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looking4others · Nov 15, 2010, 04:02 PM

Anyone else dealing with social issues surrounding non-paternity? I found out at 26 that my dad was not my biolgical father. Anyone else?

tickle · Nov 15, 2010, 04:43 PM

Deal with it and move on does it make you any less than the person you are? What do you mean when you say 'social issues from non-paternity'.
Does that make your dad any less ? Tell me what he hasn't given you. Or am I missing your point here.

No, I am not a person who didn't have a non biological father, but I know a lot of people in your shoes.

Tick

Stratmando · Nov 15, 2010, 04:47 PM

Many people, and many Never find out, It's not easy raising kids, for what ever reason your Father wasn't there, Your Dad was, I don't think it was his place to tell you, more likely your moms, Probably never knew how to tell you, and may not have helped with you knowing, anything change?

looking4others · Nov 15, 2010, 05:05 PM

A lot changed. It helped understand some differences I instinctively felt growing up. I lucked out having two great guys as dads and I know it was tough for my mom to deal with. Wish more had been done in terms of offering support I guess?

tickle · Nov 15, 2010, 05:48 PM

I applaud your comments and get the impression that you have a mature outlook on the situation. Yes, it must have been difficult for your mom but she obviously brought you through it. You appreciate your mom, I can see that. All the best.

Ms tickle

MaryIL · Dec 28, 2010, 03:06 AM

I heard they once tested people randomly, and found a really high percentage of kids have different parentage than the dad, and no one but the mother is aware of it.

cdad · Dec 28, 2010, 02:15 PM

Originally Posted by MaryIL

I heard they once tested people randomly, and found a really high percentage of kids have different parentage than the dad, and no one but the mother is aware of it.

When you make a blanket statement like this can you show any reference to back it up?

MaryIL · Dec 28, 2010, 11:34 PM

I said I just heard it, that implies I hadn't researched it. Feel free to Google, this is what I pulled up.
http://menshealth.about.com/od/lifestyle/a/paternity.htm
http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2005/aug/11/childrensservices.uknews

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J_9 · Dec 28, 2010, 11:40 PM

Originally Posted by MaryIL

I heard they once tested people randomly,

This is ridiculous. DNA testing is expensive. They wouldn't just do it on a whim.

Do you believe EVERYTHING you read on the internet?

cdad · Dec 29, 2010, 01:51 PM

Originally Posted by MaryIL

I heard they once tested people randomly, and found a really high percentage of kids have different parentage than the dad, and no one but the mother is aware of it.

Both of the sites you posted claim only 4% or 1 in 25. That's not very high at all. Another thing from a legal standpoint. The father of the child is presumed to be the husband in a marriage regardless of biology. So I don't find any of it surprising. Nor would I say it's a high percentage.

When making blanket statements on this site we strive for accuracy. That's why I had asked for you to prove up. So people later reading this thread aren't deceived.