Hi, I have full time job at the particular organisation. At the same organsation but different departments I can do additional hours too- a bank job. One day I was reported falselly by one particular department's staff for being extremely uncooperative (to the organisation that supplies me with the additional job).. That was not true and I was surprised and hurt by such accusations.There was only small true- that I used my mobile for a couple of minutes ( we cannot be seen using the mobiles) and someone saw me using it. I wouldn't worry if that wouldn't bring me the problems as the ageincy who is resposnisble for supplying me with the additional bak jobs is going to report that to my full time job manager..
The whole true about what happened is- I was assigned a job and had my supervisor assigned to me. Later on the supervisor to whom I WAS NOT assigned to work asked me to work in his area even though she had someome to help her. I did not mind the first time. On the second time she came to me again and asked me to do someting else again, I at that moment I was doing my assigned job and asked her why I should do the job that I am not assigned and also explained that I am doing something at the moment. She was offended by my assertiveness and said to me that it's her rule that everyone works where she tells them as she was the boss there. I said "ok" and since then I did whatever she asked me to do or one of her staff members as well as doing the assigned work to me. They were continuing to come to me as if I was the one in the whole deprtament and asking me to do that and that. Some time I was bussy with my assigned job and expleined that I attend to them ASAP, when I finish my job ( I was already exhousted and feeling as if I am working alone even though she had people to help her) When I finished, I came to to help them. For that I was reported as being uncooperative and was reported.
Is that correct or not. What should I do. please?

justcurious55

if your job depends on you changing your attitude, and you desire to keep your job, yes you had better change. and regardless of others feel it is aggressive, i felt it was aggressive. others disagreeing will not change my perception. the same way that whether you or anyone else felt you were being uncooperative, the manager that made the complaint perceived you as uncooperative.
and yes, to some degree, you can influence how others perceive you. your firsts post were dotted with smiley faces. you clearly know how to make sure that someone views your message as friendly. your last two posts are all about justifying your own actions and how me and this other woman must be wrong. how should i have perceived that in your opinion?

Gemini54

Why are you so defensive? People are really just trying to provide unbiased advice, they are not trying to attack you.

Perception is an interesting thing to ponder - in a workplace I do beleive that one has to be sensitive to the perceptions of others and sometimes change our reactions accordingly. I would also suggest that this is important when dealing with superiors. Yes, it can be annoying, but its a fact of life if we want to get on with our workmates.

Fr_Chuck

From reading your post and your responses, yes I could see how a boss may take things in a negitive way.

I have a strict rule, does not matter how or what or where, but at the end of the day the boss is still the boss.
What they say goes and the way they want it done ( even if not the best way) will be the best way for now since they are the boss.

justcurious55

had to spread the rep chuck, but that's an excellent point. i had an assistant manager, and every time someone would disagree with the way something was being done he would just smile, shrug and say, "it's so and so's store (the head manager), we just work here." some days it's best to just nod and smile.

Klaipeda

Well in the firs question I wrote that 'in that situation' I am for NOT BEING COOPERATIVE. Its your opinion that I was perceived as aggressive. And even if I was perceived as aggressive, the accusations would state that 'she was aggressive and please don't let her work again in or department as she does not know how to speak to the manager' or something like that. If the boss was insecure and didn't want to show herself as insecure and just made up my 'cooperativeness' in order to hide the true reason that means she is not sincere. Which chows her as not positive person again..

justcurious55

well, it doesn't really matter if she made them up or not if the people above her believe them. it still makes you look bad. and your defensiveness and poor attitude is not helping you look anymore positive than her. even if she is completely wrong and you didn't do anything to deserve it.

Gemini54

Um, I actually didn't say you were perceived as aggressive. I said that I agreed you didn't know how to speak with bosses.

I keep asking - why are you so defensive?

All you seem to want to do is argue and defend yourself rather than explore how you might deal with the situation you're in. It's a circular argument and not one that will get you anywhere.

If you want to remedy the situation at work, perhaps you have to be more co-operative and learn some humility.

As Fr Chuck and justcurious55 said, when you're an employee sometimes you just have to suck it up.

I would suggest that if you want to keep your job you apologize and learn the art of co-operation. It's not that hard.

Klaipeda

I think it's you who are being insulting now..But thanks anyway for your thoughts

Klaipeda

it's true, and it's better to avoid working with these kind of bosses if possible as not all are the same... Thanks God I was there only for one and only time..

Klaipeda

I suppose for the same way you 'attacking' me. So may I ask you why do you want me not to be defensive then?