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    Apr 27, 2012, 12:44 PM
    My boyfriend is sending nude pictures through craigslist
    My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years. We moved to a new city about 7 months ago and live together. He had been unemployed after finishing grad school and was depressed (I didn't realize at the time how depressed he was, but it seems clear now that he should've been seeing someone). In February something didn't seem right one night and I checked his email, which I've never done before. Turns out he had been sending nude photos of himself to women. He explained it was a way to make himself feel good about himself, but he's never slept with anyone or met with anyone. Since then he got a job, we have been going to couple's counseling and things were getting a lot better. But then I just found out that he contacted another woman after we got into a big fight. I know I need to breakup with him, but I'm still in love with him... I'm embarrassed to talk about this with my friends. What do you think?
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    Apr 27, 2012, 01:19 PM
    I think he needs more counselling - joint and single. It seems rather obvious that he sends nude photos in order to feel better about himself (which he acknowledges). He needs to find another way to stoke his ego, obviously.

    I would be concerned, very concerned.

    And, yes, I think you need to break up with him.

    I also think someone should tell him that what is emailed, texted, posted, never dies and this could impact his entire life, as well as yours.
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    Apr 30, 2012, 03:09 AM
    I think if you know you need to break up with him, do it! It does no good to prolong the inevitable. You will become more angry and hurt.
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    Apr 30, 2012, 04:42 PM
    I am very concerned, but it's hard to give up after so much time and planning a future together. My hope is he gets help from counseling to solve these issues... I know I probably seem stupid, but I'm having a hard time finding the will to give up hope and end it, especially since he is now seeing a counselor individually (along with the couple's counselor) and I am still in love with him... Do you think people change, or am I being naive??


    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    I think he needs more counselling - joint and single. It seems rather obvious that he sends nude photos in order to feel better about himself (which he acknowledges). He needs to find another way to stoke his ego, obviously.

    I would be concerned, very concerned.

    And, yes, I think you need to break up with him.

    I also think someone should tell him that what is emailed, texted, posted, never dies and this could impact his entire life, as well as yours.
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    May 1, 2012, 04:49 AM
    Some people change. Some people don't. It's hard to know the difference.

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