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My best friend is getting married in May and has asked me to be the Maid of Honor. I accepted but told her when I accepted that I would not be able to afford to purchase a "one time use" gown and would need her guarantee that my dress would be something classic and re-wearable she agreed.
Well today she called to let me know that instead of the wine colored cocktail dress we agreed on I was to now go out and purchase a rather impractical organza easter egg lilac dress from an expensive bridal shop.
Her reason was that one of the bridesmaid looked bad in the bridesmaid dress she picked out so she decided to put her in a different dress and now did not want "a bunch of mis matched dressed strolling down the aisle". I told her that she knew I could not afford to purchase a toss off dress nor could I afford a dress from an expensive dress store. What can I do here to not seem like the jerky friend? She keeps turning it around saying that I'm making a fuss...am I? Thank for your help.
I just don't want me backing out causing a strain in our friendship. She has been more sensitive lately and I don't want her to come to some knee jerk conclusion.
Maybe we here on AMHD should collect donations for Glinda so she can afford whatever expenses come her way as maid of honor. (The bride's new bridesmaid dress choice sounds kinda icky though.)
You've heard of bridezillas? I hope the bride is not going to become one of those. She may be trying too hard to please whoever the current complainer is.
It seems like the only choice I have is to pay for a dress I cannot afford or lose a friend....is that it or I'm I just worrying WAY too much here?
It seems to me like any reasonable person would be willing to come to a compromise. I dont think your choices should be spend a ridiculous amount of money on an ugly dress you'll never wear again, or lose your relationship as friends.
She is pretty much dead set on it. I tried to get her to look at other dresses in other colors and even different styles of the same dress and she refused. She then did the whole this is my day not yours and you are trying to make it about you, blah blah blah.
I am not saying you should do this, at all, but if "my bride" and me cant come to a compromise, i'm going to have to choose my money. I have kids and a household to take care of, and just cant afford it.
If she wont look at any other dresses at all, your choices are buy the dress, or dont. The thing is, after this day passes you will more than likely go back to being the best of friends, but you'd still be stuck with that dress. Maybe after the wedding you can sell it on eBay or something?
I just really cannot afford this dress. I'm starting my own business so all of my money is tied up in that. I know her and she is a grudge holder. I just feel so stuck. Its like my reasonable friend is all of a sudden unreasonable. Is it possible that she is trying to push me out purposefully?
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