I met my wonderful fiance 10 months ago and we are planning to get married on our 1 year anniversary which is in August. I am 19 and he is 35, but I really do not think the age matters although some people say it does. I was wondering casue we cannot decide where to get married at . I would appreciate it if some of you could like give me a few ideas on where to have it besides at home or on the church grounds or inside the church or on the beach. Please if you have any ideas on where to have a wedding I would very much appreciate it. I welcome any questions you might have for me, seeing that I am young and innocent as most people would put it. Thanx a million MELISA

fredg

Hi, Melisa,
As you said "young and innocent".
At 19, you really haven't lived life very much; compared to your fiance` of 35 yrs.
Ten months really isn't a long at all to get to know someone. I was divorced after my 1st 7 yrs of marriage. She was 19, me 24....too early for her!
It took me 2 yrs to really "fall in love" with another woman, and a year after that, remarried; now for 29 yrs.
If you two are really in love, it won't matter if you get married at one year, or two. Why not wait another year and see if things are the same. It's a lot easier to get married than to get Divorced!
Best of luck.

fredg

Just noticed you are from Marianna, FL. I was born and raised in your "neck of the woods", about 30 miles from you. Used to go to Ft. Walton Beach, on Sunday afternoon with Mom, Dad, and my brother, when we were kids. Now live in VA.

Melisa

yes thanx! We are very much in love! If i searched the world over i do not think i would ever find a better man than him. Thanx for the advice! I very much appreciate it! Melisa

valinors_sorrow

There are a lot of kooky places... underwater in full scuba gear, on mountain tops, on waterskiis, whilst jumping from airplanes, at the rodeo, in a nudist camp .. laughing here!!

If I may echo Fred's sentiments, slow down a little?

As you discover more of who you are, the "where" and "how" to get married may become more readily apparent to you both. It needs to be meaningful to you two specifically. Its Your Day after all!

For us, it was a second marriage and we already had all our material needs met so we had it "pot-luck" style - where each aspect of the wedding was managed by a different friend and that was their gift to us. What a loving experience that was and just what we wanted too!

Thanks for posting Melisa, congrats to you both and good luck!

Fr_Chuck

At the place you first meet or at the place you went on the first date.

I have done weddings in hot air ballons, airplanes ( did not do the parachute thing but konw of some that have)

At a public park, a skating rink, I held of someone at Walmart but no proof of that one.

Amythest

before of the where, how many people are you thinking are going to be there? This can greatly affect/effect (usage?) the where you can go.
some of the above idea's are great. I've seen them in parks. I would think of something you really like doing together.....and plan based on that. maybe at an art museaum if you like art? also what is budget? if money isn't a huge issue, you could maybe talk to some some place that does local band shows and maybe do it on the stage. not that i would really think it's a great idea but some talk shows do specials and you go get marreid on t.v. ( that cpould work out though because you could just tell people when to watch it) ppl could see it with out you having to pay for the 200 guests ????
maybe do it under the stars? at sunset or sun rise? country, forrest, jungle woods? underground? cave? if your more into the goth scene at a cemetary. though if your superstitous.....on a roof top? block off a street and do it there. firetruck? police car? i don't know if they'd let you but you could ask. who knows the possiblities are only ;limited to your imagination....and your wallet, and whats legal :P good luck.

adele18

Hey melissa

I think you are doing the right thing i am 19 and my partner is 31 and we are getting married in a month so dont let people judge you or make you feel bad cause of the age difference if you love each other and are happy go for it..

I wish you both well

By the way i am a wedding planner so if you need any help planning it i will be glad to offer my services over the internet

thanks adele

synonim

Get married standing ankle deep in the ocean, with the waves gently rolling in.

lacuran8626

There certainly are exceptions to the usual, but I think you may be moving too fast. Please make sure that before you set the date, you have premarital counseling and make sure that you and your fiance have come to clear agreements on the issues that most people find most difficult in marriage. Money management, and who works how much, is a huge issue. How many children and when is another. What is yours and your fiance's track record with fidelity (rhetorical - of course, you don't have to tell me but make sure you both know!) Most couples have key issues they argue about often (him going out with the boys, being jealous or you spending too much, or whatever). Make sure they are resolved completely before you set a wedding date.

Then, I would suggest you think about what places have particular meaning for you as a couple, and what places you like to go to personally. Is there somewhere you find that you can think more clearly, or where you like to go if you are unhappy to cheer yourself up? Do you love art or gardens or water? Consider a gallery, the party room of a favorite restaurant, a local arboretum, a historic building, the rooftop garden/pool area of a fancy apartment building, or wherever you feel most at ease.

Be sure that your focus is on the marriage more than the wedding. A lot of us are in love with the person we are marrying, and with the idea of marriage, but we aren't ready yet. Do the homework and you will have a much better chance of being in the 50% that stay married forever.

Best wishes to you!