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Home > Business & Careers > Workplace Relationships   »   what to do if two co workers are spreading lies about you?

 
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Old May 17, 2005, 02:05 PM
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what to do if two co workers are spreading lies about you?

I have never used this web site before and Im at my witts end. I work as a hairdresser in a small shop and two out of five co-workers are telling my boss that Im doing things Im just not doing. One of them is telling my boss that she is physically scared of me and that I threatend the other one with physical harm. I have never hurt anyone before I think the reason that this is happening is because I am building clients faster than she is and she feels threatend. I am working really hard. I dont know what to do I havent done the things they have told my boss Ive done and Im scared that because there is two of them telling him the same thing. Im afraid that he is going to belive them and I know that I shouldnt care what people think but it drives me crazy when someone thinks Im lieing. I have been working on and off there for 7 years and I love working there but even if I do stay and they leave that I will be blamed for making them leaving. I am 35 years old and Im just not into playing games I cant be on the phone when it rings and make sure that there not staeling my clients I dont trust that they wouldnt do that one of them has already done that but I didnt tell my boss because again Im not into playing games. What should I do?

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Old May 18, 2005, 01:40 AM   #2  
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Tell them in the face you know what's going on and that you have a problem with that. Tell them if that continues to happen you might as well harm someone. Also, tell your boss you know what they've been doing (telling lies) and see what the boss says.
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Old May 18, 2005, 05:19 AM   #3  
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I have told my boss and he doesnt seem to care hes gay (not that i have a problem with that) he just likes the drama as much as any woman. I love that job and can handle him but I cant compete with two liers. Honestly if I was in his place I would believe what there saying. But I have been in recovey for 11 years and so I have hurt people but Im not that person anymore but its hard to shake that sterotype. I have great communication skills and I have tried to use them with one of them but she just started yelling at me then I started yelling at her and it wasnt want I wanted to happen. Thank you for responding.
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Well, if boss is not concerned - you shouldn't be either.
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Old May 18, 2005, 06:27 PM   #5  
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Beauty among Beast

Success...comes with scrutiny, just know that...some people are too afraid to say Job Well Done, remember Jealousy, envy translate to this, You got what I want, be it material things, talent or ability. People must learn to be content...till then...give them something more to talk about...do your job and do it well. It's an old saying but it is appropriate...If I can get your goat, I got you, but if you ignore me, then I play the fool. Allow their sharp piercing words to be wind underneath your eagle wings...for when they get done bumping their gums, you will have established your clientele, and soaring high. You do not have to stoop to their level, bring them up to yours. You will always teach people how to treat you. If their words, ruffle your feathers, come up hither, never let them see you sweat. Remember, when you blow your gasket, they know your number, but when you remain silent, hum a song do whatever you need to do to keep you calm, this puts you in control because now they are left wondering...what are you going to do. Never let foolishness steal your bread. They will grow-up in time, moreover, if you keep your composure, they will respect you because they will see you are someone of character, to be feared and revered. Silence is the best weapon. Now if it comes to blows; handle your business. But if all they got is talk, beat them with silence. Diffuse the tension. No respectable client will leave you, those that leave, truly did not appreciate your work. So remember, let your work speak for itself.
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Old May 19, 2005, 05:17 AM   #6  
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Thank You

You are so right. I really like that quote about getting your goat. You sound really wise. Thank you again.
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Yes, if he doesn't care. you shouldn't, if it hurt you in any way, reputation wise, it would be slander though.
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