What do men and teenage boys really want from women? Just sex or love?

retsoksirhc

I just want companionship. Maybe I should get a dog, or somthing...

I'd rather have love than sex, though,

nicespringgirl

I think what a man really wants is validation. correct me, guys, if I am wrong.
Man's greatest vulnerability is not only a physical need, but also a psychological one. It is the need to be loved, but not just loved by anyone - to be loved by someone he senses is emotionally independent and strong. This kind of love is validating and worthwhile.
The validation varies depends on the maturity. When they are younger, they are going around trying to sport a good looking girls on their arm and they want that thing simply due to their physical needs and peer pressure.
Do you guys really have a contest on getting girls and sleep with virgins? just curious

Wondergirl

Sex is what happens under the blanket. Love is the blanket.

I like nicespringgirl's validation theory. Validation is defined by the maturity of a male. Immature males want to score; mature males want love and companionship, a friend and a beloved.

MOWERMAN2468

well yes i think they would prefer to have both, but it depends on the age group i believe, because in the teen years i feel it would be more of the first than the latter. then as men age, i feel that it would be a mix of both sex , and love. although a teenaged boy will tell a girl anything to get what he wants. believe half of what you see, and nothing of what you hear.

Stringer

I'm in agreement with nicespringgirl; go slow, be careful. Nature is what it is; but the woman usually ends up paying for these mistakes. Love and sex go together in the right relationship and at the right time. But it should not be something that is given at the drop of a hat.

gallivant_fellow

Any man? I am a man, and I know that if I could have one thing in life, it would be a girl who I love and who loves me back. Real, true, love in every way.

Also, I don't know if "Sex. thats all any man wants" was a joking generalization or a real one, but usually the women who say all men are scum seriously, or all men want is sex, tend to attract those types of men. If you want to attract a good man, you must be a good woman. Then, loser guys will back off.

For instance, my friend Alex and I were talking with another guy about how pretty and cool this girl was. Then the other guy said "She's hot, but I saw her reading like, a five hundred page book dude." We were thinking "SOOO! She's an intellectual, GOOD!" But, he was intimidated because she wasn't scum like him.

Probably the only way to find a man who isn't obsessed with sex, is to hold out on the men you date. It's cruel to them I guess, but if they leave the relationship because there's no sex: One down. If they stay just because they love you: Score Beachgrl.

Stringer

Good response GF, very insightful and I might add very true.
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wizzkid89

Alright, the joke in life is that men are like dogs, they have a one track mind and they are impulsive. Which is sort of why, men are said to just look for sex. Well it comes down to a lot of things. Biologically, men are created to reproduce. Meaning that they want to continue the species, and the best way of doing this is reproducing with as much females as possible, in order to ensure their species lives on. Which means that in their DNA, something is telling them to have sex as much as possible. Now it happens to be a little different for women. Women have been biologically engineered to search for a mate who can provide offspring that will survive. Think of an alpha dog, confident, strong, and all that stuff. Thusly, women are more apt to be pickier by their DNA because they are subconsciously looking for a man that will fulfill their hidden desires of finding a mate to ensure their offspring. Then for men, it is understandable why they want to have sex more often, due to the fact that it's their DNA make up to reproduce as much as possible to ensure their species lives on. Now granted we have evolved, but these types of behavior still play a role today. And with the introduction of Sex for pleasure in the early 1900's following the Industrial revolution, they have more or less become hidden desires. Desires covered up by our culture and society.

Now, every person, in my mind wants to find love. Either because we have evolved to look for it or some other explanation, we still want to find true love. Someone that completes us, fulfills us, is the ying to our yang. However, women and men find love in different ways. Men are focused on sex and good looks, because all they care biologically is to ensure their species, and a very attractive women represents good health, thusly there is your attraction. Now the same can be said for women, but appearances are not necessarily as important because they are looking for a mate who also has traits that will make for good offspring, so there comes into play the idea that women care more about personalities.

Basically, what I am trying to say, is that we are engineered differently. The sexes that is, and it's seems to be ignorant to try and separate sex from love. The question isn't if some are looking for sex and some are looking for love. But the question should be are some looking for love or some not looking for love. Mainly because sex is a reproduction act and a pleasurable one that affects many different aspects of todays society. Thus, we shouldn't assume it's either or, but mainly a combination. Sex can be an act of either physical or emotional love, the one we associate with relationships is usually the latter. All I believe is that we should keep in mind, is that sex is part of our DNA make up, and some men are not just simply throwing out the sex to search for love. It simply comes down to those that want love and those that don't. Sex will be there either way.

saraispiel19

αt first sex then when they wαnt to be serious or commited they wαnt both

Stringer

WK89,
Another good answer, but all will not like or believe what you said,