I am Catholic and my boyfriend is Hindu. When it comes to the Catholic church there are a lot of rules about marriage. A rule says that you can marry someone outside your religion if they sign a paper agreeing to raising the kids catholic. Is there a way around this rule? Is there a way to marry through a christian church and it be the same thing? What I want is to marry in a church in front of the eyes of God while raising my kids with both religions and let them pick once they are older. What can I do?

I married a Catholic, and not only had to sign the paper agreeing to raise my children as Catholics, but I had to take instruction classes!

I would contact churches and church organizations in your area, and tell them that you wish a christian wedding, without regard to being Catholic, or Hindu.

There are ministers who will marry people of mixed faith.

But, I highly doubt that there is any way around the Catholic rules for marriage.

Actually, ask your church and priest. And if you do not like that answer, ask another priest somewhere else. While the answers are supposed to be the same and the rules straight forward, each priest sometimes has a different interpretation.

For example, Godparents. Some priest want a man and a woman to be god parents. Luckily my priest okayed my two sisters to godparent my son. Try... you never know.

Keep in mind as well, you don't have to marry in a church to have it be in the eyes of God. There are many Christian churches that you could look into... or even Christian ministers, pastors, or priests who will perform the ceremony outside of an actual church building.

They are loosening rules somewhat, but to be honest, I have issues since the difference in faith, you can't be really that strong of Catholic, or raising your children catholic would be very important to you. I am sorry to be rude, as a Catholic ( christian) you would know and feel that your soon to be husband was not saved and would not go to heaven, so you would not be with him in eternity.

And down the road he would not be going to church with you, assumign you go regularly and not having group famly events around your faith.

And what explains to the chidren, when mommies church says that daddy is doomed to hell, sort of hard to explain to a 8 year old.

But there are groups such as my group and other independent catholics that will marry people of mixed marriage. ** I don't like to but do it since it comes with the collar.

Since your issue is that of bringing up kids you have to consider two things:
1. Do you intend to bring up the kids in two faiths, or are you expecting your husband to do it for the Hindu faith? It is really he who has to sign the agreement since the church assumes that you will bring up your kids catholic.

2. The "paper" only asks you to sign that "as of this time" you intend to bring up the kids catholic. Your husband has the freedom to change his mind in the future. The church assumes that you and your husband mean it when you sign the paper.

We have a similar marriage and I (husband) bring up our kids in the faith. My wife is supportive and does not impose hinduism on the kids. Other than the occasional puja at home (once a year or so) with her Mom, there are no other vestiges of hinduism in the kids lives.

The biggest mistake you could make is to try to bring up kids in 2 faiths. Even the most staunch catholic have to take leaps of faith to resolve issues between the real world and doctrine. Imagine the plight of an 8 year old trying to resolve these differences.

I know of couples who have tried the two-faith model... one of them did so when the kids were teens... and while it didn't confuse the kids right off, they both turned out non-practicing catholics (and non practising Muslims) by their 20s.

Being the religious in a two faith marriage is not easy so be prepared to do a lot more than you would do as an individual... cause kids follow.

Best of luck!

Since your issue is that of bringing up kids you have to consider two things:
1. Do you intend to bring up the kids in two faiths, or are you expecting your husband to do it for the Hindu faith? It is really he who has to sign the agreement since the church assumes that you will bring up your kids catholic.

2. The "paper" only asks you to sign that "as of this time" you intend to bring up the kids catholic. Your husband has the freedom to change his mind in the future. The church assumes that you and your husband mean it when you sign the paper.

We have a similar marriage and I (husband) bring up our kids in the faith. My wife is supportive and does not impose hinduism on the kids. Other than the occasional puja at home (once a year or so) with her Mom, there are no other vestiges of hinduism in the kids lives.

The biggest mistake you could make is to try to bring up kids in 2 faiths. Even the most staunch catholic have to take leaps of faith to resolve issues between the real world and doctrine. Imagine the plight of an 8 year old trying to resolve these differences.

I know of couples who have tried the two-faith model... one of them did so when the kids were teens... and while it didn't confuse the kids right off, they both turned out non-practicing catholics (and non practising Muslims) by their 20s.

Being the religious in a two faith marriage is not easy so be prepared to do a lot more than you would do as an individual... cause kids follow.

Best of luck!