can a women have vaginal infection by fingering

donf

Gee, let me think about that. Hm, can germs be spread by a handshake?

Then logic tells me that germs can be transmitted into the vaginal area by touch. Not to mention irritation by massaging the area in a particulary hard way.

Oh, also lets not forget about finger nails scratching and depositing detritius into the area. All in all I'd say Yes!

LearningAsIGo

Absolutely

Hands should be washed very well before doing anything like that. Some may even recommend using a finger condom. (yes, they do exist)

donf

Learning,

Why so surprised? My wife educated me properly often at the blunt end of a 2X4.

As to the finger condoms, yes they exist, just talk to any allergist.

kp2171

sure.

anything from an irritation from the hand lotion you use to an infection from normal flora (common bacteria) on your fingers.

now... an infection alone doesnt mean its from fingering. for ex, my patner runs a lot, and changes her panties after running to reduce the chance of a yeast infection.

likewise, girls who are concerned about cleanliness might overdo it... bubblebaths, excessive cleaning, douches... all can actually increase the chance of irritation.

so whats up? whats going on? shes obviously has an issue. explain.

Mr_Clueless

Why Does the vagina hurts after fingering??

kp2171

it could be irritation from insufficient lubrication.

while we sometimes think of foreplay as needed to get the womans mind in the moment, whereas the guy can get there in an instant, foreplay actually primes her body for intercourse. lubrication of the vagina happens naturally (a "cleansing" method that occurs normally) but is increased with sexual arousal. some even call it "vaginal sweating".

point is, guys often rush things, myself included if im not thinking about her. a woman who is sexually aroused may not be properly lubricated, as it takes time for the hormones to signal the vagina to be ready to receive the man... even if you are using your hands.

so... friction in sex is good and bad. it heightens sensations and also potentially causes irritation. if shes feeling sore after she might not be properly lubricated (even if shes mentally "ready") and/or you might be too rough.

being soft with touches, whether finger or tongue, is sometimes difficult to do. grab your shaft hard and you know how good that feels. touch her hard and it can be too much.

and then theres also the issue of sensitivity. if you are fingering the "g spot"... there a lot of controversy over this area still today, decades after it was "announced"...

while all women should have this protective erectile spongy tissue that protects the urethra, a recent italian study said that some women are just not innervated there as much. which means some women are easily stimulated with g spot stim, and some get less out of it. which means you might need more friction to get a response, causing more discomfort after.

not that much different than cl!toral stim. one girl i dated could take hard stim of the cl!toris, while the next needed the softest, wetest kisses and would smack me upside the head if i thrashed her like the previous lover.

so if shes sore... think about proper lubrication first. foreplay helps. sometimes other lubrication is needed. after that, think about softer touches. while you are using your finger(s) bite at her neck or ears.. keep the stimulation coming from different angles. wash your hands before stimulating her, keep your nails trimmed. and if she still seems to be sore, think cl!toral.

Mr_Clueless

hmmmmm..... i thnk this is the reason . . . n hw cn u tell that a women is havng an orgasm or had an orgasm??

twinkiedooter

Trust me, you'll know if she's had an orgasm.

kp2171

are you asking how can you tell if shes faking it?

how good of an actress is she? women have written in here as recently as last week, stating theyve faked orgasm for years. it happens.

the problem is an orgasm doesnt always present itself the same. there are some common themes, but not all are always present in the same degree.

with oral, i can absolutely tell if my partner is in it and if she hits orgasm. her breathing gets shorter and shorter, she turns her head to the side, closes her eyes, often opens her mouth a little. her fingers are running over her chest or neck, and she gets flushed. at orgasm, pelvic muscles are contracting, and often she might even push me back some if the pressure is too intense. sometimes shell have some pelvic "shakes" after, cute tremors that last for maybe 10 seconds or so... but not always.

with intercourse much of the same happens. she a little more vocal with intercourse, and the internal stim combined with cl!toral seems to be a more passionate overall stim. again, short breathing, facial expressions show shes completely in the moment, and an obvious buildup. again... while not all orgasms seem to present themselves the same, theres a lot of the same things going on.

there are times when ill ask her if she actually hit, if it presented itself differently and shell tell me if it felt differently. when she doesnt hit it, shell tell me. we talk openly and im fine asking "did i lose you when i changed the rhythm, cause it seems you backed off some then" or others stuff like that.

ive had a pleasure of dating girls who care enough about their sexuality to be willing to talk about what works and what doesnt. my first gf might have faked and i wouldnt have known it. others after her, i honestly dont believe faked. we just had much better discussions about what worked and what didnt. that doesnt mean they always hit orgasm... it means they knew we could talk about what was working and try to figure out what happened when it didnt go right.

and once you get that open communication going, once she sees that if she doesnt hit orgasm, that you arent going to be hurt or angry... that you accept youll have some failure along the way to finding what works, usually the woman has been willing to open up and honestly talk about what feels good, what feels great, and what isnt working.

so... if your question was can you tell if shes faking it? again... some women seem to be doing it for as long as years on end, which is terribly unfortunate.

if your partner isnt excited about what you are doing it might be that she isnt getting there. it might be shes not mentally relaxed. it might be shes uncomfortable or feeling pressured. hard to know.

so why do you ask? you have doubts?