My fiancee and I have been dating for one year now and my sex drive is alot higher than his is. We are both 18 and I respect that he doesn't want sex all the time but he wont let me buy a vibrator. He says the if I buy one he will never have sex with me. I dont know what to do. He says that if I just ask him to have sex that he would but I have tried asking him many times and he always has some kind of excuse. He says things like "I'm too tired, my body isn't capable or he'll say leave me alone I want to go to sleep." Please help me I dont know what to do.

pasiria

I'd say, buy the vibrator anyway. He will end up accepting it. It happened to me at this age (33). However, buy a small one as an introduction. I have a bullet one. We use it together, or I use it alone. But, I still have two others for special occassions. I'd rather use one than be unfaithful for lack of sex. My boyfriend has two jobs and one of them changes shifts. When he works nights, he'll be tired. That is when my little friend comes in handy!!!

cozyk

What do you mean he won't let you buy one??? Why does he even get a say in something that personal for you? And then he threatens to never have sex with you again if you go against his wishes? This is a control issue. He thinks he has a right to control you. You are only 18. DO NOT Settle for this in your life. Every instinct in me is screaming DUMP HIM , DUMP HIM, DUMP HIM.

ScottGem

I agree with cozy. The nerve of this loser to try and control you that way. I say you are lucky you found out about it before you make the mistake of marrying him.