Do you realize that many of your friends probably feel this way about themselves, even if they don't show it?

You shouldn't ever have to depend on others to compliment you. Low self esteem is a very dangerous thing. I think you should try talking to someone about how your feel. There are many people who work just to show people who feel like you do to love themselves.

Ever heard the saying "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"? Beauty is all a matter of perception and what each likes in another person. Someone I may find to be gorgeous, will inevitably be someone another would find to be ugly. That's just life. We all are entitled to our own opinion while some are harsher than others.

Yes and no. You are who you are, end of discussion. You get to choose whether to interpret that as beautiful. Until you can accept yourself as the beautiful person you are, you will NEVER accept that someone else feels you are.


I notice that you kept pointing out things that you felt were "bad aspects" about yourself. I know there are things you like about yourself. Don't highlight all the bad. Love yourself for you. It truly saddens me to hear anyone talk about themselves this way. I'm not gorgeous by any means, but I'm me. I'm not getting any better or worse than that, so I've learned to accept it as who I am. Once you get to that point, people feel that confidence and it persuades them otherwise too. I wish you the very best and I hope that you will keep us posted.

<3 Leslie

Sorry so long!

To lighten the mood a bit, you could hang around with people you consider ugly, to make you feel better, I am joking, all of the above would be better options.

Real Friends don't Call you ugly.Simple.
Stop feeling down about your Looks because it shouldn't matter what you look like People should love you for who you are be more outgoing and Join different things in school Clubs and such and if that isn't your Type of thing Just have fun with life There might be some really Beautiful people out there But some Have Personalitys like A stuck up cow
You shouldn't think about going out and buying Products to make you feel Prettyer
Cut Down on some junk food and dance around with Your Friends Act out And be friendly lol I know it sounds Cheesy

WELL, technically, looks are dermined by your genes. Its like shopping before you are born. You chose these genes before you knew how to breathe. See, when you were conceived, all the genes from every one in your family came to you and you picked the ones you liked best. That's the scientific reasoning. God made people look different to teach people tolerance. He made people blind, deaf, or dumb to show that he could and he could still love them. You are not ugly, just different. I don't look like you, and you don't look like me. See, everyone has to be different or else we'd all be grey blobs.

An old movie that helped me is going to be a very old movie for you... Barbara Strisand (not sure of spelling of her last name) stared in the "The Mirror Has Two Faces" Basically she remakes herself, if you watch she does not change that much physically at all. The change in her however is really amazing. Attitude and how one carries themselves, that is what makes the difference. It is actually a pretty entertaining movie...

Looks can only take you so far... trust me when you get older you will look very handsome... puberty tends to change you and sometimes turn you into a person you don't want to be... roll with the punches I'm sure that one day in your life you will feel GreaT.

(My cousin is the by far most unattractive person when it comes to looks, but when girls get to know him they Immediately ask him 4 his #, he doesn't care about what people think... he has a positive additude and thatz what makes him so special)

Hopefully you will see that one day... Gud LucK ; )

I have the same problem all the guys at school tease me for being ugly!! I ignore it! I just go with my friends! But you know what! I met this guy who looked ugly! Us I got to know him I sated to have a crush on him and hats how he looked more cute to me! Because he was being a nice guy that's all! But now he's mean!! But still like hannah Montana said looks don't matter!

Just so everyone knows, this thread was started in August of 2007, and the last posts were January... lol.

It's interesting - genetics can turn out to help you. For me, I used to be cute with large eyes as a kid. As I grew older, I became unusually (and unluckily) unattractive in the face. People used to taunt me everywhere I went because I had the loser dork look. Almost everyone took advantage of me.

But something happened during my last semester in college - I managed to get onto the right dieting schedule and I become physically fit. It removed all my face fat. In a time span of 3 months, everyone (including girls, guys, and even TA's) not only stopped ostracizing me - they started admiring me. People even started commenting that I was cute.

My mind also became much sharper after I became fit. Getting fit is not starving oneself and losing weight. It's the opposite - eating healthy foods and exercising at least half an hour a day.

Towards the end of college, I had so much self-confidence; I could walk into a night club and get onto the dance floor.

Eat the right foods, become physically fit; lose all your face-fat (do not starve yourself - it doesn't work that way). You've got to start running and doing regular cardio. It changed my life. It may change yours.

God Bless You!!

First of all: It's not that they're more attractive then you are, it's that they see themselves as more attractive. It's all in your attitude, babe. If you feel attractive, you'll be attractive to others. And second of all: Those people are obviously not your friend's if they are telling you that your ugly. That is just horrible. Your probably not as ugly as you believe you are, it's just programmed into your brain, no thanks to your "friends." Now if your features are really that important to you then: Get braces/whitening toothpaste, Get a good deep conditioner and maybe style it differently, and try some neosporin on your skin. It works wonders, believe me. Don't worry about your nose and eyes. They're probably not so bad. Sorry this is so long. Good luck, sugah. I hope you get some real friends, not some fake ones.

-Sam

Sometimes people will call you that cuae their jealous. Tell them to leave you alone. The most beautiful people are the ones that are beautful inside... loooks fade, but not your heart.