I hate myself so much.
I feel so guilty...
So trashy...
like a whore...
I cant stop having sex with my boyfriend.
We want to stop...
But we arnt making any progress...
I feel horrible...
AND
Im scared Im going to get pregnant...
What do i do?
Please talk to a responsible adult, maybe a school counselor, or a trusted teacher and most pastors are trained to help those who need good advice, and though you love him, if your boyfriend cared he would be helping you abstain from sex and he isn't, because he can't. You have been thru a trauma, and need time and support, to get thru it and over it. No, you are not a whore, just a young female that was victimized by a fool, and is confused about the right thing to do, to help herself. Get the help you need.
my bf is helping me alot right now.
hes really giving courage to do something about it.
and hes been talking to me about it to get the issue solved.
and hes trying to have self controll and hes protection me from himself.
You posted a while ago. I hope you are feeling better about things now.
Do use protection every time you have sex, every time.
Try not to get drunk. Getting drunk often leads to sloppy careless sex and pregnancy.
Find out what sort of free counseling you have available. A lot of schools have a real life proper counselor who comes in for a couple of days a week and meets with students 'one on one'. Counselors of this type are like doctors, they have to keep your secrets and can't go round telling your teachers or others your problems.
Out side your school you my find similar professional counselors through youth mental health programs. Almost every county has a mental health center that provides specialist counseling for teens.
No, you are not mental. You just need a little help and guidance from an adult who is not going to get on your case or think badly of you. Some one other than your parents or teachers. Some one who will keep what you say confidential.
Ask before talking, what privacy you can expect. Don't get fooled by 'youth counselor' who's only skill is throwing a basket ball, or 'school counselors' who are only qualified to help you select English or math courses.
You want a proper mental health counselor, they are the ones who will keep your secrets and help you figure out what you need to do for your self.
You may also want to mention it when you see your doctor or OBGYN, just ask for a moment in private, and then ask them for a referral for some mental health counseling. (No you are not mental, it's just what they call that type of helper.)
well although i can understand it can be difficult to quit this addiction, i would suggest a diversion would work, get in to a new clean relationship that you can relate to. dont volenter your self to get back to square one and if you still go back, dont stop keep moving on. remember its not about quitting it, its about denying it with persistence.
have you thought about going to Sex Addicts Anonymous? I understand where you are coming from when you can't stop having sex. I go to the 12 step meetings and they are helping me. try and see if there is something like that in you area
i was in ur same position...
& trust me im not some 20year old who barely remembers anything when i was 15..
im 16....my 1st time was when i was 13
i felt like crap & thats the best way to put it
when me and the guy broke up i got depressed & on top of that everyone in the skool knew...
everytime i met some1 in 9th grade i was known as the girl who had sex with "cody"
that was a pointless story...
*answer*
tell him u DO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX ANYMORE...
& if ur afraid it will hurt his feelings or sumthing explain why
...if he honestly loves u enough, next time u get into "that" situation he should say "stop! u know u dont want to do this!"
after a while not having sex will be easier...
i'm a Muslim and what you are talking about is part of my islam.
that i mustn't have sex with any person except my wife or my husband.
so just try to read about islam
see this links
http://www.islamawareness.net/Sex/
http://www.islamawareness.net/Sex/fatwa_sex_004.html
http://www.al-islam.org/m_morals/chap2b.htm
http://www.scribd.com/doc/301468/Islamic-Perspective-of-Sex
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