Hi

I don't exactly knoow in what field of medicine my problem lies but I think it is an addiction
I have a stupid habbit of rubbing a piece of cloth between my fingers. I know anyone reading this will think of me as stupid but I have no other option left but to ask for help in this manner cause no one believes me here.
I'm in lot of stress and it is blowing my career. I will try to explain my problem
I just rub any soft piece of cloth b/w my fingers. I have this habit for as long as I can remember. It causes me very strong drowsiness and sometimes I feel neausia. I have lost my confidence, and my focus. I used to understand each word of a para I read only once but now I have to read anything 3 or 4 times to understand what it says. I'm always very sleepy any I get a hard time to focus and remember things sometimes. I hardly have any friends because I feel as if I'm too much immature to make friends my age.
I'm married but my husband doesn't think it is any problem and I have failed to make him understand that I need help.
The worse is that I can't get rid of this habbit. I've tried every thing I could but I can't stop my fingers
Please help me. I'm really tired and fed up of it.

Ophilia

It sounds like you have a compulsive need to continue this behavior. Have you been to a therapist who might specialize in compulsions? An intense need to do something over and over is not as rare as one might think. You are not alone in this. Seek professional help, and ask for support groups in your area.

Also, although I am not a doctor, I am concerned that maybe the drowziness is not caused by your finger rubbing. A trip to your GP might be in order as well.

Maybe a variation of obsessive compulsive disorder? I'm not qualified to diagnose, but if YOU think it's a problem, it's a problem. If YOU think you need help, you need help. And I know you're not stupid, because you have the courage to ask for help when you need it. That's smart and wise, not stupid.

My younger brother use to do this when he was 3. He stopped though. It was actually quite cute that he lugged his worn out pillow around while rubbing the pillow cover between his fingers. You definitely have OCD! It sounds like a problem only because it makes you sleepy and unfocused. Your husband is your best friend, you've got your family, and how about co-workers? Take the time to get to know one person from your job. Things will turn around for you!

Unless you happen to be allergic to the actual material you are rubbing, the getting tired or even passing out may well be a mental reaction, not physcial, I believe that therapy and counseling would be needed to over come this, Most likely it is a shut down protection so you don't have to deal in certain situations that you see tiggered by a nervous habit.

But this is only a unprofessional opinion, you need to first of course have a complete physcial to be sure there is no health issue, too low or too high blood pressure, a sugar imbalance or something else like that.

What is the main feeling that makes you want to rub the piece of fabric?

Deep within you there is something you are trying to avoid being/feeling which triggers your desire to seek "comfort" in the fabric.
You must take a moment to yourself and integrate with that feeling. You must stop resisting it and accepting yourself that way, no matter how "bad" it seems. The label of "bad" is something that you put yourself on it, and it is you who suffers the consequences. Nobody wants to be "bad" so we try our hardest to deny this.

Let me know if you are able to identify where these feelings come from.

You might find something like"

I'm worthless.
Nobody loves me.
I can't do it.
I'm stupid.

Or even a combination of these.

Peace.

We might be able to correctly identiying what this is guessing here but only seeking the help of a professional will change or solve it. So is this about knowing about it or is this about doing something about it? If it's the latter, a visit to a regular MD is in order, as Tuscany suggested, who can refer you from there. This really isn't very strange, from all that I have seen (I know some people suffering from OCD that would make you look tame) and there really is just all kinds of help in the world for stuff like this. Avail yourself of it and you can experience how great it is freeing yourself from this. I once was an avid thumb sucker and hair twirler well past my baby years. I can still remember how it would produce an almost narcotic effect on me. I would still be twirling my hair today if it wasn't cut shorter. LOL

I have had this same compulsion since I can remember. It started with the lining on my baby blanket then as I got older moved onto sleeping bag exteriors and jacket linings. Usually any sort of satin-like nylon and acetate mixtures would satisfy, yet it still seems to me 100% acetate gives the best fix. As far as getting drowsy and nauseous I have never experienced that. Just the compulsion and some kind of satisfaction somehow felt from the layers of fabric moving across each other between the fingers. Can't explain it , don't know quite how to word it either, just a baffling compulsion really. I'm 22 now and all throughout my life friends and girlfriends would ask about it and I would have no answer.. "I dont know man, feels good between my fingers..." Although in the past 3-5 years maybe I have almost entirely forced myself to stop it, just with will. Something else interesting I found out not long ago, my grandmother (my mothers mother) does it too! She does it with the edge of her pillow cases at night when she's falling asleep.

Funny, lots of people do different things to help them switch between the sharp and responsive part of their consciousness, to the deep thinking, drowsy, paranoid mind..
Only by repeating the actions that keep you is the forefront of your mind will you block out the controlling paranoid side.

You should embrace this practice of meditation and use it to overcome some other things
Recognize that you are smart and you only hurt yourself by feeling bad about yourself.
I'd like to talk to anybody on this earth that shared the feeling of your mind controlling you, rather you controlling your mind. Just keep in mind that you are like everybody else and the people you believe to be less mature than, probably have way worse problems...

I hope you deal with this and feel better.xxx

:eek: Wow! I Hope you respond, because I have the same issue. I do it to anything that's soft, and it seems that when I am doing it I am in a daze or something. I also rub my hands arms with the point made from the cloth. I have been doing this everysince I can remember. My mom used to tell me to stop all the time. It not even something I try to do, sometimes. But sometimes it is. I think I have rubbed holes (overtime) in some of my clothing.hmmm, well I was reading on this site about kids Sesame Workshop - Nice Kids, Bad Habits, I saw before I came here that said children start doing it as a way to cope with developmental stress/ change and overtime can just become pure habit, and doing it unkowingly. I want to stop doing it as much, but I have to admit it does relax you.

I've been doing this as long as I can remember. When I was really little, I remember very faintly that when I did it, I was "earnging," I would sort of hum along with it, "eeerrrrrrrrrrrng." I know, I know... that's not a word... but, hey, I was little. My big sister thought I was obsessed with my blanket, so she said I had a woobie... so that's how I think of it now.

I long ago gave up the need to scavange for scraps. I bought a few yards of the perfect jacket liner material at a fabric store, which I just cut for new pieces once they get nasty and wear out. Wouldn't you know it... as I was carrying the material to the counter a friend from work walked in. She asked me what I was going to make, and I told her I was lining a purse for my daughter. I keep it to myself, but I also don't beat myself up over it.

Maybe I do this because my mom left when I was a baby and that caused me to comfort myself and that carried into my whole life. Maybe when I was little, I was remembering something from before I was born... the "earng" could have been a meditation chant or hum. It is very calming to me. Maybe I'm just a freakin freak who is going to have horrible arthritis in a few years. Who knows. And no, I don't say "earng," I think the last time I did that I was 4 years old.

I don't care if people wonder why I have my hand in my pocket more often than not. Or why I don't wear gloves in the winter. If someone were to change their opinion of me because of this silly habit that does no harm, then I'm lucky to have had the opportunity to rid my life of their negativity.

I suspect Ophilia has put way too much emphasis on this being strange, wrong, or bad and should take a deep breath, relax, and enjoy. :) It's like biting your nails or twirling your hair. That's all. I do not feel I have any sort of Disorder (as in ocD). If you do this and you don't want to anymore, then treat it like any other habit. Heck, I quit smoking, and if I can do that, I can definitely put down the woob... but I don't need to, don't want to, and probably never will.

It's pretty cool to have found other people who do this! I Google it from time to time, but always had a hard time knowing what to put into the search. Tonight, I put in "strange habits" and found this posting. :)

You say that your family are not bothered, but you obviously are, which means you'd like to do something about it, as you say it's ruining your career and you don't make friends, it also embarasses you which is why you try to hide it.

In my opinion it is a habit that you have lost control of, in fact it seems to control your life to some degree.

I would say that was.. OCD, the only way you can stop it is to break the cycle.

visit... the UK official website for OCD, or the website... stuckinadoorway... they will give you all the info' you need.

Alternatively visit your doctor who can refer you to the appropriate clinic.

Don't worry too much this is very common.

I have had this compulsion forever and I am 58 years old. I love rubbing certain fabrics especially cotton fabric like pillow cases. It calms me. If I wear a cotton skirt I find myself doing this a lot. I have no idea why it calms me but it does and I don't ever want to give it up. I use to say it "tastes good" but don't really know where that comes from.

Seeing a doctor or a therapist may be a way of further exploring this issue. Could be OCD, a way to find comfort for stress and other negative feeling or just a bad habit. I think though that since you say you get drowsy and nauseous this is more than just a bad habit and should receive professional evaluation. Hope you find your answers.

WOW! I thought I was the only person besides my dad that did this. Ever since I was a baby I have done the same thing; feel silk or satin between my fingers. I have absolutely no clue as to why I do this, but it makes me feel good in a weird way.. lol. I stopped for a while, but have been doing it a lot since I had a baby 3 years ago. I also tend to space out when I do it and sometimes have to tell myself in my head to stop over and over before I will let go and continue on with what I was doing before I started feeling it. My dad does the same thing but with knots on towels and jeans and stuff. He will carry around a small hand towel or something when he finds something with good knots on it.. lol. My close family and friends know I do it and they just laugh and tease me in a friendly way and when I do it they say, "you're doing it again...lol" I have always been curious as to why I do it and what is making me do it. It is almost like a relaxation technique. I always have to have a blanket with it on it when I sleep because it helps me sleep. I was bored and decided to do a search online to see if there was anyone out there who had the same weird compulsion; needless to say when I typed in silk fetish a lot of porn sites popped up and I got irritated.. lol. I am so glad that I found this and that I know I am not the only one. Maybe some Dr. or scientist should do some study on us to see what it is that we all have in common that could make us do this... and by the way, I don't think you are weird... we are unique.. lol.

Crazy, I also do this! I though I was weird for it, and have done it as far back as I could remember. My mother said when I was young, around my toddler stages. She said I used to sleep in bed with her, and my way to fall asleep was to rub her nylon night gown.

Im 19 now, and I still have the same "addiction". Most people think its weird, but it's not to uncommon. I rub nylon or other material that feel "silky" to relieve stress, or just to do when I fall asleep. It's probably possible I've done it to feel comfortable.

As far as it making my drowsy, I have no relation to it. But I sure am glad I'm not the only one with this 'addiction'! :)

I am a little worried about writing my idea because you are trying to get rid of this rubbing: why don't you try to enjoy it? I agree with your husband, that rubbing is not a problem. My 6 yrs daughter does it since she could use her hands. She does it when she tells me stories in the evening or when she is falling asleep. I let her do it because it relaxes her and if I ever tell her that she is doing something strange, she will try to get rid of this habit and that will turn into a problem.
Who ever told you that this rubbing is a problem? Not everybody does it but that doesn't mean that it is a problem. Enjoy rubbing, try to like it. It is yours. Your LOGICAL YOU is trying to take it from your EMOTIONAL YOU.

One more thing. I think you may have become depressed and that's why you are rubbing more now. That's why you are not making new friends and you feel more pressure at work too. That could also be a cause of your nausea.
I got depressed too and guess what? My doctor prescribed me pills in seconds, of course, which I put in the garbage. Don't take any pills, even if you see a doctor and he says: YES! You have this OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE disorder, you need antidepressants to take.
I force myself to exercise 30 minutes every day with my kids. I also call my friends more often and order myself to watch a comedy once a week. This helps.

A few min. ago I was laying in bed thinking to myself (while I was rubbing my sweatshirt) I can't possibly be the only person who does this. So I got up and typed "rubbing fabric" into Google. I am not sure why I haven't tried looking up something before. I guess sometimes I try to pretend I don't do it at all. I am truly amazed of the people who happened to see this post and have the same problem. Some of the answers sound so much like myself it is scary. I am 25 married with 3 children and have been doing this since I was a toddler. It started with the lining of my baby blanket. I carried it every where and eventually my mother had to throw it out. When I was in elm school I replaced my "comfort item" as my mom would call it with a sweater. When I left the sweater behind at a friends house and couldn't get it back I again replaced it with a sweatshirt. When that one started to get holes in it I again replaced it with another sweatshirt. When that one got accidentally thrown away I stopped for a few years. But I always seemed to find myself rubbing different things I might have been wearing or a blanket or a pillowcase and so fourth but for years I didn't have anything that I carried around. Then a few months ago I bought myself a new sweat shirt and it was just the right material that made me start again. I feel no different then I did when I was younger. I carry it to bed at night, when Im relaxing with my coffee. I put it away during the day so I am able to fully take care of my kids and do house work with no interruptions but as soon as I get a chance to sit and relax I pull it out. My parents and sisters knew I always did it and would just tease me. Over the years friends and boyfriends would also notice the constant presence of my "comfort item". But now at 25 a grown adult with children of my own I seem so foolish for still doing it. I have never come right out and told my husband or oldest daughter but they know my brown gap sweatshirt is always close by. Which in Fl during the summer does seem a little strange lol. I guess one day I will come out with it. But until now I could not explain my behavior without sounding like a weirdo. Thanks to everyone who told their similar stories. It is going to help so much!

I am so glad I found this post! I am almost 56 years old and have done this all my life. I keep it hidden and if my husband knows he has never let on. It was satin blanket binding when I was very small. My mother took it away from me when she decided I should not do it anymore. I just started rubbing a flannel sheet instead and hid it from her. Now I buy a yard of flannel from time to time, cut it into squares and sleep with one, and keep the other one in my pocket or purse. I love the way it feels and I use it to go to sleep. When I wake up I like hold it against my cheek or lips for a while and kind of space out. I like to weave it between my fingers so that it touches the sensitive webbing between the fingers. I try not to rub it between the fingers anymore because it was causing my finger joints to ache and I have some carpal tunnel syndrome that I think was caused by the repetitive motion. You'd think that would be enough to make me stop because I am an artisan who works with my hands, and can't take time off for surgery!
I have an added issue, though. When I do this I tongue-thrust. This is a combination of a misaligned jaw, large tongue and the fact that my mother took me off a bottle when I was still a baby. I was never allowed to thumb suck or have a pacifier. This is my adoptive mother. My birth mother was forced to give me up by her family when I was 3 months old.
I know I should try to stop, but I can't imagine stopping a 55 year habit. I have some OCD issues and take meds for it. I wonder if I will be an old woman in a nursing home holding a blanket like a baby. I have NEVER told anyone about this, so it felt really good to find out other people do it.