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    supereira Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 18, 2009, 09:03 AM
    Will my husband ever come back after our divorce
    Is it likely for my husband to come back after we get divorced?
    We have been together since I was 17 and he was 19. He is now 36 and I am 34.
    He left home last year because he was cheating on me with this divorced woman (she is 32) who also has a 8 year-old-child. We have two children a 8-year-old boy and a 6-year-old girl.
    He says he did not go away because of the woman but because of himself. He thinks he is getting old.
    Sometimes, when he comes here we kiss and make love... but he does not say he loves me...
    Why does he not come back... why does he tell me he doesn't know his future and therefore he doesn't know if he can come back??
    I feel so uncomfortable, lost... I feel like I am not beautiful anymore and that I am getting old too.
    Is there any chance he will ever come back? Or is he just fooling around??
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    shazamataz Posts: 6,642, Reputation: 1244
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    Apr 18, 2009, 09:46 AM

    You are asking in the biology section if you can get pregnant from sperm poured out of a condom into your vagina.

    Tricking him into coming back by getting pregnant is not your answer
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    Apr 18, 2009, 11:36 AM

    Shame on you that gives women a bad name
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    Apr 18, 2009, 11:49 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by nitelight198073 View Post
    shame on you that gives women a bad name
    You are right!!
    It's just that I am so desperate... he keeps on coming and going out of my life... we have 2 kids... but he is too selfish... he only thinks about himself!!
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    Apr 18, 2009, 11:51 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by shazamataz View Post
    You are asking in the biology section if you can get pregnant from sperm poured out of a condom into your vagina.

    Tricking him into coming back by getting pregnant is not your answer
    You are right!! But why is he always making a mess out of my life... he says he loves me but he just doesn't want to come back because he is far too much selfish... we have 2 children... and I am just so so desperate!
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    Apr 18, 2009, 12:05 PM

    If he is making a mess of your life start by cutting out the sex and the intimacy with him and only allow him to see your children, not you.
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    Apr 18, 2009, 12:18 PM
    It's over.

    He is with someone else now, but likes to keep you hanging for old times sake. To fall for this, and even think of manipulating sex to bring a baby into the world for all the wrong reasons, is very selfish and immature.

    If the two children he has with you now are not enough for him to keep his pants on, what makes you think a surprise baby will.

    That you are so desperate to want an unfaithful man back, who, by the way, is also cheating on his new girlfriend, makes me think that you need some counselling to see how out of whack this is.

    Not to mention the effects on your children with daddy being daddy when he feels like it, and absent and a daddy to another woman's children when he feels like it. How is this good for any of the children and women involved with him.

    Please seek help in getting your emotional footing back on track here, and face reality.

    Your future, and your children's future depend on you getting yourself together, and making legal arrangements to protect yourself.

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