All right I'm new with this and in need of some dire help

My girl and I broke up about 3 weeks ago and I'm having a hard time with it. All my friends we happy that she broke up with me cause they thought I wasn't it. But I think differently. I still think I have a chance to get back with her. She broke up with me cause she thought that I didn't trust her and didn't want to fight with me anymore... a week ago I went to see her to grab some of my stuff that I had left there and I bought her flowers and chocolates, I wrote her 2 and a half pages what I love about her and I wrote her a poem.. when I gave her the stuff and read her the poem she cried so I thought she still cared for me and now I'm talking to her and she says I should move on.. I don't want to and I still think I can get her back... what do I do?

Quit doing the stuff you think will work, and just give her time. Your poems and flowers and candy WILL NOT change her mind. You cannot buy your way back into this.

Leave her alone, and focus your attention on fixing your issues... nothing you buy will do that, only you can.

Most ladies think flowers, and chocolates are sweet, and they are, but she still doesn't want you as a boyfriend any more, and all the gifts, and begging, will only make you look and feel bad.

Leave her alone, and save yourself a harsh lesson in humiliation, and confusion.

6 months, no contact in any shape, form, or fashion, and you will be able to see for yourself what I'm saying.

That means find something else to do, that doesn't include her.

I know it feels like your life is ruined - no, you are just really hurt that it is over and that she wants you to move on. It just hurts to say good-bye - especially if you are not the one that wants this. You want to continue the relationship - but she has made a decision. Don't beat yourself up over it - you are already hurt. Telling yourself that your life is ruined is just another knife through your heart. Stop. Recognize that you loved and cared for her - and that this is going to help you to move on in time. Why? Because you knew you loved her and it meant a lot to you. It shows your love for another person and that you can love. Right now you just need to take a break - you are going to get through this, you are going to be all right. Stay positive and support yourself through this - get out with friends, write, stay busy - and hey, cry if you need to, that's OK too. Take care.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but begging and groveling is not attractive to anyone, of any sex, ANYWHERE. It just makes you lose respect for a person.

'If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were.' - I think this sums up the situation better than I ever could.

Hey mate, you're life isn't ruined. You really shouldn't feel so bad about it, it's not the end of the world. I know you only meant well by writing her that poem, those 2 pages, buying her those things - but the simple truth is that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you and you have to accept it.

I'm afraid you just can't buy your way back into the relationship, because if you did, deep down in your heart you would know that it wouldn't be real.

I'm sure as you read all of our responses you might be feeling despair or immense sadness, but don't fret. There are plenty more fish in the sea - and as long as you haven't done anything that could have ruined your relationship with that girl, you can walk away from it feeling good with a clear conscience.

You've showed that you're capable of loving, so save your heart for someone else - this girl doesn't want your love, and she's probably not worhy of it for breaking it off so plainly - so just forget her.

As talaniman mentioned take your mind off her. I can't stress this enough. Sure it might be hard the first week or two, but trust me you will get over her. Go play some team sports, go out with your buddies, watch movies, get some work done - just forget about her.

It'll all turn out well in the end - it always does.

Take care,
-Xm8