best when my breast are smashed against his chest or if my nipples are barely grazing his chest. Oil will make this feel even better. It's not exactly wild but I think you will both enjoy it.
Also, I've heard of (but never tried) getting something to tie around the both of you that way you don't really have a whole lot of room to move around. Of course let it have some slack but it makes the "simple positions" like missionary a little more entertaining.
I think I may have to try that. :D
Also it may be a good idea for you to buy two different sex books. You read one and him the other so it can be a surprise what you spring on him and visa versa. That should spice you up for a while.
Good luck!
Talking about mud... there is jelly wrestling :)
And what a nice way to die if you think his heart won't cope :)
So, any of this work?
Not into him dying, thanks but thank you for all your input... taking it all on board, bar the monkey!! He don't like me cummin on him because he is too hairy...
Yes, not just any of them, ALL of them, if you do it right :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Ash123
Humm... cucumbers, bananas, pop sickles, honey?
And if they don't work you still can eat them in bed :)Quote:
Originally Posted by stonewilder
Watch some porn movies with him... find out what tickles your fancy so to speak. For example what works for my wife is the last thing either of us expected. That's a good way to find out stuff you might not think of. Trust me, you CAN keep the excitement in your sex life, I'm going on 17 years and its better now than when we first got married.
Nothing is more boring that the same thing, the same way year after year. That will explain many people running around on their spouses, or just not having sex more than a few times a month or year.
I could be hear all night suggesting things, its difficult without knowing what you do already. Maybe to challenge his DEVOUT hetro side, you could dress up as a man, strap on a dildo and get him to suck you off... just for a change !
I could be hear all night suggesting things, its difficult without knowing what you do already. Maybe to challenge his DEVOUT hetro side, you could dress up as a man, strap on a dildo and get him to suck you off, when you think you might have , you could flick natural yogurt in his face to add to the effect... just for a change !
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