I am 17 years old an am engaged to be married a couple of monthes after i turn 18 to my fiance who is 19 and will be 20 by the time we marry. When i tell people this they act very shocked and it seems as though they dissaprove. What can i do to reassure them that this is definately the person i want to spend the rest of my life with and that i am not being immature or hasty about it???

sweety

17 IS A YOUNG AGE BUT IGNORE WAT OTHERS FINK OF U GETTING MARRIED. IT SHOULDNT MATTER TO U WAT OTHERS FINK COS ITS UR LIFE AND UR IN CONTROL OF IT.
OTHERS MAY SEEM JEALOUS OF U GETTING MARRIED TO UR BOYFRIEND.
JUS CONCENTRATE ON UR SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP AND BE HAPPY.

jaymel

Hello I'm 20 years old and planning to get married to my 19 year old girl friend in a couple of months also. We have been having the same type of ordeal. I guess that today people dont think that we are able to realize what love is because that we are young. They think that its just a little phase that we are going through. Alot of adults dont believe that we know how hard marriage is but we do we see it all the time. What you need to do is show that you too are going to make it work no matter what. Action is better than talk and after people see what you are doing to make each other happy they will begin to help you instead of bringing you down its true that marriage is hard but if take care of your business everything will be alright.

I wish you the Best!!!!!
If you need anymore advise feel free

chicki

i think people just feel like you have your whole life ahead of you....im 20 and i personally cannot imagine myself marrying right now. ive been with my bf for 5 years and we're pretty commited but we dont have plans of marrying until we're both settled.

however....in your case..i hope everything works out. my question is what is the rush? i have no doubt that you're in love. all im saying is i know where other people are coming from.... with the high rate of divorce and single parenthood.

but, i do know of cases where young marriages survive. my own parents are a testiment to that being married at 19 (mom) and 21 (dad). 20 years and 4 daughters later..they're still very much in love.

anyway, i wish you best of luck. take care and congratulations

Nix

Hello,

I have been reading your debate about the pros and cons of marrying young with great interest.

My name is Nicola and I am working on a Channel 4 documentary about this very topic.

I would love to talk to anyone who married as a teenager or who is planning on getting married young- to talk about how it is all going.

Please feel free to get in contact with me even if its just to find out a bit more information.

Nicola Hurst

020 7317 2230 - ext 250

drache

I'm engaged and i'm 23 years old, and i still have people telling me I'm too young to get married!! :P
My advice is to do what your heart tells you. ;D
A friend's relative was married when she was 16, and they have been happily married for 50 years, and counting!!

Good Luck!!

nirvanarules

im 16 and im getting married on my birthday. iv been wid my bf for 3yrs. people are very understanding where i am and my family support me in evrything i do.

opal183

As long as you know you are making the right decision for YOU not anyone else ( NOT EVEN YOUR FIANCE).. then go for it. you dont need to live your life for other people.. you need to live it for yourself, hun. You are the only who knows what is right for you. So if people say, oh.. your too young.. tell them they can think that, but all that you want is there support and them backing you. you dont really care bout their opinion.

follow your heart!
good luck

Kay Kay

first of all you cant reassure anyone of anything. personally i could never get married so young but thats not what matters.
you should not try to assure anyone because all that matters that you want

Brandi Nikki

I dont Think there is anything wrong with getting married young as long as you are in love and so is the person. I just turned 17 in may and i am gettin married in august.