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    Jan 6, 2008, 07:10 PM
    Trying to seduce me
    Hi my girlfriend moved away for 6 months and were still happy and trying to keep in touch but one of my best friends keeps coming onto me and flirtin with me, she's always been a bit of a flirt but it feels like she's trying to seduce me for real. She admitted that she used to fancy me and thought things could happen but said she was over that, I've kissed her in the past but it only lead to trouble (high maintainance) I've told her strait up that I'm not interested but se continues anyway. Does anyone else get this problem, is she just messin with me
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    Jan 6, 2008, 10:09 PM
    She is probably interested but trying to cover it up by "messing with you" she can claim to be joking and not embarrass herself. Your best bet if she persists after you tell her your not interested is to avoid her altogether. Some girls just don't know when to quit.
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    Jan 6, 2008, 10:15 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by brown_eyes_3546
    she is probably interested but trying to cover it up by "messing with you" she can claim to be joking and not embarrass herself. your best bet if she persists after you tell her your not interested is to avoid her altogether. some girls jsut dont know when to quit.
    I live in a small village of like 300 and go to an even smaller school with 30 pupils AND she's like my best friend. I talk big but I know just as much about the opposite sex as the next person i.e. not enough. So I don't know how to get the message across
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    Jan 6, 2008, 11:17 PM
    Girls are persisstant and many of us won't give up until we get what we want and I hate it but try to takl to her and if she won't listen then just leave her be tell her it is either friends only or nothing.
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    Jan 6, 2008, 11:50 PM
    Id love to but she's got a reputation as a maneater and she's had a pretty life and I'm one of the only person she trusts, that's why were such close friends. I've overstepped the mark before and it SERIOUSLY ed things up, so it might be partly my fault plus I'm so very handsome. I want to be there for her, were 4-5oclock-in-the-morning-fone-calls kind of friends so we need each other, just not in the way she wants
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    Jan 7, 2008, 12:59 PM
    You should now proabally try the hard way - 1, you could tell your girlfriend and ask her for help.

    2. you could ring your girlfriend up when she is there with you and say how much you love your girlfriend and see if she gets the picture then. But try not to hurt her feelings

    3. Tell her just what you told us you are not ready your heart belongs to your girlfrind and you don't want to hurt her.

    And what she needs and deserves from you you can not give to her at this time. Don't put it off because her feeling will grow stronger 4 you and will make it harder for her .

    And try not to lead her on. If she's aware that you don't have feelings for her, and she still wants to do stuff for you, then just establish a friendship between you guys and say that that's all you want.

    Hope it helps .x
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    Jan 8, 2008, 07:36 AM
    Thanks for the advice, but her and my girlfriend are best friends. And she knows how much I love her because she's always been around and she the one both of us talk to when things got rough
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    Jan 9, 2008, 01:16 AM
    Maybe your girlfriend has her best friend doing this to test you. Did you think of that?

    And if you are still in school, what are you doing reading murder mysteries and drinking wine?!!!!

    I don't really care, I just wondered. :)
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    Jan 9, 2008, 08:55 AM
    Yh it could be a big plan to see if you can handle with it - or wouldn't she do that sort of thing??
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    Jan 9, 2008, 06:02 PM
    Why would I date someone sick enough to do that to me? This friend of mine... she... got between us before... and it all went to , she is the last person my g/f would ask. But we are all REAL friends, we don't 'test' each other.
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    Jan 9, 2008, 10:17 PM
    You'd be surprised what teenage girls do. I di it to guys that I trusted.
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    Jan 9, 2008, 11:00 PM
    First test of man hood resisting the persistent female. No matter how hard she tries, ignore her advances, she may be trying for a reaction as some females do.
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    Jan 10, 2008, 07:05 AM
    I haven't split with her
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    Jan 10, 2008, 05:08 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by raggablue
    why would i date someone sick enough to do that to me? this friend of mine....she...got between us before... and it all went to , she is the last person my g/f would ask. but we are all REAL friends, we don't 'test' each other.
    Even if your girlfriend isn't putting her up to do something like that I am sure that if you did let your guard down and get a weak moment the girl would be all so eager to run and tell your girlfriend all about it.
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    Jan 11, 2008, 09:49 AM
    I'm not5 being rude or a perv at this point but how old are yhoo actually? Well if yhoo don't want 2 say are yhoo like teens in high school or like older? Yhoo take this so seriously she must mean a lot to you to go to this stage.
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    Jan 11, 2008, 04:00 PM
    We're 15, 5th year seinior students.
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    Jan 11, 2008, 04:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by N0help4u
    Even if your gf isn't putting her up to do something like that I am sure that if you did let your guard down and get a weak moment the girl would be all so eager to run and tell your gf all about it.
    I'm the only person who will listen to her and not gossip to anyone. She needs me like I do her and she wouldn't risk our friendship
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    Jan 11, 2008, 05:57 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by raggablue
    im the only person who will listen to her and not gossip to anyone. she needs me like i do her and she wouldn't risk our friendship
    Your confusing me, if she is flirting and trying to seduce you, how can you think she is NOT risking your friendship, and making you cheat on your relationship??
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    Jan 11, 2008, 06:43 PM
    She's confused.she doesn't know what she wants but I can do my best as her friend to be there when she needs me, but not in a sexual way. She has been messed around by guys in the past and she said that I am the only man she trusts
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    Jan 11, 2008, 06:45 PM
    You sound like a good friend.

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