I can't orgasm through penetration I have been masturbating since I was maybe 12... and I fake like I have orgasms when I have sex with my boyfriend but he's hinting around that he knows I'm not.. I have not had an orgasm with any of the guys I have had sex with... and I don't know why... my boyfriend now has a 6 in penis, my ex had a 8 1/2 in penis and my other ex had a 6 1/2' in penis and noen of them made me... what is wrong with me? Is clitoral stimulation going to be the only way I orgasm for the rest of my life? Are there any moves that I can try?

First it is not the size, don't they use enough foreplay to allow you to orgasm perhaps before they start regular sex ?

Also what different positions do you use. Do you tell them what positions feel best.

What sex toys do you use before and even during sex

Are you comfortable with guys you have sex with? Sometimes you get the question, "Are you going to orgasm yet?!" and it causes women to freeze up and lose the orgasm they thought they were going to have.

Also, not being aroused enough may have something to do with it.

When you masturbate, do you orgasm? If so, show your partner what you do to achieve that orgasm! You'll get to orgasm with your partner, and they feel good because they helped you get there! It's a win-win!

I think you'll find that it's usually quite difficult for women to orgasm just through vaginal sex - there has to be some stimulation of the clitoris involved, either through pressure via thrusting, or through manual stimulation.

It may mean that you need to change positions so that there is contact with the clitoris, or you may need to replicate your own masturbation techniques - either you, or your BF can do this whilst he's penetrating you. I do it with a vibrator, but you can use fingers, whatever. I can assure you that this type of orgasm feels quite different to just doing it yourself.

Don't keep faking it - it's not good for you or your BF and creates distance instead of the closeness that is one of the wonderful things about sex.

There is heaps of stuff on the internet that you can read, but stop blaming yourself - there is NOTHING wrong with you. You may eventually achieve an orgasm solely with penetration, but then again, you may not. Orgasms are a very individual thing — there is not a correct way to respond. Whatever works, feels good, and makes you feel more alive and connected with your partner is what counts.

Go on top that way you go how deep you want to and maybe be abit naughty and watch a film of other people that you you can maybe get a little bit more excited.

First off, don't fake it. They'll never learn how to please you if they think they already are. Next, are you a surveyor? The way you are popping off measurements, like it was part of the boyfriend selection process. Did you carry a ruler? Just kidding.

Explore new positions, maybe try stimulation(clitoral) during penetration. Let him know, tell him that you're not orgasming like he suspected and go from there. Good luck to you.

How old are you?

Thank you, that question needs to be answered first.

I'm 20 and well he watches me masturbate but when we have sex I do play with myself sometimes but I never achieve orgasms... we do it doggy style, me on top, him on top, me hangin off the bed, every way we can think of we try new positions all the time... I've never been able to orgasm through penetration... help me

Not all women do have orgasms through penetration alone. I certainly don't. Some do, and perhapes ladies who DO can give you advise.


But keep in mind, you may simply not be able to do so. To make it more enjoyable, get a bullet to hold against your clitoris WHILE he is having intercourse with you. This may help you reach a vaginal orgasm.

I think your young age also plays a big factor. You aren't even near your peak yet and there is a lot of learning you need to do, mostly about how you respend and how tomanipulate the situation to get the most out of it. Even then not all women will. Incidentally... almost all the nerve endings are near the vaginal opening... anything beyond 4 or 5" is purely a mental stimulation thing if he has any clue what to do.

And something I almost left out... he has to have a bit more than a clue as well. Very few guys your age group do. When you see young cuties with older guys... its not just about the money. They know how to make women see the stars, literally.

Let me ask you this are the guys you've been dating one minute men cause if they are then that just makes them selfish. And maybe you guys should do some more foreplay so that way he could get you worked up and more into it and don't worry too much about the orgasm let come to you cause if your if your focusing on that your mind isn't were it suppose to be you have to be in to it, not thinking about any thing else besides feeling and kissing each other. Also check out which sign your most compatible with cause I'm a scorpio a sex goddess and I married a Cancer and are sex life is on FIRE.So yea give that a shot.

Ouch... english please.

Sorry, but James Joyce was the last person able to run sentences together correctly and he didn't make any sense. Thanks for using complete words at least.

A bullet... are you serious? Good heavens jennipepsi, I guess it IS America!

A bullet is a little vibrator. :)

Sorry! Thanks for that - whew - I took it literally!

Sorry jennipepsi - I had visions of the wild west - a bullet between your legs and a pistol between your teeth!

They're right. You need to know to teach your partner how to "pleasure" you so you can have orgasm. Maybe more foreplay or maybe mimic a rape scene or something... anything that will get you excited.

I've found that being on top helps with clitoral stimulation. So you can have your cake and eat it too!

Hey Roshell, You seem be worried more than you should be. My wife of 11 years is pretty much the same. She just can't have an orgasm through penetration alone... but she enjoys a clitorial orgasm just as much. It took us a while to find mutually enjoable acts and positions and we have. In such cases foreplay is important and fortunately. You need to find your way... and it is important that your boyfriend understands and is keen to indulge you.