No two women enjoy or react the same to many things, and you have to not just coach but as mentioned give him exact details of where and what and how, what is good and what is not.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

No two women enjoy or react the same to many things, and you have to not just coach but as mentioned give him exact details of where and what and how, what is good and what is not.

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Yeah... while some of us know what we are doing... but there are those who are orally challenged that need the extra guidance.

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Originally Posted by hollylovesbrandon

I disagree with the previous post. If you moan louder and tell him he's doing a good job but he isn't then what gets accomplished? He's proud of himself but you are still left unsatisfied.

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But if he's proud of himself then he's going to try evenn harder the next time.
You moan louder to let him know he's in the right area even if he's not exactly then you can move a little yourself to make it the right spot.
Even if that doesn't work, if he's feeling better about the whole thing given with some encouragment, then it won't be so bad for you to instruct him next time. He won't feel like he isn't ever doing a good job. It's a big thing on a mans ego to not be able to please his wife.

Get the book "She Comes First".

Read it together.

Have DISCUSSIONS.

I am perfectly fine without receiving oral. I have been for 7 years now. However, the poster is not. So I suggest to the poster to listen to Synnen. Usually gives good advice. And Synnen has suggested the book " She Comes First" many times.