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First, let me say you are NOT being a jerk, insensitive, or clueless. Like you need my props, I know. I'm a little egocentric at times. Gets me through the day.

My experience is that a woman's orgasm can be so completely different from a mans... and different from time to time... I don't even know that I can contain it with words.

I've been with my love for ten years. I can get her off most of the time. But even now... after lots of talking... thinking... trying... there are absolutely times when I don't know what the hell is going on.

Two nights ago I got her off... if you'd have asked me five minutes in would it happen, id probably have bet a months paycheck "no"... she didn't have any of her telltale signs. No arched back. She wasn't feeling her breasts. No shortened breathing. Was looking bad for me.

Then, changed an angle and *poof* there it was.

My point is this... I think its tough for men to understand the woman's orgasm. Ours largely consists of "push/pull/repeat"

What worked for one lover sometimes made the next love smack me upside the head.

I can't directly answer your question, but I can give you this. My wife is similar. She actually prefers oral to orgasm... and then, if given a choice between intercourse or oral (on me), loves intercourse after. She loves giving oral just fine, but something about intercourse "finishes the job"... on some occasions she can hit a smaller orgasm again, but most often its just an intense feeling that seems to be pleasurable to her.

Might seem like a strange question, but do you use protection or not?

The reason I ask is one earlier love absolutely HATED the male orgasm without protection and all the fuss that came with it. Icked her out. She loved sex, and was sexy as sin, but just didn't like that one bit.

My love is completely different. She loves to feel me come inside her. Almost misses it when I wear protection to reduce pregnancy. So mentally, she is turned on by it while the other lover was not.

Maybe that's part of it here. She might not feel another orgasm, but the act of being inside her satiates her... getting you to the Big O pleases her, and perhaps feeling you come inside her also pleases her.

You aren't a jerk at all for wanting to understand what is hard to understand.

Don't know if this post helps you one bit, but id simply assign this to something that you don't feel, won't feel, but are willing to "accept" as an explanation... she can get off with you, and loves to feel you inside her.

That's pretty damn great. Even if the exact sensations aren't point for point matches.

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first, let me say you are NOT being a jerk, insensitive, or clueless. like you need my props, i know. im a little egocentric at times. gets me through the day.

my experience is that a womans orgasm can be so completely different from a mans... and different from time to time... i dont even know that i can contain it with words.

ive been with my love for ten years. i can get her off most of the time. but even now... after lots of talking... thinking... trying... there are absolutely times when i dont know what the hell is going on.

two nights ago i got her off... if youd have asked me five minutes in would it happen, id probably have bet a months paycheck "no"... she didnt have any of her telltale signs. no arched back. she wasnt feeling her breasts. no shortened breathing. was looking bad for me.

then, changed an angle and *poof* there it was.

my point is this... i think its tough for men to understand the womans orgasm. ours largely consists of "push/pull/repeat"

what worked for one lover sometimes made the next love smack me upside the head.

i can't directly answer your question, but i can give you this. my wife is similar. she actually prefers oral to orgasm.... and then, if given a choice between intercourse or oral (on me), loves intercourse after. she loves giving oral just fine, but something about intercourse "finishes the job"... on some occasions she can hit a smaller orgasm again, but most often its just an intense feeling that seems to be pleasurable to her.

might seem like a strange question, but do you use protection or not?

the reason i ask is one earlier love absolutely HATED the male orgasm without protection and all the fuss that came with it. icked her out. she loved sex, and was sexy as sin, but just didnt like that one bit.

my love is completely different. she loves to feel me come inside her. almost misses it when i wear protection to reduce pregnancy. so mentally, she is turned on by it while the other lover was not.

maybe thats part of it here. she might not feel another orgasm, but the act of being inside her satiates her... getting you to the Big O pleases her, and perhaps feeling you come inside her also pleases her.

you arent a jerk at all for wanting to understand what is hard to understand.

dont know if this post helps you one bit, but id simply assign this to something that you dont feel, wont feel, but are willing to "accept" as an explanation... she can get off with you, and loves to feel you inside her.

thats pretty damn great. even if the exact sensations arent point for point matches.

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Thanks KP, I was starting to feel a like a jerk for asking a question. Yes your post does explain some things very well. I really appreciate all you put into your answer.

To answer your question I do not use protection. I had a vasectomy, so no need for protection. And yes it is a total turn on for me to come inside her. She absolutely loves it.

Most of the time when we make love I give her oral till she has an orgasm, than we have intercourse tell she has her finishing felling. Then it is my turn. And when I finish she goes crazy again. By far the best it gets for her is if I can finish while she is having her finishing feeling. That is the ultimate for her.

[/QUOTE]on some occasions she can hit a smaller orgasm again, but most often its just an intense feeling that seems to be pleasurable to her.[/QUOTE]

Just from talking to my wife I would say that is what she is feeling, that is a great explanation. Ya know I never wanted to understand how her orgasm feel, the way it happens or anything like that. Thanks for be ing understanding

Ok, I think a clitoral orgasm is something that is just hers, she cums, it's intense but only hers.


Whereas with intercourse it's a communal thing. So the finishing off thing, I think it's like she gets the intense physical pleasure then the intense emotional pleasure of connecting with someone 'finishes her off'.

Does that make sense? Helpful?

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Ok, I think a clitoral orgasm is something that is just hers, she cums, it's intense but only hers.


Whereas with intercourse it's a communal thing. so the finishing off thing, I think it's like she gets the intense physical pleasure then the intense emotional pleasure of connecting with someone 'finishes her off'.

Does that make sense? Helpful?

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It absolutely makes sense, thanks for the post.

I just hope that "intense emotional pleasure of connecting with someone" I hope that someone is me LOL:)

neverme - I agree.

There's another dimension to intercourse that is pleasurable.

Hell... if we just went with hitting orgasm as the end all be all, I can do that anytime I want. I'm the easiest lay I've ever known. Problem solver? Sure.

Even with oral... it can be different mentally depending on the situation. If my love goes down on me in bed, its often just part of the normal sexual lexicon.

But if she pushes me against the wall in the hall way and takes down my pants... there's another dimension. In both cases, it might be "all about me"... but somehow the second act intensifies her "need" to get me there.

Likewise, if I take her into the basement when friends are over and strip her waist down and pleasure her, somehow that same act is mentally heightened.

My love never, ever gets to orgasm in missionary. She likes how it feels. Enjoys it internally. Likes the sensations externally... eye contact, lips on lips, skin on skin over much of our body... but it isn't the right angle for her and the right stim. Still, it pleases her, especially after she's hit orgasm first in some other position or other means of stim.

Hmmm... whatthehell was I talking about?

Ah, neverme's post... I think the OP'ers wife has found some balance. Oral might be best, or the surest way, to bring her to orgasm consistently, but she still loves the connection tied to intercourse. She's a lot like my wife.

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but if she pushes me against the wall in the hall way and takes down my pants... theres another dimension. in both cases, it might be "all about me"... but somehow the second act intensifies her "need" to get me there.

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likewise, if i take her into the basement when friends are over and strip her waist down and pleasure her, somehow that same act is mentally heightened.

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hmmm... whatthehell was i talking about?

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I don't know... I've completely forgotten, and it was my post!

I think it's nice that you what to know more about her orgasms. My husband will ask me "you like that". I will tell him yes or no. If we are using toys I will move the toy to the spot where it feels better to me. You are not going to know what feels great to her, she needs to tell you. I have done my homework and there are 3 different one that a female can have. The 1st one is , 2nd one is vag, and the last one is the G-spot. The only thing you really can do is ask her to show you where is feels the best.

First I would like to point out that a orgasm is a emotional and psychological pleasure that is caused by prolonged sexual stimulation. Women can have two different types of orgasms, vaginal and clitoral. Orgasms by clitoral stimulation is the most common while vaginal orgasms isn't because believe it or not many women can't climax this way.

Orgasms come in varying degrees of intensity, physical focus and duration. They can be a pleasurable little tingle or a body/mind/soul explosion. Some last for seconds, others minutes or even hours.

Now your question made me what to research the topic to see what some sex experts say and believe it or not some experts think, besides the two I listed, a women can also have an ejaculatory orgasms, whole body orgasms, and energy orgasms.

Energy orgasms clear the body of repressed emotions, old hurts, and blocks. They energize and yet relax the body, and balance the chakras. E R I K V I D A L: "How to Have Energy Orgasms"

Ejaculatory orgasms are when that person climax because some people actually have a non ejaculatory orgasm.

Whole body orgasms are any sexual experience more intense and extensive than words can describe.They are energetic sensations and contractions that can be felt all over the body, especially in the abdomen, inner thighs, hands and feet, and of course the genitals. Some yoga poses can also help in archiving this form of orgasm.

You already know that women can have an orgasm from a variety of things so I am not going touch that subject. Hope this helps along with the other post and in your spare time you can goggle orgasms for women to read yourself because I viewed so many sites it is too many to post. I already knew about the clitoral and vaginal orgasms but didn't know about the others.