Most don't care. I've met some that actually didn't care if they got pregnant and the guy left them... I thought things like that were only themes for television shows. Everyone in my area is pregnant or has a child. Finding a virgin is near impossible. Id be happy just to find one I could honestly believe might not even have an STD...

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Originally Posted by IDKwhatIwant

most dont care. ive met some that actually didnt care if they got pregnant and the guy left them... i thought things like that were only themes for television shows. everyone in my area is pregnant or has a child. finding a virgin is near impossible. id be happy just to find one i could honestly believe might not even have an STD...

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For me... I'd only want to go after girls who are virgins...

I guess it's because I've only had sex with one girl so I'm really inexperienced.

There are still many girls out there who do in fact wait until marriage, however, the ones who don't wait feel pressured into doing it. Guys these days don't want to be with a girl unless things other than kissing goes on. Girls feel the need to participate in sexual activities so that guys would like them. Also many girls have sex before marriage because they feel that if they do love the person they are with that they want to give their virginity to that one special boy.

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Originally Posted by evitztum

There are still many girls out there who do in fact wait until marriage, however, the ones who don't wait feel pressured into doing it. Guys these days don't want to be with a girl unless things other than kissing goes on. Girls feel the need to participate in sexual activities so that guys would like them. Also many girls have sex before marriage because they feel that if they do love the person they are with that they want to give their virginity to that one special boy.

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That is true.

But I still prefer virgin girls....

While its personal choice... I'd rather have a woman with some experience if that all I was after. Let the women who value their virginity keep it and not lose it to someone with only one thing in mind. They can only lose it once. And it's a precious thing to most. Not to be lost casually.

First-off tata85 I don't understand a single word you wrote!

Second, look at the t.v. listen to the recent songs and movie scripts. Our world has become more grown up. The songs talk about sex more now then ever, the movies refer to sex more now then ever before. Everywhere you look you see tits and . Girls aren't waiting because them values are almost non-existent anymore, the girls see these pop-stars making sex tapes and posing nude for playboy. They see it all day everyday and thus increasing the age of boy experimenting as well. The boys see this and are wanting it sooner, thus the girls may or may not be pressured.

This is just my opinion.

1. there is pressure out there

2. some teens grow up faster and society has certainly changed since I was 13 (I'm 25)

3. personally, I don'r really know if I'm the marrying type... of course it might be too early to say, but I don't know... the jury is still out on that one... lol

4. I waited for love, I could have lost it a lot earlier, but I waited. I was 19. And had been dating my boyfriend for over 3 months. We ended up living together for 5 years and I haven't regretted it for one second...

But yeah, I do think that the people who debut early should think about it and not just jump into it... why loose it for someone who won't matter in a month. Besides there are an emotional responsibility for yourself... and risks... STD's, pregnancy etc... it's a little sadening when people are 12, 13 when they loose it...

I'm still a virgin... muahaha :)

I don't know anyone with as much self-control as myself.

Society tells them that sex makes you cool and that its not wrong.

The value of marriage no longer exists therefore marriages morals and rules no longer exists.

I am almost 20 and just lost my virginity.

I think that its social upbringing. I admit if I were to live where I grew up when I was way younger I would have lost my virginity a lot sooner. When I hung out with my friends we normally hung out with their parents, and their parents treated us like adults. I actually remember having a conversation with one couple about sex.

I think that parents need to be parents NOT their best friends. My mom never talked to me that way. I never had a boyfriend till sophomore year in high school.

Talking to my old friends, all of them either dropped out of high school, have children, do drugs, or are currently in jail.

I am happy that I moved, I am now going to a Community College for Early Childhood Education. I love my job, and I'm very happy with my boyfriend.

So like I said, I think that parents need to become more attentive.

I still am wondering why people are blaming parents. Wouldn't you think that after a certain age even the age of 13 you can think for yourself? I was/am the wild child of my family. I lost my virginity at the age of 16. My parents had no clue whatsoever. Kids have sex young for many reasons. Like you get tired of fighting the battle against your hormones and sex feels amazing. Yeah sometimes pressure is involved and I even know someone who got drunk and said yes when sober she would have said no. There are many different reasons for it. But seriously people its not the parents! In fact if parents don't talk to thir kids about sex they actually start having it earlier because they don't know any better. Why is everyone so quick to jump to blame the parents? Anytime a child however old being 5 or 55 everyone says this is the result of bad parenting. People have sex because they choose to. But more young teenagers wouldn't be having sex if they were informed of the adult consequnces that come from sex instead parents thinking they are "good" parents because society says its better to not even talk about sex at all to your kids

Its not always the parents fault entirely... but the parents are at least partially responsible.

If they had instilled limits and morals into the children's lives growing up rather then let them do whatever they want as has been in fashion in recent years. If they had paid attention to who their kids friends are... and who they hang out with.

Yeah kids are going to do what they want IF they are allowed to. Without proper upbringing and boundries kids will usually make the wrong choices. Add that in with running with other undisciplined kids and you have a disaster in the making. Its not if but when something bad will happen.

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Originally Posted by greeneyedbaby

. But more young teenagers wouldn't be having sex if they were informed of the adult consequnces that come from sex instead parents thinking they are "good" parents because society says its better to not even talk about sex at all to your kids

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THAT is why I blame parents.

I haven't read all the posts so Im sorry if Ive repeated someone's opinion. Im still a virgin but some other people I know aren't, I kind of think girls sometimes have sex so they can have more expirence for their true lovers (Marriage), so they can give them more pleasure and fun. Some girls are just plain horny. Some girls think its "cool" to have sex while being so young (As the same for drugs), so they can go to school or something saying "Hey I had sex with Johnny last night" and the other girls will go "Omigoshh, Lucky!" and guys may think "mmm she has expirence" and may find that atractive. I believe that some girls feel special being chosen to have sex with, giving them confindence of their body and all. The girl may be thinking "hmm well if he wanted and did have sex with me he probably thought I was good looking". Some girls, no matter how many times they have been through Sex Ed, still don't fully understand the conceiscenes, they may think 'Oh that's like 1 out of a 100, it will never happen to me' Sometimes they want bragging rights so they can feel more ''mature''.


I also believe its not all the parents fault, there's so many reasons of why its not the parents blame. Also one of the things is that now a days there are A lot of Sex Ed classes (or people coming in) even in Elem (well were Im from), my first Sex Ed was in Gr 4, around the end, and it was repeated for 5,6, and 7 (Soon to be in 8). Its just some still don't get it fully lodged into their brain properly?

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Originally Posted by cowandchicken

It seems like most girls are losing their virginity as early as 13 yrs old. There no longer is a need to wait untill marriage. Why do they no longer care?

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Sex is glamorized all around... many television programs geared towards teens will have highly suggestive scenerios. It is difficult to find programs that appeal to many teens that don't at least occasionally have some sort of sexual tension involved between a couple of the characters. Some of the music that is popular with teens is of an obvious sexual nature... they don't even try to obscure it.

The majority know they shouldn't be having sex, otherwise they wouldn't hide it from their parents. They know the consequences, even if they don't know all of the details, as is evident from some of the posts on the pregnancy board. The problem is no one thinks those consequences will happen to them and it often is not until they have a real scare before they take the time to actually get some more information.
Sure some parents don't do a great job of parenting. Some kids will have sex to try and fill the void left from uninterested parents, but many kids, with very good parents, will still make that decision.

Kids get many mixed messages in regard to growing up and sex... from various sources in society... school, television, parents, their religion, friends, movies, music, magazines, etc.. Sadly, it shouldn't really be surprising so many get into trouble when you think about it.

I agree that parents shouldn't get all the blame, but I do think environment plays a part in it, both when it comes to what your parents tell you, what type of friends you have etc. I do agree that parents should be parents and not really act as your friends. (lol but that extends to more then sex)