I have been married for about 12 years , my husband has always had a problem with my weight. I have never been hugely overweight just a little pudgy.At one time I lost a lot of weight and got down to a size 4. I am now at the most i have ever weighed.180 size 12/14

See the thing is, for the past several years my husband has had a really big problem with my weight , and as of these past two weeks he looks at me in disgust every day.
Like,I cook huge meals for him in the evening and he hardly speaks to me, he gets up from the table and goes outside or stays really busy. I confronted him, halfway knowing his answers to my hurt.He said he cannot love me like I am , overwight , anymore.
He needs me to loose the fat i have gained over time, he said he cannot touch me anymore. I just dont know what to do any more. Ihave tried the atkins , south beach etc. lost and then gained it all back, now it seems i just rebell bad, i just need a weight loss buddy to help me get back to a size small and save my marriage.I love my husband and I dont want to put my child througha divorce, I really need some links to some really powerful weight loss pills or some thing.

My husband is 6'6 and has never had a weight problem.And he said either I loose weight or my marriage is over...please someone be my weight loss friend,buddy. someone i have to be accountable to and someone who can point me in the right directions.
TIA
Kaytie

bushg

To the nice people that keep posting on this Younggrayhair has not signed on since December of 20007, most likely he took her computer away. Post #24
She did say that he threatened to, maybe he followed thru. Hopefully this situation will make some person that is facing the same problem stop, think and get out.

ladybug31

well i understand how you feel but i want to tell you that you are valuable and if you want to loose weight then do it for yourself after that dump his and go get someone else so he would know what he lossed and then he will regret it but dont worrry if he thinks thats more important then you then and the marriage then screw him but you know what goes around comes around.i hope you feel better and thigs get better God bless you and dont feel sad move on work out try to eat healthy like vegetables,salads,chicken,and stay away from fats and another thing theyres this diet called the cleveland diet youull loose 10 pounds in 3 days look it up on line and my aunts tried it and it worked for them but try to excercise to sign up to a gym or something.

Becca1025

That is exactly what happened with my parents marriage. My father is an a*shole. My mother has a thyroid problem and it is very hard for her to lose weight so he always told her all the time to lose weight. He even called her fat a*s at times. I rememer when my father told me to lose weight, I am 5'6 and when I was 14-15 I weighed 113 lbs. I looked sick and too thin. To him I was still fat. He tells my sister she is overweight all the time too. WHat your husband is doing is wrong. This is not a marriage. It's going to hurt you more if you stay with him rather then getting a divorce. Nobody should be treated that way no matter how they look or how much they weigh.

kimarnoldjohnso

To me seems very selfish. I would try making him jealous by letting him know many men prefer a woman that is pleasingly plump (me included).

ChristianRS

People have to realize that men and women work totally different when it comes to sex....MOST men focus on the physical...whether they like blondes, brunnetts, whatever....where women USUALLY focus on whether the guy is a good guy, good provider, personality, how they make them feel, family, etc..... it's a very different world.... it's the way men's brains are wired, certain physical features turns us on, and we can love you with all our hearts, but our brains will not allow us to get sexually excited and get a girl pregnant that is not fit to carry a baby....usually the more healthy a girl is (not anorexic skinny...but healthy) to carry a baby to term, the more desireable the women are to us....but being overweight, underweight, too old, whatever...is unatractive to most men and that's where I think it comes from....it's survival of the fitest...nature made it that way.....girls can forgive a guy not being in top condition if he can provide in other ways cause he aint the one carrying the baby....I think it would be different if men were the one's getting pregnant...i'm sure women would care if men were overweight with heart conditions a lot more.

Homegirl 50

This man is just rude. There is no excuse for this clown. Grown mature men do not treat their wives with such disrespect. He married her when she was what he thought was heavy, if it was that big a deal, he should not have. Now he is treating her like dirt instead of supporting and her and helping her loose some weight and respecting her as his wife.
I'd maybe expect this from a boy but a mature married man, Please.
You don't tell your wife, loose weight or the marriage is over. You tell her "honey, lets do this together, let me help you"
This ignorant and selfish man probably has a girl friend.

ChristianRS

Not trying to be rude...just the way nature is....it's the truth, which sometimes is really hard to swallow....but you are right....some men do like overweight women...it turns them on somehow...just like some men like to get their balls stompped on by high heels.....so if overweight women is your thing, power to you.

Homegirl 50

I'm not talking about men liking or dis liking overweight women. This man thought she was over weight when he married her and did anyway, now instead of helping her, he wants to treat her like dirt.
If you don't like overweight women fine, that your prerogative, but don't marry her then treat her like dirt when you change your mind.
This is not about weight preference, but treating your wife with respect.

ChristianRS

True that...well said. If she was fat, and u didnt like it, you shouldn;t have lied.

kp2171

the OP hasnt been here since december... she isnt coming to the AMHD boards now. just keep it in mind before spending a lot of time giving her advice. she hasnt been here since last year.