I have been with him for 2 and a half years. I have always been very independent, I looooove time alone. I love to be home by myself to think and just hang out with the cat. He, on the other hand, is very clingy. He wants to be with me allll the time. He wants to snuggle alll the time. He's constantly wanting a kiss, or a hug, or a snuggle. I can't stand it! (yes, the roles are a bit reversed between us). Also, I only see him on the weekends. Which is why it's been able to last for so long, (in my opinion). So every time I tell him that I want my space, he goes on to say, "you've had your space ALL week!" (I live with my mum during the week while I work and go to college, and I go see my boyfriend and my cat on weekends).

Anyway. I love him and all, but I don't know what to do. It's getting pretty bad. We just bought a house and all I do is cook and clean and do laundry. By the end of the day, I just want to go to bed, (by myself), and SLEEP!

What to do?

This is the issue, after two years he is looking most likely for more. Which is normal and to be expected. What is gong to happen at the point he wants to live with you full time, which is where this and other relationships go.

What he is wanting after being apart all week is basically normal honestly. Are you really ready for a long term relationship.

It sounds like you are his maid and booty call on the weekends. Get him involved in the cooking, cleaning, and laundry. If he objects, tell him many of the world's chefs are male. He can also shove the vacuum around and empty wastebaskets and even wipe up the bathroom. He can fold clean clothes and towels and put them away (neatly).

Does he keep house fairly well all week, and you are just putting your signature on the household? Or is he a slob, and you show up on weekends to shovel out the place?

Get your cat and go home, and get a boyfriend who is cool with being a weekend thing. After two years that weekend thing gets really OLD!

It seems like you want to be alone, then do so. Either you setup an arrangement where you are alone and see him sparsingly, or you just break up with him. Remember that if he doesn't get that attention he will also be miserable, I would recommend finding someone that has their own life as you do.

How much longer do you plan to keep up two homes? How long is your weekend with him? Do you spend from From Friday night until Monday morning with him or is your time with shorter (say getting there Saturday and going back to your mother's Sunday night?)

Does he do anything to the house while you are at your mother's? What has your arrangement for chores been?

I am going to be blunt. Are you using him to get some distance from your mother and her house? When you go 'home', is it to spend time with him or to get away from your other 'home'?

If he did more during the week, would you be less stressed and tired or would you be redoing everything the way you want it done? Can you find a compromise where he gives you some de-stressing time and then you spend time together? How much of a social life does he have during the week? Perhaps, he could see friends and give you some 'alone' time.

Have you looked at the situation from his point of view? He hasn't seen you all week. He wants to spend time with the woman he loves and who he has bought a house with. The woman whose cat he see more than her. If you were the one living by yourself and he flew in for a visit on the weekends, how would you feel when he wants to spend time with his cat instead of you?