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    SimplyMe5426 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 3, 2011, 08:48 PM
    Will he ever trust me again? Or should I move on?
    I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. Pretty much he has always always had bad jealousy issues and trust issues even though I had never done anything wrong, and he was never in a relationship before me- so it's kind of weird that he already had trust issues.
    I finally got fed up of not having any of my friends and hanging out with them so I started hanging out with friends without telling him. I hung out with a few different guys ( just friends) without telling him.
    I realized I was way unhappy because my boyfriend was jealous, doesn't trust me, anger issues, and is not positive at all. We ended up splitting when he found out I was hanging with other friends.
    I ended up thinking I liked this one guy because he was just so positive! But I realize I missed my ex sooo much.
    He says we can be together but will he ever trust me? All he does is put me through guilt trips every single day. As if it's a revenge game, He Never believes where I am and constantly reminds me of what I have done. Even though he says he is "joking" I know he isn't. What should I do?
    I can't go every day fighting with him over the same ****. And it's been a month.
    I deleted all the guys I talk too and even deleted my Facebook. He said he would delete his Facebook, but hasn't . He also says I can't hangout with any girlfriends of mine or guy friends. I can't do anything. But he can go party with who ever he feels like.
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    Jul 3, 2011, 10:52 PM

    Well really the question you should ask yourself is, do you see yourself feeling like this in another 3 years time?

    For whatever his reasons are, it maybe underlying issues within his family, not necessarily from another girl, it's no way for him to treat you the way he does.

    You're inevitably stoking fires where there doesn't need to be any. Either try and sit with him and discuss the reasons he doesn't trust you, gets angry etc.. or leave and move on to a positive more fulfilling relationship.
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    Jul 4, 2011, 10:38 AM

    When you get enough of this no trust crap you will leave, or one day you will wake up and tell him to screw himself, and do as you please. I doubt he ever changes, so accept it, or leave.
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    Jul 4, 2011, 08:16 PM
    Trust is the basis for all relationships.

    Jealousy is the ugliest of feelings for me. Serves no purpose. Poison, really.

    If he can't trust you, or has issues with that. Its time to talk & resolve it.

    Find out if he is willing to continue and how much effort you both are willing to put in to make it right

    Doesn't sound that you have really got to the bottom of it all.

    Regardless, you don't want to spend another 3 years hiding. Having to answer to a jealous mate

    "he was never in a relationship before me"

    Im sure that's a start.

    "I ended up thinking I liked this one guy because he was just so positive! but I realize I missed my ex sooo much"

    You also have to figure out what it is you want in a person & relationship.

    Not everyone is meant to be together, even after 3 years.

    Sounds like hell to me, maybe Im not hearing the whole story. Why he doesn't trust you?



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