My boyfriend doesn't want sex as much as me.

Well me and my boyfriend are the exact opposite...I mean he is usually in the mood more often than I am! And I do know that when we do have sex, when we are finished my bf's penis feels uncomfortable to go again right away! Maybe he feels the relationship is only about sex...that's why I slowed down with the sex with my boyfriend..I thought all he thought about was sex and I wanted our relationship to be more than just sex yeah know?..I don't know if this really helped you or not..but I hope it did a little..

I can tell you it is possible with too much friction to do some wear and tear on his member. This might happen because of insufficient lubrication, longer periods of friction when sex is longer or positions that cause more friction, or by increased frequency of sex. I dated one girl who was ready all the time and occasionally this did happen. Usually it hurts some during, but hurts like mad after...especially when some skin has actually come off. So the penis hurting thing isn't necessarily a cop out. Imagine a bad scrape on your arm, and then dragging a fingernail over it... That's kind of how it feels.

He also might have performance issues with sex multiple times in one night. I can tell you I usually need some recovery time before I could go again. Too soon and the sensations are not as strong and sometimes its tough to sustain. Wait a while and its easier. But if he's mentally not there, it might be even harder.

Can he get you off orally? If so, then maybe that's the thing to do. If he can get you there orally, that's one hit for you. Then you will be lubricated well and maybe the friction isn't an issue. If you can return the favor to get him in the mood, perhaps then you can work it out a second time for you. This is the route I have to go with my woman. She can almost always get off orally first, unless she's mentally just not there, and then sex after usually works for me and sometimes her again.

If oral doesn't work, well then teach him how to please you orally. Even if you know the basic anatomy and what you are supposed to do my experience is that what stim one woman orally isn't necessarily what works for another. If oral doesn't work then you might need to self stim first maybe and then follow up with him?

I don't think he's uninterested in sex. It just may be that he needs more time in between to get "primed". I don't think sex should be a reason to date or not date someone, but I also think its healthy for you to be thinking about this and to be open. Knowing you want sex often is something you should know about yourself and your partner.

Back off and let the guy catch his breath.

Hey. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 20. We don't even have sex more than once per week. I'm sure this is wrong for our age and I just want it more. He doesn't seem to care. It seems like I'm always the one who initiates things, too. Have you gotten any good advice.

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Hi, I'm 19 and my boyfriend and I are having the same problem. We have sex once a week if that. I always initiate it, and I would like to have it more often. I tried talking to him and he claims he just has a smaller sex drive. I don't buy it, we used to have sex more often. He then told me that he sometimes has bad feelings after having sex and that having it less meant getting that feeling less. It could be that he is going through a stressful time now, and maybe sex is the last thing on his mind right now. Don't worry though, I'm sure it will change if that is the case.

Hi, I'm back, but the sex isn't. We have sex now like 1 time every 2-3 weeks. I've learned that ignoring him or wrestling with him normally sparks his interest.

If you don't have any moral or religious objections, I would suggest that you buy a vibrator. Relationships are based on respect. Try having a discussion and make it clear that you feel he should respect your sexual urges (and in return tell him that you respect that he may not always feel up for sex). It is a common misconception that men should feel more sexual than women. It sounds like you're having sex fairly often. If you act indifferent towards sex, you're boyfriend may be more apt to make a move on you. Some men like to take the lead. Good luck!

Honey I'm in the same boat you are only he doesn't want to give it to me at all he's 23 and I'm 21 we have been together since I was 14 and he was a virgin until he was 18 then we had sex well after the first time we had sex he just shut down he masturbates more then we have sex. I don't know what to do. He tells me it isn't me blah blah blah but I'm not sure what to think other men I slept with didn't complain and wanted more so I don't know when you find an answer let me know maybe it will help me out thanks CIAO