I know the first thing everyone may think is "get over it". This question is probably so redundant, but I would like to present you with my point of view.

I never really had a problem with my boyfriend watching porn and sometimes we would watch it together, out of my suggestion. We have been dating for two years now, and the longer the time I'm with him the more attached I feel towards him. I'm not a needy person and would never expect him to pick me over his friends. This one time when we were at school studying, he kept checking out this girl (I mean with his eyes glued). It really really annoyed me because we were there to study. I never said anything about it, but it was obvious I was moody. His excuse was that he thought he knew her, which was totally BS. I think that was when I started becoming insecure about myself. I was joking one time over something stupid, and he said he was never going watch porn again and he was going to delete his whole porn stash and he even showed it to me. Obviously in a girls perfect world that's what they would like to believe. A couple months later, I found the same stash on his computer, I didn't say anything and asked him casually if he still watches it and if he deleted it all completely last time and has nothing left. I was so choked but kept persistently asking him, and told him I was going to check his computer if he's that sure (sounds kind of psychotic but I swear it didn't come off that way lol). After I said that he admitted to it however he said he has "some". It is so obvious that he just saved all the files and just deleted the copied ones. It's so stupid! Why would he suggest to delete it all in the first place and then lie to me about it? And it hurts to know that I had to ask him THAT many times for him to admit to it esp because he felt threatened. He also said that he admitted to it willingly, that I probably would have never found it. HAH. Little does he know.
After that we got into a big argument. I AM mad at the fact that he lied to me, but he still doesn't know that I found it on his computer. He said the only reason why he kept it was cause it took along time to download it (but why would it even matter when he said he wasn't going to watch it anymore?) Then he deleted everything after.. I know cause I checked. (This is so bad, can't help but be tempted sometimes:S)
It's just so dumb for me to give so much. I'm so naïve. I never lie to him and I really expect the same from him.
He did his apologies, and he seemed so sincere.. so I forgave him.
However, a week ago I found newly downloaded items on his hidden folders. The girls were really naturally pretty and natural in general. This makes me feel so insecure and ugly. I talked to him about it and he said that he only watched it once and felt bad for it. Which was totally BS cause I saw the multiple files and the date they were created (a couple of them were created a week right after we fought the first time and he prob thought that I viewed his history instead) I'm really mad this time I haven't talked to him for a week now. He says the same things with the same apologies that sounds so sincere. But it's really hard for me to trust him cause he sounded just as sincere the first time. I know insecurities is something that I should be solving myself, but is it really that hard to ask for, for him not to watch it? He knows how I feel towards it and about him, I feel like he should be respecting me and just give up his lame porn. I feel so disgusted with myself with so much regret with what I have given him. And please don't say that porn is a natural thing for men cause it isn't. I hate to imagine my boyfriend whacking off to another naked chick, its so disturbing. I don't want him to lay hands on me again. What should I do?

You should break up. Your snooping is no better than his lying. Your relationship is doomed.

Some couples last much, much longer by being allowed to stare at, dream about, even talk about how gorgeous and sexy others are, as long as it means that all the rest of what makes love is still there. It can add to the long lost excitement. If you have ground rules about what the limits are and how you will leave the instant he goes over the line, it can work. (I said you are doomed just to see how it would make you feel.)

Yes, this relationship is doomed, ( agreed) first you snooping and finding hidden folders, shows no trust and very worried about self worth.

Next he should be man enough to admit what he looks at and not "hide" it,

But he is with you, if he did not want to be , he would not, men like to "look" it does not mean anything

Im going to go and disagree with the first too. I went through this situation with my ex girlfriend. This is not what broke us up but it was a big issue for a while.

Like any drug, or alcohol, or smoking. Porn is an addiction, and one that can get out of control and unhealthy if not kept in check. I understand you want him to stop watching it, same as my ex asked me. Believe me I wanted to, I told her I would stop and then id find myself looking at it again. I finally realized I could not do it on my own, admitted this to her and asked for her help. Which actually helped and worked.

She understood that I didn't watch it to find something better than her, she was literally my whole world, and that its just something that is viewed and brings excitement. What helped me and made her feel better was she made videos for me. This didn't initially take away the temptation to watch porn, but over time it did.

Basically I'm not saying you have to use that solution. But you do need to communicate with him. Simply getting mad and thinking he is a disgusting pig is not going to help. If he cares about you and wants to quit watching it like I did, then he should accept your support and the two of you can come up with a solution to breaking him of his addiction all together.
Hope this helps your situation.

First of all you need to be realistic to know that most people masturbate--period. As to your boyfriend do this while watching porn or in your words "another woman", isn't really much different then doing samething and thinking about a fantasy woman. If you really believe that he is ALWAYS thinking of you while masturbating, you would be wrong.

As a personel choice I don't approve of porn, so don't want to know that my man would have to watch this to get off. However, I am very secure in myself as a woman and don't feel it as a competition, and because of that don't feel I need to check his personnel computer.

When we get to point in a relationship that a person has proven to be un-trustworthy enough that we feel its okay to invade their personnel information its time to take a step back and realize it maybe time to move on with our lives without this person!!

You are NOT married to this person, he has proven his will lie. Due to this you have proven you will invade his personnel information. Why not move on find a man who doesn't feel he has to watch porn. For whatever reason you just don't feel comfortable with that, and you don't have too!! YOU HAVE A CHOICE not to have to deal with this situation. Take care

My ex and I had a deal, that it was okay for me to watch porn, she just didn't want to know about it!

My ex wasent as crazy as I was about sex, so instead of pressuring her I just helped myself. Nothing wrong with that. You shouldn't snoop around. And he shouldn't lie, but if your are getting upset about it. Make him an ultimatum or realise your being unfair towards him!

When a couple cannot resolve their issues through honest communications to the benefit of them both, they seldom last very long. Snooping for porn is a waste of time, as was lying about it, instead of addressing the problem.

You both screwed it up, so take a breath, and start talking honestly. Make rules, and boundaries you both can agree on, and if you can't, then find someone you can. He lied because he wanted you off his back about it, you don't trust him so you snooped, and now a small thing is a big thing.

If you can't get over how you feel, or understand how he feels, that sure makes compromise really hard, or even talking about it for that matter. Neither of you is right or wrong but the way you go about it is lousy. That can be fixed with honest communications, and time, but if your not talking what's the point??

So well said, you could package and sell it!

I can honestly say, its not a big deal.

I went through a point in time where I was constantly insecure about weather or not he was watching porn. The bottom line is YES he is. Every man is. Your dad is, your mom (maybe) is, your brother... Anyway, do your best to be as sexy as you can be, learn new tricks, be playful and fun. Instead of telling him what he cannot do, remind him of how much of a catch you are. All you are doing by getting mad is making porn more taboo and making him more resentful toward you. Here is how I think of it... Megan Fox's husband watches porn. Just because she is absolutely gorgeous and I am sure very good in bed, doesn't mean he doesn't wonder about other women. Men have a need to watch other people have sex. Up your game, and remember, you probably encountered someone today who is touching themselves thinking about you. Try watching some yourself... not necessarily "man porn" but maybe some hot solo guy action? Just a thought. Good Luck!

It obvious that your relationship isn't going anywhere from here. However I believe that you are quite largely at fault. Porn is second nature for guys. I get that you get really insecure, but just think about it this way, would you rather prefer him to be cheating and banging some random girl when he is supposedly "working late"? It is only in an ideal relationship where your boyfriend will be a completely devoted partner, they all have flaws, and you can't just expect them to change all their habits.
Okay now about your self-esteem issues. Although I haven't seen you, I can honestly say that you are beautiful, all mankind is. I understand that maybe you don't feel sexy enough when you see all those porn stars (they are all fake, even if it ain't that obvious. Plus who knows the reason why they are actually porn stars, not many self-respecting women would be.), but girl you have understand that you have the power within you to be the person you want to be. Take up some pole dancing classes or some salsa classes so that you can unleash the female diva within. But seriously you have gone to far with your guy... I think you need a fresh start as you will never be able to trust him!