i really love my ex and i dunno if he will give me another chance. i need really good advise on this so if someone could help me thankyou. i asked him out and hes thinking about it he sed he likes me. he put this screenname as "steph ur sexi 4 life too" because i put it first and when i asked him how many stephs do you no he sed ummm you and this other one i sed which one is in ur screenanme and he sed the other one i sed y did you put that 4 he sed cause she put it first. it was just so strange! is he playing hard to get with me?? or just afraid to show this true feelings? what do i do if he says no? thankyou 4 ur help...

Krs

Why is he your he ex?
why did you initally break up?
who broke up with who and why?
how long where you together?
and how old are you both?

xcandybabex160

well hes my ex because i dated him 4 times on and off.
we didn't really talk much.
i broke up with him because we hardly talked.
well it was on and off all times so i dunno but we havent been out 4 ages now but now i want him bk.
i'm 16 and he is 15

Krs

Ok then. So do u think that if you had to get back together now you would talk much?
I admire that thou for a person you're age, coz communication is the key to a relationship...
no talk... no relationship!.

Do u believe he is worth you tryin to get him back?

xcandybabex160

yea my cuz who is his best mate told me he will talk to me loads.
everyone in my family says he fancies me my brother says he loves me its obvivous well how i the world does he no that? yea i really want him bk i dnt want no one else. i just hope he says yes now but i think i'm kinda getting obsessed with him and that hapened in my other relationship because i missed him i even had sex with that guy aswell and he dumped me like 4 days after cause he sed i was too obsessed i dnt want that to happened with james(who is the guy i want to get bk).

Krs

The best advice i can give you :- is to be straight upfront with James, just be confident and ask him out.
Do like a trial test run for a few weeks when you two are going out and see whether the relationship turned out positive as you expected it to be (but obviously dont tell him this).

Never obsess about someone, let them obsess about you, let there be an air of curiousity and imagination about you always let a boy feel intriged to get to know you.

Like you said you had sex with another guy and he dumped you after 4 days? He said because you obsessed while i believe he dumped you because you gave him sex and thats all he wanted. You see my point!

Let boys be curious about you, if you give them the cake and they can eat it all within a few days then they are obviously going to want something new, get rid of the old and in with the new... you get my point!?

xcandybabex160

i think so thankyou. yea he broke up with me 4 days after cause i kept telling him i loved him he sed he dnt fall in love straight away. i was going out with him only a week tho maybe i was being obsessed! that guy now tho he has a gf and i think his jealous about me and james cause i told him that i was going out with james but i aint just told him a lie and he keeps tlking to me alot and like asking r u still going out with james and i'm like yea course but i aint. i'm not gonna tell him i'm not gog out with james cause i like him being jealous lol. i really want james tho i would do anything to get him. also james and me was tlking on msn about sex and he sed you come to mine lol i sed shut up and he sed no seriuosly i was like okkk but i dnt want him 4 just sex i want him to love me like he did b4 he used to love me loads and send me sweet txtes and emails and wasnt afriad to tell everyone we were going out. i casn tlk to him on msn or by txt or email but hard to tlk to him inp poerson but i have a feeling it would work this time. only if he says yes he will go out with me. i wish i neva dumped him tho i didnt even give him a chance aybe now i left skool all together it will be easlier like i could meet him after skool or go on dates probably. would be nice if i was going bk out with him.

Krs

you see... James is already asking for sex and you are not yet together... i wouldnt give him sex for months if you do go out... see what are the real reasons he is with you!!!

Love is NOT in any equastion here .. this is lust dear and you are obviously getting it confused with love but its normal for girls you're age!

xcandybabex160

but i love him and i can tell he likes me. i did say to him i dont want sex well not yuet until like i can trust him and he can learn to love me. i dunno what to do.

Krs

but how can u love someone and sleep with someone else??

are you sure this is love??

and what did he reply when you said about not wantin sex until he learns to love you?