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My best friend is getting married in May and has asked me to be the Maid of Honor. I accepted but told her when I accepted that I would not be able to afford to purchase a "one time use" gown and would need her guarantee that my dress would be something classic and re-wearable she agreed.
Well today she called to let me know that instead of the wine colored cocktail dress we agreed on I was to now go out and purchase a rather impractical organza easter egg lilac dress from an expensive bridal shop.
Her reason was that one of the bridesmaid looked bad in the bridesmaid dress she picked out so she decided to put her in a different dress and now did not want "a bunch of mis matched dressed strolling down the aisle". I told her that she knew I could not afford to purchase a toss off dress nor could I afford a dress from an expensive dress store. What can I do here to not seem like the jerky friend? She keeps turning it around saying that I'm making a fuss...am I? Thank for your help.
You know, you can either afford it or you can't. If you can't, bow out of it. She will either understand or she won't. And if she doesn't, then you have just learned something about her that you probably needed to know.
It is possible, but would there be a reason why? Have you been fighting lately or anything like that (other than over this issue)?
Like Wondergirl said, she could just be becoming a Bridezilla. I hope not for your sake, because they look like they are extremely difficult to deal with.
Be honest with her. If you already have, do it again. Tell her that you are starting your business and thinking of your future, and this is an expense you just cannot afford. She will either understand, or she wont. If she doesnt understand, then I feel it is her loss. When it comes to spending money you cannot afford to spend, you really have to think of yourself as well as the bride.
Our friendship has been fine. She lives in NY and I lived there as well up until about 5 months ago and things between us have been okay. She is sort of flaky with calling and emailing but thats just her. I just never thought that something like a wedding could cause this much drama between the two of us.
Isn't that bride paying for all in America? Why you are asked to pay for it Glinda?
I might be wrong, but I thought Bride pays for everything.
Most of the time the members of the wedding party are responsible for paying for their own things such as dress, hair, nails, etc. If a bride pays for it, that is a very nice bride.
Most of the time the members of the wedding party are responsible for paying for their own things such as dress, hair, nails, etc. If a bride pays for it, that is a very nice bride.
In Japan, it's the man's responsibility to PAY FOR EVERYTHING. What a culture difference here!
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