We have been dating for 1 month and he says he loves me and that its up to me if we do or not but I'm still not sure :/

How old are you ?

I would suggest, don't. If you have doubts, that is not a good sign. I am not sure how old you are, but don't rush into anything and 1 month isn't long. Sometimes guys will tell you that "it is your decision and they are okay either way"... sometimes they are sometimes they aren't (they are just testing you). So, don't. You don't want to and then find out that your "gut" instinct was correct and he was just using you.

NO ONE should engage in sexual intercourse until they are financially, emotionally and physically ready to have a child.

A boyfriend of 1 month who is pressuring you for sex is more than likely just trying to use you. Sex is not recreation. Its an intimacy to be shared only by two people who have been and intend to be in a long term committed relationship.

Since you posted this in the Teen forum, I would suspect you may be underage. This also brings a legal aspect to this as you may be what is termed "jail bait". Having sex with you could land the boyfriend in jail.

You aren't sure?

Are you ready to be a mother? Most likely a single mother?

You are scared he is using you, and you are unsure of whether he is using you for sex. After professing his love for you, do you see that all these concerns all add up to- run for cover?

After one month, nobody is in love. In lust, yes. Infactuated? Yes. But love? No. That is not something you know after one month of dating. Saying directly to another person that you 'love' them, is as meaningless and untrue as a three dollar bill

You are scared he is using you, and you have a good reason to be scared. Instinct is telling you that he is saying and doing all the right things, in order for you to feel comfortable enough that you will give in and have sex with him. The next thing, if you continue to resist, is he will start dropping hints that he needs more in a 'relationship', and/or he is no longer sure he wants to be with you. Also pressure on you, and an indicator this guy is bad news.

Follow your instinct here, and set your standards a little higher. Don't allow yourself to be used because someone is playing you,obviously, for their own needs. Judge the relationship on actions, not meaningless words, and allow enough time to pass so you can judge whether they are using you. If you don't give in, and he takes a hike, you will at least retain your dignity and know that you would have made a mistake, had you given in.And do you really, seriously want to risk getting pregnant with essentially a total stranger? Can you see yourself stuck with this guy for the next 20 years if you get pregnant?

If he has already got you to the point, after a month, of thinking that he loves you, and he's working that angle to get what he really wants, that in itself is proof that you should run, not walk away, from this guy. Find a boyfriend who is essentially, the total opposite of what his guy is.

If he really loves you, then he'll be glad to wait.

Stick around. Read all the posts from young girls who are terrified at the possibility of being pregnant, and still in school.

There is plenty of time for doing adult things when you get to a more stable stage in your life. Why rush it? You are reluctant for a reason. Because it's simply not the right time.

Now, go get the best education available to you.

Good luck.

I'm confused here. Doesn't anyone realize that sex = babies? What are they teaching in school these days?

You know, the OP and the boyfriend have only been dating a month... this is in the TEENS category.

You don't fall in love in a MONTH. Boys use the "love" excuse all the time to get a girl in the sack. Once they do, they are gone and so is the girl's reputation. Then a month later she finds out she is pregnant. Will he stand by her? No, of course not, he already got what he wanted.

14

Well that's simple, DON'T as it would be ILLEGAL!!

He's really nice, sweet and caring but I've been his friend for awhile and I know he falls for other girls while in a relationship.
I really don't want to lose him :( please help me what should I do??

I'm 14 and he's 15 and he's had like 10 gfs this year :/

All you can really do is be yourself and show that you care for him. If he doesn't seem to be able to control himself you might want to look for someone who is a little more mature. Also, you might want to look for someone who wants the same things you do, which is essentially having a relationship, because this guy (as you have mentioned) doesn't seem to have any interest in having a serious relationship. Don't be yourself up over this, and be conservative as you walk with him in what can be expected to be an extremely short journey.

Good Luck,

Javi

Ha. Don't care

Your "boyfriend" is a player and clearly has only one thing in mind, but as this is clearly futile and the OP refuses to listen, so