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  • Apr 23, 2007, 10:12 AM
    Emily94
    To young to date?
    How old should someone be to go on a date. For instance should a 12 year old girl(grade 7) be going out to guys to the movies?? Should she even be talking to them on the phone the computer? Is 12 to young to date? Because I like this one guy and hah I bet you knew this was coming I'm 12 we were going to go to the movies but instead we went to mu cuzez and just hung out.(he's 13 grade 7). Please anserew me a.s.a.p!
  • Apr 23, 2007, 10:30 AM
    animal lover
    Hi I went out with someone when I was 12 and we did all sorts together. 12 is not to young its just about the right age.
  • Apr 23, 2007, 10:33 AM
    ScottGem
    Sorry, but I disagree. At 12 its Ok to hang out in groups, go on group dates. But I would wait until 14 before you do one on one dating. Talking on the phone or online is fine.

    What do your parents say?
  • Apr 23, 2007, 10:35 AM
    animal lover
    Sorry but when you have a boyfriend you want your inderpendents.
  • Apr 23, 2007, 10:36 AM
    Matt3046
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem
    Sorry, but I disagree. At 12 its Ok to hang out in groups, go on group dates. But I would wait until 14 before you do one on one dating. Talking on the phone or online is fine.

    What do your parents say?

    Scott is right, but as a father I would say one on one dating, you should be at least 25. But maybe I am not reasonable.
  • Apr 23, 2007, 10:42 AM
    Emland
    Perhaps studying vocabulary would serve a better use for time!

    12 is 6th grade, correct? I didn't even admit I liked boys until well into Junior High School. My, how times have changed.

    I agree with Scottgem. Group activities make more sense and are safer (especially for girls!) Don't rush - you have plenty of time.
  • Apr 23, 2007, 10:43 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by animal lover
    sorry but when you have a boyfriend you want your inderpendents.

    First, at 12 or 13, even into 14, young people are usually more enamored with the idea of a boy/girl friend then the are with the actual person. You see the concept of a male-female relationship portrayed on TV and in movies and you want to emulate it. But at that young age, you just don't have the maturity. Don't try to grow up too fast!

    Second, at 12 & 13, you don't have independence, period. You are totally dependent on your parents for food, shelter, clothing, transportation etc.
  • Apr 23, 2007, 10:43 AM
    donohoec
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Emily94
    How old should someone be to go on a date. For instance should a 12 year old girl be going out to guys to the movies??? Should she even be talking to them on the phone the computer? Is 12 to young to date? Because i like this one guy and hah i bet you knew this was coming im 12 we were going to goto the movies but instead we went to mu cuzez and just hung out.(he's 13). Please anserew me a.s.a.p!!

    Not really, if you are interested in some one go get them.
  • Apr 23, 2007, 11:28 AM
    Emland
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ScottGem
    Second, at 12 & 13, you don't have independence, period. You are totally dependent on your parents for food, shelter, clothing, transportation etc.

    That describes a couple of 30 something year old nesters I know, too!
  • Apr 23, 2007, 01:55 PM
    Emily94
    If it helps any it grade 7 hah.. and for scott gems questions just like matt 3506 not until I'm 25 and I don't have a mom so...
  • Apr 23, 2007, 03:59 PM
    Emland
    I feel a kinship since we are both named Emily! My son is 16 and has only recently progressed to group outings to the movies and no parents. I think it depends a lot on how responsible you and your date are and the community you are in. I grew up in a small town and everyone knew everyone else. I am raising my children in a huge city where I don't even know my neighbor's last name, so I will never allow her to go unchaperoned to the movies. If your guardian is saying no, it isn't to stop your fun, but to look out for you best interests.

    Quote:

    akms : hay who's awsoming she's straight I'm trans and have liked GIRLS since 1st grade o.k
    I am not assuming anything. Emily94 asked if 12 was too young for a girl to go out with a guy.

    You've liked girls since 1st grade? Well, bully for you.
  • Apr 23, 2007, 05:59 PM
    akms
    Comment on ScottGem's post
    Hi I'm 11 and "supposedly mature" for my age 12s a good age if your not really imature and 11s a good age if your REALLY mature
  • Apr 23, 2007, 06:04 PM
    akms
    Comment on Emland's post
    Hay who's awsoming she's straight I'm trans and have liked GIRLS since 1st grade o.k
  • Apr 23, 2007, 08:33 PM
    luv22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Emily94
    How old should someone be to go on a date. For instance should a 12 year old girl(grade 7) be going out to guys to the movies??? Should she even be talking to them on the phone the computer? Is 12 to young to date? Because i like this one guy and hah i bet you knew this was coming im 12 we were going to goto the movies but instead we went to mu cuzez and just hung out.(he's 13 grade 7). Please anserew me a.s.a.p!!

    Hi, Im 22, but I have a 12 year old sister, and I got to tell you, I think Dating can't really happen until your at least 16 and driving. But a boyfriend, sure that's cool. I think its more of a maturity thing though. Until your trusted it should be limited, as well as supervised. But you sound like a smart girl.
  • Apr 23, 2007, 09:53 PM
    krittengirl
    Hi, I am a mother of 3 girls ( ages 10, 8, and 4) and a boy (age 3). My 8 year has asked me to tell her at what age she will be allowed to go out on a date. I tell her that I cannot give her a specific age, and together with her father we will decide when she is mature enough.
    Why are you concerned with going on a date instead of hanging out with a bunch of people and the guy? If you want to go on a date so that you can have the privacy to make out then you are definitely not ready to go. There is no reason why you can't have a boyfriend without actually going on a date. You can hang out and be around each other without the pressure of being on a date.
    If you don't have a mom around, is there another family member or friends mom that you look up to as a role model who you can talk with about these things? Someone who knows you better will be able to help you a lot more than strangers -no matter how caring we are.
  • Apr 24, 2007, 11:08 PM
    mommysgurl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Emily94
    How old should someone be to go on a date. For instance should a 12 year old girl(grade 7) be going out to guys to the movies??? Should she even be talking to them on the phone the computer? Is 12 to young to date? Because i like this one guy and hah i bet you knew this was coming im 12 we were going to goto the movies but instead we went to mu cuzez and just hung out.(he's 13 grade 7). Please anserew me a.s.a.p!!

    Well hun... I know that this is probably not what you want to hear but I got to tell you that it is OK to date at 12... lol you were expecting me to say something else weren't you lol... well hun I say as long as you like the guy and the guy likes you and yal are both old enough to know right from wrong then hun you are so OK to go on a date... I mean you aren't too young to date but because your 12 and you date doesn't mean to rush things aight... jus keep it kwl, be yourself, and member don't rush things because hun you isn't ever too old to learn new things and you isn't gota be a master mind at all things when your 12 either so member take it sloooooowwwwww... lol but for real if you have any more questions or you don't understand what I'm saying to you right now then holla back aight!! laterz
  • Apr 24, 2007, 11:24 PM
    Matt3046
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    Originally Posted by Matt3046
    Scott is right, but as a father I would say one on one dating, you should be at least 25. But maybe i am not reasonable.


    I was just kidding you, sometimes my sense of humor is not funny at all. Sorry, just take it slow. I think most parents would probably be open to chaperoned or group dates. I know you probably feel like this allot, well don't worry things will change.


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  • Apr 25, 2007, 05:37 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by mommysgurl
    well hun.....i got to tell you that it is ok to date at 12....

    Typically, the adults have said 12 is too young and the kids (mommysgurl is 15) have said its OK.

    But, if kids always knew what was best for them, they wouldn't need parents to help guide them to adulthood. The whole purpose of the family unit is to provide a nurturing environment for a child to develop. It has long been proven that children need guidance. As they grow they develop the maturity to make decisions on their own. But they need time and experience to be able to do that.

    So, I will reiterate what the adults have said. At 12 children are generally too young an immature for the emotional attachment of dating. That does not mean they can't be friends with someone of the opposite sex, or even that they can't hang out together. But there is a mystique about "dating" that a child is not yet prepared to handle.

    Don't try to grow up too fast. Your childhood is a precious time. Don't try to rush the transisition to adolescence and adulthood.
  • Apr 25, 2007, 06:31 AM
    kaitlinandreg07
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Emily94
    How old should someone be to go on a date. For instance should a 12 year old girl(grade 7) be going out to guys to the movies??? Should she even be talking to them on the phone the computer? Is 12 to young to date? Because i like this one guy and hah i bet you knew this was coming im 12 we were going to goto the movies but instead we went to mu cuzez and just hung out.(he's 13 grade 7). Please anserew me a.s.a.p!!

    I'm 19 and I know how you feel although I think dating at your age is all right as long as there is no sex or any thing. Going to the movies is fun for any one go for it just don't do anything you will regret. Have sex kiss when you feel right not him, don't think that just because every one is doing it you have to be an idividual and don't make stupid choices. Go have fun!! Good luck and hope I helped
  • Apr 25, 2007, 06:44 AM
    Emily94
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Matt3046
    I was just kidding you, sometimes my sense of humor is not funny at all. Sorry, just take it slow. I think most parents would probably be open to chaperoned or group dates. I know you probably feel like this allot, well don't worry things will change.


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    Hah matt I knew you were kidding and I think my dad is to:confused: I think he is hah turns out my sis knows the guy I want to date hah she's pretty tight with his bro hah( there best friends)

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