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    Dec 6, 2008, 07:23 PM
    Should a 11 year old girl be able to date 11 yr boy ?

    help do you think a 11 year old can date I need answers please well like holding hands holding each other
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    Dec 6, 2008, 07:31 PM

    No, I think 11 is too young to be seriously dating. You are still a child and need to be a child a little longer.

    What do you parents say?
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    Dec 6, 2008, 07:33 PM

    Yeah, maybe not date, but be friends? Sure!
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    Dec 6, 2008, 07:36 PM

    Holding hands and hugging is not a date.

    Besides, like Scott said, eleven is much too early to be thinking about the opposite sex. Learn how to diagram sentences, know your multiplication tables forwards and backwards instantly, and learn the location of all the world's countries and their capitals. And are you ready for your state history test? Did you make your bed this morning? Did you eat three nutritious meals today? Have you finished your homework for Monday? Have you been behaving like someone everyone wishes they knew better? Have you obeyed your mom and dad? If not, you don't have time for "dates" yet.
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    Dec 6, 2008, 08:29 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Holding hands and hugging is not a date.

    Besides, like Scott said, eleven is much too early to be thinking about the opposite sex. Learn how to diagram sentences, know your multiplication tables forwards and backwards instantly, and learn the location of all the world's countries and their capitals. And are you ready for your state history test? Did you make your bed this morning? Did you eat three nutritious meals today? Have you finished your homework for Monday? Have you been behaving like someone everyone wishes they knew better? Have you obeyed your mom and dad? If not, you don't have time for "dates" yet
    Hey I'm 4.0 I've known the guy for 4 years what's it opinion now
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    Dec 6, 2008, 08:37 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by shantans View Post
    hey I'm 4.0 I've known the guy for 4 years what's it opinion now
    Same.

    At your age, I knew all sorts of guys for four years and more. I didn't date alone with a guy until I was 16. Meanwhile, I did my homework, did my chores at home, won scholarships for college, and ended up with a very nice career. Hugging and dating happen soon enough.

    I notice you didn't answer my questions...
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    Dec 6, 2008, 08:39 PM
    No way. 11 is too young. You are still in primary school, you need to study on school and freindships, and family. You have no room in your life at the moment for kissing etc and you all know that kissing leads to sex, which you are definitely too young for. I think 11 is too young.
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    Dec 6, 2008, 08:53 PM

    Hey don't go crazy!!
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    Dec 6, 2008, 09:01 PM
    Should 11 year old be able to go out with a boy holding hands etc
    :rolleyes:hey u guys just wondering could a 11yr old girl be bffs and then say they both like each other pass notes saying hey want to hang out no into kissing but still kind of u know say they like each other it will be nice if to leave answer ah I know 11 not a age for kissing and sex ;):eek:


    Hay I'm not dumb 4.0 student
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    Dec 6, 2008, 09:06 PM

    You I think that it is fine, I had my first boyfriend when I was 12. It's fine as long as you don't get 2 serrious (at least until you are older)
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    Dec 6, 2008, 09:17 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by bored987 View Post
    ya i think that it is fine, i had my first boyfriend when i was 12. it's fine as long as u dont get 2 serrious (at least untill u r older)
    Hey thanks so bord u
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    Dec 6, 2008, 09:43 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by shantans View Post
    hey don't go crazy!!!!!
    You either. Do your homework for Monday.
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    Dec 6, 2008, 10:44 PM
    Yeah that's fine & cute. It's good practise for when you aer older :)
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    Dec 6, 2008, 11:26 PM

    Why the heck shouldn't 12yearolds date?
    I mean they can't really drive to the movies, but they could hang out and kiss and share a soda or whatever
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    Dec 6, 2008, 11:29 PM

    If you find the right person at 11 years old then you should do everything u can to b with them.

    But probably 99.999 percent of the time it isn't the right person when your that young!

    Just see how things work out. Do what feels natural to you, listen to your heart
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    Dec 7, 2008, 12:11 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by timtim-awesim View Post
    do what feels natural to you, listen to your heart
    That's how we end up with unwed mothers or girls getting abortions at age 12 and 13.
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    Dec 7, 2008, 12:36 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    That's how we end up with unwed mothers or girls getting abortions at age 12 and 13.
    I said heart, not penis/vagina
    I never said 11 year olds should be having sex. I said if you think you love someone, you shouldn't let them go
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    Dec 7, 2008, 12:50 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    That's how we end up with unwed mothers or girls getting abortions at age 12 and 13.
    There is nothing wrong with an 11 year old girl dateing an 11 year old boy, I did when I was 11(which was 2 years ago) and nothing bad ever happened to me. By what she said its just harmless fun and that's what it was for me. Not every thing leads to "unwed mothers or girls getting abortions at age 12 and 13" any smart girl knows how to protect herself from that.
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    Dec 7, 2008, 01:40 AM
    First of all, what is the definition of dating at 11? Holding hands? Passing notes that say "your face looks like butterfly wings"? If that's it, then go for it. I also started dating someone when I was 11, so was he. We were together for 7 years. We didn't kiss until we were 15. And never had sex. If this is just a boy and a girl hanging out, then OK. With parental supervision, EVEN BETTER!!


    Quote Originally Posted by bored987 View Post
    not every thing leads to "unwed mothers or girls getting abortions at age 12 and 13" any smart girl knows how to protect herself from that.
    Accidents and bad luck happen to smart girls too.
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    Dec 7, 2008, 08:07 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by bored987 View Post
    there is nothing wrong with an 11 year old girl dateing an 11 year old boy, i did when i was 11(which was 2 years ago) and nothing bad ever happend to me. by what she said its just harmless fun and thats what it was for me. not every thing leads to "unwed mothers or girls getting abortions at age 12 and 13" any smart girl knows how to protect herself from that.
    Quote Originally Posted by timtim-awesim View Post
    why the heck shouldnt 12yearolds date?
    i mean they can't really drive to the movies, but they could hang out and kiss and share a soda or whatever
    Spoken like young people who don't have the knowledge or experience to understand the maturation process.

    Children today are trying to grow up faster and faster. They see intergender relationships glorified in the media and want to emulate what they see. They want the experiences they see without having the emotional maturity to handle it.

    That's why its not a good idea for children to date. I strongly suspect that in the OP's case she wants to date NOT because she likes the boy but just for the sake of dating.

    Whenever questions like this crop up, you get three groups of answers. The adults who want to protect the childhood of the askers advicate waiting. The kids who don't believe an adult can understand what they are going through, say go ahead. And the third group is in their late teens or early 20s who had a good or bad (mostly bad) similar experience.

    If one is asking for advice, they generally want the advice from older and wiser heads.

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