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Ahhh, this has been driving me nuts for awhile now, because I have such strong feelings for my manager. He is 33 and im 18 . We are constantly flirting with eachother, and he waits for me after work every night and follows me half way home. He is extremely nice to me, and always wants me to switch shifts if im not working with him. We sit in the office and talk all day, and when i ask him about if i was supposed to get something done, he just says "Why dont you just sit and talk to me, and ill help you later." and he tells me to not worry about doing things. I found out that he is married. But I dont think he knows I know and he always avoids those type of subjects and he doesnt wear a ring. I am really mature for my age, and it is always to find mature guys around my age and i think that is why im so attractive to him... he wants me to call and come talk to him when he is working this week?!! And I know you're all thinking that he is just a typical guy blah blah, but he is not at all, ive never met a more sweeter funnier handsomer (word?) than him. I just dont know what to think? Please all your opinions and comments will help me out.
Draw the line with this guy and stick to it. He is married! He is looking for someone naive and vulnerable to have an affair with - which is you! Being so mature for your age, you ought to know that getting more involved with guy is going to cost you. If you are so sure that he is just so handsome and sweet and fun and flirty and helpful and so concerned about you, why don't you his wife and ask her opinion?
You are going to get so hurt with this guy, if you keep on like you are doing. So terribly hurt. You need to tell him that this is work and work only. Nothing personal. Just work. Then stand by your words and keep the working relationship proper and at an appropriate distance.
It is easy to have your head turned by an older man who pays attention and seems so helpful. But please, take a cold hard look at this and make the best decision. If anything, look at some of the other posts and answers about this kind of relationship with a married man and read how women, like you, were drawn into illicit relationships with married men and are now suffering - some even pregnant and alone.
I dont know what it is but i've never felt this way towards someone, and it makes everything just go away.. I dont think i would ever want anything other than us flirting and talking all the time, but id like to know if there could've been something.. I dont know ;(
If he wants to continue flirting, that is a dangerous game. He is baiting the trap, so to speak. He has higher expectations. Which, if he were single and free to do this, no problem. But he is not. You can simply tell him that married men are not on your menu, when it comes to flirting and anything beyond. It is just too much of a temptation that can be almost impossible to overcome. I agree the attention is exciting, a bit romantic, sweet, and makes one feel so special. But, honestly, you do not feel that same way when you are there sitting home alone - again while he is back with his wife and family - again.
There are easier ways to break a heart. Don't let this guy close enough to find out.
You need to stop what you are doing it is wrong. He is a married older man and he should know better. He sounds alittle sick and hes your boss. Its not that fair that you get to sit in the office all day and talk to him and get paid I would watch out this guy just sounds like a creep and what if his wife finds out
Oh yes, the being at work all day and not working and getting paid for it. That sure is a set up to an affair. He is going to ask for payment of that little favor. Is he the owner of this business and the manager or only the manager?
A smart woman would be documenting all this - the pay and no work, what the manager says, how he flirts, etc. Since you are going along with him, you are just as guilty in perpetrating a fraud on the company you work for. If a co worker were to find out, I can hear a whistle blowing!
He is not at all a creep... at all! Seriously, I guess its hard to explain the situation with out it seeming bad, but really its not, and its not like we dont get anything done at work, he just helps me so then we have extra time to talk, maybe he is just a nice guy and im getting caught up? but its just the things he does and jokes around about that makes me think otherwise.. Im deffinately not going to let it go anyfarther but I also dont want to stop flirting and talking to him... ill come back on on wednesday around same time, because im going into work for while to see him, and ill tell you what happens, and the things he says and does, and you tell me what you think.. I just really wish you would understand he is not sick or creepy, its like im a little mature for my age, and he is a little immature for his age so its perfect combination
you guys just dont understand it is not at all like that cause for one we work just together, and twice as fast, ive known him for a while and now we work together and i know he isnt like that
He's not being faithful to his wife (1 sign of dishonesty) He's apparently breaking the rules at work, Managers should NOT act this way with their employees (2nd sign of dishonesty) ...Do you really want to start a relationship with a man who is known for being dishonest and breaking all the rules? What happens if you two somehow do work out and you pursue another career... and this hot new girl takes your position, one day he gets bored at work and decides he wants HER to come in after hours. I know you may have feelings for him but from what you've said about the situation, it sounds like your in for a heartbreak.
Goodluck with everything. I hope everything works out for you.
yes but hes not being faithful to his wife and u say u wont do n-e thing with him but you are flirting with him he might think u want to take it farther and think u are leading him on u need to stop before u both get in trouble.
. We are constantly flirting with eachother, and he waits for me after work every night and follows me half way home. He is extremely nice to me, and always wants me to switch shifts if im not working with him. We sit in the office and talk all day, and when i ask him about if i was supposed to get something done, he just says "Why dont you just sit and talk to me, and ill help you later." and he tells me to not worry about doing things. I found out that he is married. But I dont think he knows I know and he always avoids those type of subjects and he doesnt wear a ring. I am really mature for my age, and it is always to find mature guys around my age and i think that is why im so attractive to him... he wants me to call and come talk to him when he is working this week?!! And I know you're all thinking that he is just a typical guy blah blah, but he is not at all, ive never met a more sweeter funnier handsomer (word?) than him. I just dont know what to think? Please all your opinions and comments will help me out.
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