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    Jan 18, 2007, 10:54 PM
    Boyfriend doesn't want sex
    Hi,
    I am 22 and boyfriend 25, he loves porn(although he doesn't know that I have discovered his stash). He looksat it online everyday, yet we have 0 sex life. I want it and try not to pressure him... but here I am feeling extremely rejected/lonely and hurt. Before me he use to sleep around a lot... or so I have heard and he loves porn... why am I not good enough?
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    Jan 19, 2007, 06:27 AM
    You need to shake him from his comfort zone, This is his problem not yours. Put him and his stash on the porsh, and get a real man who can be compatible.
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    Jan 21, 2007, 02:09 PM
    So many men are addicted to porn nowadays- they all say 'everybody
    Does it' i.e. it's normal and go on with it.It's hurting you- well, tuff $hit
    According to them. They promisse not to do it anymore, and still
    Can't keep promisse, and hurt you, and make you cry, and go to
    Helping sites as though it's your problem, and it's something
    Wrong with you.

    And it's not- you're a young healthy femail 22 in your case, 25 in
    Mine, and you've invested emotions in that relationship

    Speak to him- see what he's reaction will be- if he doesn't seem
    Bothered then he's just not that into you.

    So many guys are cowards- is it so difficult- 'I'm not that into you
    Any more' there you go, so many weeks of agony, and wander-
    Does he love me or not? Can be avoided
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    Jan 21, 2007, 02:28 PM
    Why are you with somebody that has a repetition of sleeping around. Obvously he is not pleasing you so, that would me he is probably out pleasing himself or is to into porn that it has become such an addiction that it has taken over his life. Porn is an addiciton and many people have struggled with it. Confront him about it and if he does not take steps to improve for example addiction therapy and/or counseling. Then it would be up to you to actually take steps to move on.

    Joe
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    Jan 22, 2007, 12:32 PM
    How about just watching the porn with him see what really gets him turned on and try making is porn fantasy come true in the bad room.

    If that doesn't help then pardon me but it.
    Go and find a man who is willing to make you happy as much as you want to make them happy.
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    Jan 22, 2007, 04:19 PM
    No about your boyfriend probably got a 2 inch and scared you would laugh
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    Jan 22, 2007, 04:41 PM
    Yeah I think u need a better man maybe even couples councling
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    Nov 12, 2009, 10:15 AM

    Leapords don't change their spots
    He is addicted to porn and you can't change that but god can so let god have him -you don't need him
    You are young, wait for someone that make you a better person not one that drags you down
    Find someone who celebrates your strength and encourges you succeed and actually loves you

    Remember it is not you!
    It is HIS problem and you don't know where it comes from or how deep it is rooted and if he is hiding it from you then he is a hider and that is the way he lives and you need someone who trust you enough to be vulnerable and open and honest
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    Nov 12, 2009, 10:55 AM

    Another nearly 3 year old thread.

    Closed.
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