Asked Jul 27, 2011, 10:36 PM
I have been dating a guy for about 18 months. His wife is deceased and his adult daughter just announced her engagement. I've met the daughter only once but it went well and we've exchanged a few friendly emails and also small gifts for each other's birthdays and christmas. It's been low key but friendly, no conflict whatever.
The father/my boyfriend told me he was not sure I could come to the wedding, that he'd have to talk it over with his daughter.
As I expected, the daughter has said it's fine for me to come, but I am still a little taken aback. It never occurred to me that I would not be welcome. Wouldn't I be a sort of natural plus one? There's no mystery conflict with anyone else in the family, either.
To put it another way, would it have been reasonable to exclude the father's steady girlfriend from the wedding?
How would you react to this if it happened to you?