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How to get a girl back I work with when she hates me?

Asked Jul 24, 2012, 09:09 PM — 4 Answers
I was seeing this really cute girl at work for a while. We used to hang out all the time after work and have a great time. She would tell me how she liked me more and more. Everything was going smoothly. (I thought) Then suddenly she said she wasn't ready for a relationship and it was moving too fast., I was left devastated. She said we make better friends then lovers. She felt overwhelmed and lost those deep feelings for me.

I tried desperately getting her back but she wasn't feeling it at all.

I continued to give her space until I decided to make one more attempt to win her back.

I brought roses over to her spot and a card saying we should start over and get to know each other.

She said she didn't want to try again because she thinks it wouldn't work.

A week goes by and I call her to ask what I did wrong so I won't make the same twice and lose another girl.. Again she said its not you its me. She didn't what she was getting into. But I know I could've done things differently.

Anyway some stupid incident happened (theres no point in going into detail because its dumb) and now she really hates me.

It's hard because I work with her and have to see her. I really miss hanging out with her. And I know she had a great time with me while we were together.

I'm moving on trying to see other girls but there's something about her.

I'm going to not contact her anymore because I know she doesn't want to talk to me.

Any advice on how to get her back? or all is lost at this point?

Thanks

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leigh27 Posts: 8, Reputation: 11
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Jul 24, 2012, 09:49 PM
Can't lose what you never really had. Some after-work laughs & having sex didn't make her your property, & it sounds like you're ready for a committed relationship & she clearly is not. In any case, acting desperate is a definite turn-off.

If working with her is just too much, you may have to change jobs. However, you're a grownup (I hope!) and can be mature and recognize that not every hookup is going to be "the one". Perhaps doing things old school is best - court a girl, be a gentleman, and really get to know her (this takes time!) God bless you
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BethVader Posts: 92, Reputation: 53
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Jul 25, 2012, 12:22 AM
Let it go. She's moved on and so should you.
Find a girl who's as ready for a relationship as you.
Listen to the above comment, she's right on.
Good luck to you.
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Jul 25, 2012, 11:39 AM
Ok thanks for the responses, appreciate it.

Yea I don't think every hook up is going to be the "one."

It just seemed we had a real connection based on how she acted around and towards me.

I know she really really liked me because multiple people told me.

Anyway now that getting back with her is highly unlikely, I need some advice on how to get back on her good side.

Thanks
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leigh27 Posts: 8, Reputation: 11
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Jul 25, 2012, 11:32 PM
How to get back on her good side, hmmmm. Why is it so important? Just be a good, decent guy, because it's the right thing to do, not because of her. Don't make this your "mission". Depending on the severity of what caused the breach, it may take a while before she would view you in a neutral way; not favorable or unfavorable. To me, it still sounds like you're trying to win her back, though.
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