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    sexyrabbit Posts: 10, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 2, 2009, 08:27 AM
    Why won't my boyfriend of 10months have sex with me?
    Me and my boyfriend don't have a sex life!! I have never had a problem like this before, in fact I have been known for being quite rampant in the bedroom until my latest partner came along. We have been together for 10months now an we do love each other very much, but we have NEVER had sex! He tells me I'm beautiful and sexy everyday, he even bought me some sexy lingerie so why is the life so dead in the bed room? I'm worried that this could really get in the way of our relationship, please help!
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    Feb 2, 2009, 09:31 AM

    Ask him about it... if you guys are really close then you should ask him why not... dont be afraid just casually bring it up or try droping hints about the issue
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    Feb 2, 2009, 10:10 AM

    If you can't TALK about sex with each other, you shouldn't be HAVING sex with each other anyway.

    Have you ASKED him about it?
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    Feb 2, 2009, 11:52 AM
    We have spoken about it briefly and all her said was: its not me its him, he has issues that he doesn't want to talk about. If he isn't willing to talk about it the what's my next option?
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    Feb 2, 2009, 11:56 AM

    Move on. The last thing a *young girl* needs is a guy with serious problems.
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    Feb 2, 2009, 12:05 PM
    But we are happy in every other way. I will admit that I haven't exactly thrown myself at him in fact I haven't even tried the lingerie on for him but I'm scared he will reject me. Should I take the risk??
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    Feb 2, 2009, 12:09 PM

    1. You should talk to him about it.
    2. You could make the FIRST move.
    3. Drop hints.
    4. Maybe he has a small pee wee and is insecure.

    OK... sexy rabbit... you should take the risk!!
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    Feb 2, 2009, 12:15 PM

    ... and if he rejects me??
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    Feb 2, 2009, 12:21 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by sexyrabbit View Post
    ...and if he rejects me???
    From what you wrote... he loves you and he won't reject you. He might be a little shy or might be a virgin? Is he? But yea... don't worry about getting rejected... and if he does... then you guys shoud def. talk. But yea... take the risk!! Or you will be sitting around for another 10 months wondering when you two will finally do the thing.

    -Goldy <3
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    Feb 2, 2009, 12:22 PM

    You just need to talk to him, that's the only way you'll know. He could just be a virgin and not ready for sex just yet.
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    Feb 2, 2009, 12:26 PM

    That is a possibility that I hadn't considered because he wasn't exactly a looker in his teenage years. Thanks for the advice everybody. Any more ideas are welcome. Xx
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    Feb 2, 2009, 12:53 PM

    Well, you need to let him know that his "issues" are affecting you, and that if he doesn't trust you enough to talk about them, then what's the point of your relationship?
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    Feb 2, 2009, 12:59 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Synnen View Post
    Well, you need to let him know that his "issues" are affecting you, and that if he doesnt' trust you enough to talk about them, then what's the point of your relationship?
    You know I didn't think about it like that but its true... he musnt trust me?
    I think we are going to have to talk about aren't we :o
    So how do I bring that up in conversation??
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    Feb 2, 2009, 01:02 PM

    Let him know that you are having problems with the level of intimacy in your relationship, and that you want to talk about it.
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    Feb 2, 2009, 01:12 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Synnen View Post
    Let him know that you are having problems with the level of intimacy in your relationship, and that you want to talk about it.
    OK I will try it and let you know how it goes.
    Thanks synnen. Xx
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    Feb 2, 2009, 11:23 PM

    Is he religious... or the rare kind who doesn't feel comfortable having sex outside of marriage?
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    Feb 2, 2009, 11:54 PM

    First make sure he is not impotent, a good way to know that is if his manhood is fully erected when you are naked. Once that is settled his reasons could then be found on spiritual ground, personal reasons or principles, strong controlling power over sexual appetite. Nonetheless constantly let him know your feelings and fears as a womam.That might let him come out with his reasons
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