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    Jul 21, 2009, 02:18 PM
    Ex & NC: Really, REALLY Proud of Myself!
    Okay so my ex broke up with me a little more than 4 months ago, and I blocked him FB, MSN messenger, and everything else I could think of. However, I forgot to block him from Yahoo messenger, because I never use it. Well, I was reading a site, and suddenly this bubble pops up with him talking to me! :O

    He asked how I was, and I said, "Fine." I kept using short little answers, and he asked me why, and I went on to say that I don't have to tell him about my life if I don't want to. AND THEN! *drum roll please* I went on to say THIS!:



    "Honestly, ___l, I have nothing to say to you. Remember how you said you could date me 10 years and not marry me? Well, I could know you for 10 years and still not want to be your friend. I'm completely over you, I don't want to be friends, and I don't want to know what's going on in your life, nor do I care. I actually want to thank you, because breaking up with me was the greatest thing you could have done for me.
    So with that, I say thank you, and have a good life.
    Goodbye, __."


    I then deleted him and blocked him! I FEEL SO EMPOWERED AND PROUD! At first, I didn't think I could bring myself to say it, but I did! I DID! AHHAHAHAHHAA!

    I know I'm definitely going to be okay, and that I'm healing up quite nicely, even though we had such a hard break up! THANK YOU TO EVERYONE HERE AT AMHD THAT HELPED ME THROUGH IT! :D

    I'M FREE!!
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    Jul 21, 2009, 02:23 PM
    That is wonderful and amazing.

    You were incredibly strong when you needed to be.
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    Jul 21, 2009, 02:29 PM

    Thank you so much!

    I always thought it would be years before I would be able to say that to him!

    When I first saw the bubble, I got this weird feeling; you know that feeling of false hope? I had the feeling that if I tried to be close as friends again, I would end up where I was before, and I didn't want that. That was such a sad state.

    I may have been a little mean, but I had to look out for my heart, the same one he carelessly threw away!
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    Jul 21, 2009, 02:33 PM

    Good job! Very proud of you
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    Jul 21, 2009, 02:40 PM

    Thank you!
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    Jul 21, 2009, 03:09 PM

    Feels good waving that middle finger don't it? They always say not to do that sort of thing but, meh.
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    Jul 21, 2009, 03:11 PM
    Good for you! Hopefully others will learn from your example.
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    Jul 21, 2009, 03:37 PM
    Awesome! :D
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    Jul 21, 2009, 05:17 PM
    Torrid! :D
    Torrid! :D
    Torrid! :D
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    Jul 21, 2009, 05:59 PM

    Thank you so much guys! My little brother told me he was going to bake me a huge chocolate cookie, my mom and dad hugged me and gave me high fives (I'm also getting a car soon, so that can count towards it, too!), and my friends are sending me texts/emails of congratulations!

    I never thought in a million years I would be able to say that to him... it's truly amazing! I got to say the words that I had wanted to for so long... especially about the 10 years thing... that had bothered me so much, but I got the opportunity to to avenge myself! BUWAHAHA!

    I'm so happy!
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    Jul 21, 2009, 09:17 PM
    Good job,just don't relapse,because you got a small taste of your ex again.

    When you feel like you want to write him/her

    Just remember how bad they must be feeling now,reaching out and getting this.

    Then go on with your day.
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    Jul 21, 2009, 09:31 PM

    Lucky for me, that small taste of my ex made me angry and fraught with rage.

    But I said what I had wanted to say for a long time, so now I don't feel so angry. I feel like I got it off my chest.

    In all honesty... I hope he feels bad. That's probably not very nice, but him breaking my heart and throwing me away like I was nothing wasn't very nice.

    He should feel bad. I loved him with everything I had. Not to be conceited, but even his parents said I was the best thing that ever happened to him. Oh well. I'm gone now, I'm having fun getting to know someone else, and a new life is being built up for me. He should feel bad he lost such a lover and the best friend he ever had.
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    Jul 21, 2009, 10:01 PM
    Good for you Torrid , proud of you :)


    Quote Originally Posted by Torrid13 View Post
    My little brother told me he was going to bake me a huge chocolate cookie,!
    Well here's a few chocolate cookies , you deserve 'em ;)

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    Jul 21, 2009, 10:09 PM

    *nibbles on cookies*

    OM NOM NOM. You guys sure do know how to treat an NC-er well! :)<3

    Thank you for your support!
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    Jul 21, 2009, 11:17 PM

    Breakups.

    It's an ancient Greek word that means freedom.


    Sarah
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    #16

    Jul 21, 2009, 11:20 PM

    I like the sound of that.


    CUE INSPIRATIONAL MUSIC!
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