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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

She's your wife. You presumably talk about problems and potential problems in your marriage.

This isn't a problem for her?

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I posted a main topic on this board about it.

She just says "its fine" and doesn't want to talk further about it when I bring it up.

Being 'more sexually experienced' doesn't mean her experiences were good. So don't think that just because she has more experience it automatically means she will do more or want more than you do.

How long have you been dating? How long have you been trying to get her to want oral sex?

At 18, you both have a lot to learn about sex and relationships. Some things most people are more okay about from the very beginning like kissing. Some things take time to become comfortable with the thought of doing not to mention the actual act. Time and experience might soften her perception of oral sex. Then again she may be like I am and the sensations are too strong (to the point where the brain interprets 'pleasure' as pain) no matter how careful her partner is.

If this is your first sexual relationship, start learning other lessons like how she likes to be touched with your hands. Learn how she responds to being kissed on other parts of her body such as her neck, back, arms, feet, etc. Find out what her fantasies are by talking with her. Learn her body while she learns yours. Don't rely on what you think you have learned from other places such as porn. There is a lot more to arousing your partner and making love than concentrating on what's between your (and her) legs.

She may be more open to receiving oral sex if you show that you are willing to learn the rest of her body and not press/pressure her to allow something she is uncomfortable with.