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    Jun 9, 2007, 09:03 AM
    Hymen rupture
    I am an 18 year old girl. Virgin (never had sex and never inserted anything in my vagina), I don't use tampons and I don't exercise. In my culture, women have to bleed on their wedding nights (it's a life or death thing!).
    My problem is that I'm obsessed with my hymen. I keep checking it all the time, I heard that to break it there must be some sort of blunt force.
    I want to ask if it can be broken just by checking it using a mirror and spreading my labia. Can this "spreading" break it?
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    Jun 9, 2007, 09:39 AM
    You can't see your hymen just by spreading your labia and looking with a mirror, let alone rupture it.
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    Jun 9, 2007, 10:46 AM
    I was raped at a very young age and my hymen didn't rupture until I had sex several years later. It can take quite a bit of force to actually break your hymen. Stop obsessing over it. It's still there!
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    Jun 9, 2007, 10:49 AM
    You should do some research and get some real facts for your own information. I can understand that this is not something you speak to your Mother about.

    Hymen Rupture - Hymen breaking on First Night
    The Hymen - Not The Indicator of Virginity

    Also, don't get so obsessed with this. Continuously checking with a mirror is not going to change anything.
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    Jun 9, 2007, 11:00 AM
    And to be honest if it is a "life and death" thing you need to move when you are old enough, women should not be so dominated by men in a unequal relastionships such as these.
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    Jun 9, 2007, 11:38 AM
    Hi, I am very sorry that you have to spend your time worrying about this, but I understand , why you would, even though you have done nothing wrong. I just hope if you get married and have a little girl that you make sure that your daughter can talk with you about such matters. Here is a website that you can look at that maybe provide you some peace of mind. www.youngwomenshealth.org.hymen.html Good luck and please do not worry so much, you are just fine.
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    Jun 9, 2007, 02:33 PM
    This is definitely something you need to talk to your mom about, my dear, or a counseller or a good friend, just to get it out in the open and off your chest. If you can't talk to your mom, you need to talk to a doctor who can educate you about female anatomy and sexuality.
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