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  • Oct 27, 2010, 06:28 PM
    aimee_tt

    First Stop trying to touch his parts.

    Second talk to him about this.

    Thirdly if he says he isn't bi/gay then don't snuggle with him, sit next to him without touching him. If he is hiding his sexuality he may try to get you to snuggle with him, if he isn't then he will enjoy the freedom.
  • Oct 27, 2010, 10:04 PM
    Synnen

    Who's mad at you for being bi?

    *I* am bi. I don't give a hoot about your sexual orientation. I don't give a hoot about your friend's, either.

    I'm falling back on my favorite line here: If you cannot TALK about sex with someone, you shouldn't even CONSIDER sex with that person.

    Therefore, since you're just cuddling and groping this guy (from what you're telling us), and not TALKING to him, then you can want all you want--you shouldn't consider sex with him. PLUS---he gave you boundaries. He doesn't want to do more than cuddle with you, regardless what you think he knows about how you feel or whatever. How does HE feel? Have you asked him? Have you TRUSTED that what he told you was true?

    If you don't like the line he gave you, then stop cuddling with him and look for someone more available. Whether he's gay or bi or the Flying Spaghetti Monster doesn't matter in the least. What DOES matter is that he told you he didn't want you fondling him, and that is the end of it.
  • Oct 28, 2010, 08:18 PM
    kp2171
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Problemchild1 View Post
    ok pple dont get mad @ me for being bi forget bout the question

    What an incorrect assumption.

    You could have said you were straight and you were repeatedly advancing on a girl and id say the same thing.

    Seriously?

    I'm sorry. The guilt trip about judging you because you are bi is both bullsh!t and not effective. I'm happy to judge you because you are you, acting as you are, doing what you are doing. Bi has nothing to do with it.
  • Nov 29, 2010, 06:37 PM
    i_love_iphones
    I'm not quite sure about this one. You should talk to him about it and see what he says. Tell him what you are feeling and that it's confusing you.
  • Dec 2, 2010, 05:22 PM
    jupiter6921
    Regardless if he's gay, bisexual, or straight, he's your friend and enjoys cuddling with you.

    Does this mean something more? Probably. Does that give you permission to push the boundaries by trying to touch him? No.

    This may be his way of experimenting or experiencing closeness with you, but it doesn't mean he wants to have sexual contact with you. I'd fall back. If he wants you, he'll come after you when he's ready. In the meantime, enjoy what he allows now and stop pushing him into a corner that he doesn't want to be in.

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