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I am 17 years old an am engaged to be married a couple of monthes after i turn 18 to my fiance who is 19 and will be 20 by the time we marry. When i tell people this they act very shocked and it seems as though they dissaprove. What can i do to reassure them that this is definately the person i want to spend the rest of my life with and that i am not being immature or hasty about it???
Why are you in such a hurry to get married? If you are yet 20 years old, you have about 60 more years to live your life. More significantly, you have another 10 - 20 years of dating life ahead of you. You will meet a better person for your would be spouse when you are much more mature, more financially secured, etc.. You will also have a lot more fun than getting stuck with someone you met when both of you are teenagers. If you don't believe me, try living together for a few years and see if it feels right to be stuck with your partner for another 40 years.
Who says that to be happy you have to be the best you can be? Discovering who you are with the one that you love is very satifying. The trend that you have to financially and emotionally and educationally (etc etc) sound before you get married is a big load of crap. It's each person. If you feel you need those things before you can be a good spouse, then wait. But some people are ready before then as well.
dont worry about anyone else...my future in-laws got married when they were 17 and 19 yrs old...and they are about to celebrate 25 years.....dont let anyone tell you that you cant do it....cause you can....it takes alot of work but it can definately be done....i wish you a very happy marriage and i hope that one day people come and apologize to you and your husband becasue they judged you to quickly....
You see it is stereotypical that a lot of people that get maried young, don't stay married. It has been proven over and over. I mean if this is what you want to do, by all means go for it. Just make sure that you are both ready, because this is a big step in life. Amother thing is that people change when they get married it can either be for the better or for the worst, but note that when you take your vows you must mean it in order to deal with these changes. Good Luck!
I do not think that there is anything wrong with getting married young as long as you are financially independent (yourself, not you and your partner) and secure with yourself as an individual.
i am a 17 years getting married next year around my birthday, people look at me like im too young to get married Truth is there is no right age to get married, because age is just a number, It’s your maturity that counts. People say that im crazy cause my life is going to be "over" when i get married.
I'm doing a term paper on young marriages and how i disagree with how ppl think young ppl are just way too young I'm interviewing ppl and if any one is kind enough to answer some questions please do so... if you're married please reply
Please state how many years you've been married _________
Please state how old both of you were when you engaged in a marriage ___________
Please state how long did it take for both of you to start thinking about marriage ____________
Question #1 : What would you say was the toughest obstacle both of you had to over come?
Question #2 : Would you say that marrying at a young age inflicted any problems with your marriage?
Question #3 : What advice would you give to a young couple considering marriage? Would you recommend it?
Question #4 : Do you believe that some people are close minded when it comes to marriage? Why?
Question #5 : Do you believe it would've been better if you waited til you were older to marry? & Why?
Question #6 : What do you think is the most popular cause for young married couple's like yourselves to divorce?
Question #7 : Are you fed up with what some people say & think of young marriages? & Why?
Question #8 : What do you think of marriage? Would you say it's crazy to marry at a young age?
The reason why young people have trouble realizing they are too young to get married is because they don't have enough life experience yet to know the mistake they are probably making! So, when you're 16, 17, 18, 19... you think you know, but you don't. Your age and development stage makes you believe that you are ready, but when in reality, you're going to be faced with a lot of problems that you will need a high level of maturity and life experience to deal with and overcome. About four years ago I was a 17-year-old who thought I could be married (I wanted to be married SO BAD!), but looking back I think... Was I really that crazy and selfish!? I still have so much to learn out about myself before I can fully commit to being part of a marriage. If you're just now getting out of high school and think you're ready for marriage... rethink it! You will change tremendously in those first few years after you get out of school. Whether you go on to college, go on to work, do both... you will be surprised at how much you change (and your mate!). Slow it down, you've got a lot of life ahead of you. Learn about who you are, what you want... know your opinions on everything and have a plan of how you want the rest of your life to be. If you get married young, it MAY work, but I certainly wouldn't recommend it.
I'm a 19 year old Norwegian girl. I have been with my Brazilian boyfriend for two years.
We met through some friends and started talking online in 2003.. And in january in 2004 he came here to Norway to visit me, and we became a couple. Then we were apart for 6 months before he moved here to be an exchange student to be with me in august 2004. But we had some problems us his exchange-parents didnt let s see eachother so much. They didnt want him to be so committed... well... in june 2005 the exchange program ended and we went together to Brazil and spent three months living together. We came home in october. Now we are living together here in Norway and we are talking about getting married soon. Do you goys think is too early? My family thinks its to early, and some of my friends too... but how much should I listen to that? I love him more than anything and he loves me too.. And if we get married now, it will make things much easier for us to be together, because of our different nationalities.. He wants to live here in Norway and is working a lot to get a visa, but if we got married we could juist be together.. Its very hard.. Do you think we are ready?
Sorry about the long question and the english mistakes.. :P
I wrote a thread asking what others thought about getting married young. I am 17. I was suppose to get married on September 9th 2006, a few days after my 18th birthday. I am not getting married until 2008. My boyfriend and i decided that we might be rushing into things a little early. WE have decided to still move in. The love is there along with the commitment we jus want to make sure that what we are doing is right. I have no problem marrying young . I jus think after some long talks, late nights, and ALOT of tears that maybe we should take another look. ALways look from every persepctive, don't blind yrself to all aspects of life. Be POSITIVE that you know what you are doing. To all those who know in there heart and gut that there are ready, I wish you all the best in the world. Reality and God should keep your feet on the ground.
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