So many people asked me, why will i get married in young age,so many negative judgment instead of positive statement like "are you out of your mind?", "how can you be so sure"?
"oh, youre just a kiddo", and the meaniest is "You will end up in divorce! and blah blah blah.
a lot of people who say this probably they have had a bad experience plus it's a lot easier to just go along with the crowd.


For me its not about the age, age doesn't show maturity. but its about found your soulmate, some people have to wait so long to found it some of them didn't find it but i found mine in my young age thats all what count, i could never found someone better and i know i could never live without him and so with him. we are meant to be together.
well now i'll answer you guys, i dont need you to be agree with me, im telling you this so u guys dont underestimate what we have, its beyond ur imagination, what we have is something Great, amazing feeling that maybe some of you could never understand until u experienced it by ur self.



i really love my fiancee he is a good dependable guy, But I think the main reason i will marry him was because it felt right, in everything, we are so connected even thou his few miles away, and i so much trust in him. It was 100% yes, when he asked me. 100% sure, 100% Happiness inside, 100% sincere, and 100% commitment loyal to each other.i dont wanna marry someone that i can live with, i'll marry this guy that i cannot live without.I believe it is much better to marry the right person at the wrong time than to marry the wrong person at the right time. He is my Mr.Right, He is the guy that every girl ever ask for,my prince charming scene, and no one ever loved me like he do. no fears of getting hurt, cos i definetly know how much we love each other.


who says that the early 20’s is the wrong time to marry, anyway? we know what counts in life, i dont wanna be like the others end up in the bed with different guy in different night. is that make you happy? ing around? dont you wanna feel somebody laying in ur arms and tell you how much he loves you, hearing him breathing next to you? listen to his heart beat? i know its classical but thats the moment when you realised that your life is so complete to have somebody that always stand by your side in good and bad time.somebody to share joy,laughter,tears, to solved everything together. and im so much ready for that. i really dO! i want him to be first thing that i see when i wake up, and the last thing that i see before i go to bed, isn't that wonderful? with him i can be my self and so with him I think every girl wished for a hapapy marriage..and that’s very normal..but true love is so hard to find i know but once you found it oh god its ing awesome feeling inside you and makes you wanna cry cos of happiness.


be honest to your self, you also wants that one day somebody ask you to spend his life with you and only you, like in cinderella scene? you tired of waiting ur bf to purpose you right? cos baby in a fact he is not sure that youre the mrs.Right
thats why many people living together for many years but too afraid of commitment cos they are not sure that their partner is the right person, at least not yet.. dont you want everyday someone looking deep into your eyes n tells you that he loves you, someone too share the story after you came home. somebody to talk to and make fun of other people hehehe. so when youre in love and ready to commit it doesnt mater if you 21 or 81![/b][/color][/font]

candacepr13

I agree that marriage has nothing to do with age.

I'm twenty years old and have been with my current boyfriend for four years. Neither of us has ever cheated, we've had fights as all couples do but we managed to work through them. He is more than my best friend. He's been with me through a lot of really hard times. I have social anxiety disorder and despite all my problems he has stuck by my side and we are more in love now than we ever were.

Just because we're twenty does not mean anything. If we were thirty and had only known each other a year would you think we were more prepared to get married?? People change throughout their entire lives, I watched my mother change significantly after my dad died and she was nearly fifty. We are both incredibly mature for our age. We spend enough time together that we know everything bad and good about each other.

And if you want to throw statistics in there, most couples that live together before they're married get divorced.

We're both faithful so the idea of sleeping around and "playing the feild" isn't for me. We're not engaged yet but we've pretty much decided we're going to get married. We both want kids. We are both very family oriented and want to stay where we grew up. We love each others familes (in fact he will often times babysit my nephews when I can't). We're both in college right now but both of our dreams are artistic (I want to go into film and he wants to be a musician we'll both probably end up as teachers) so if we wait for financial stability we'll probably be waiting our whole lives.

I understand that at 20 years old many people aren't ready, but to group everyone together by age is unfair.

Jake2008

I got married at 22, he was 23, we have been married 33 years this past July, and I'd like to tell you what I'd do differently.

We both started off with good jobs, solid friends, family, and believed that we could conquer anything. And we did. Lived through devastation, job loss, illness, and had the highest highs and the lowest lows. We made it work, we communicated, and still do, very well. We still love eachother.

But, reading these posts has me thinking that, what would the difference had been, had we waited five years. For one thing, I would have learned more about him, and what kind of man he was maturing into. I am high energy, get out and do things kind of person, and he is a lay low, papers and the history channel kind of guy. I did not know our metabolisms were so different in the very early years. But, I developed my own interests, and didn't sit still. Still don't.

What I gave up were opportunities I could have had, had I delayed marriage, and the committment it requires to work. That puts a very special time in your life when you are young, to experience life, on hold. Marriage takes everything you've got, financially and emotionally. You are not steering your own life now, you are steering a shared life.

I had been a model, had a college degree, and an opportunity to join a national airline, and see the world. I had been offered a contract for work doing things I loved to do- art photography at a college. I had interests in music, and a desire to experience different cultures.

But, I was so in love, and marriage put an end to those kinds of dreams. I replaced them all with a mortgage, job, car payments. Then came babies, diapers, years of stress and sacrifice. Job layoffs, moves across the country, and indifference with inlaws. My single friends who stayed single longer than I did, did live their dreams. Many continued their educations, and became very successful in their own right.

I run into some of them now and then, and I think, "They are living my dream".

Would I have not married my husband? No, I would have married him. But, and here's the big but, I would have taken five years to remain single, and explore my interests and talents, before I joined another person for life.

So, you have to think. If you could have five years, just for you, right at this time in your life to persue anything you've always wanted to do, would you regret not doing them, 33 years from now?

pleasehelp88

I agree with Becca1025 and La Siesta Encantada.
I am 21 and my fiance (whom I will marry next year) is 24. We have finished college..He has a bacholars and I finished Dental Assisting school. We have been together for over 4 years.( not the off-again, on-again relationship that most young immature people have but we have been together for 4 years straight! ) I don't think its the age at all that matters. What matters is your maturity level and how responsible you are. Marriage it definitely not a fairy tale, we know that there will be good and bad times. You will have to work with each other and compromise and all...I also dont think its has bad as some people say. I have known several people that have worked through college after getting married. Sure its a struggle but everything in life is. Life does not stop after marriage...its a new journey.