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    iLy541 Posts: 28, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 18, 2009, 05:28 PM
    TORN in Between 2 GuyS
    I'm in a situation where I'm torn in between two guys in my life.
    Non of who have yet to claim me.
    If getting tired of waiting on faith.

    Guy 1_ is a 19 year old who I fell for right from the moment we met, he's a type of guy who would wait for you. He calls me. Texts me in the morning and is very open with me. But I feel as if he's still into his his ex girl also I feel that if we do stay together as boyfriend and girlfriend he probably won't have time for me. Also he hasn't claimed me which is why I started dating...

    Guy 2_ is a tall 6'3 17 year old who goes to my school and who I lost my virginity to [while I was talking to guy 1] , but sex can wait. I learned that relationships aren't about the sex but when I'm with him [only has been twice] I kind of feel as its an obligation. He's a great guy who knows how to make me laugh and blush but to be honest I haven't seen the real him. Im just getting tired of him not making it his business to get to know me. In his case he texts and never calls. But there's something about him that tells me not to give up.

    It has been a while since I have hung out with either of them_
    :confused:
    What Should I Do?
    Who should I Prefer?
    Should I Take Matters Into my own Hands or just wait and see how things pan out??
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    Jan 18, 2009, 06:58 PM

    I would really appreciate it if I could receive some advice from those who view_ thanxx
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    Jan 18, 2009, 08:01 PM

    Sounds like you really should just see them as friends and nothing more.
    It doesn't sound like either one of them are really interested in you for a real relationship.
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    Jan 18, 2009, 10:20 PM

    Neither.

    It sounds like neither of them are interested.

    Oh, on a side note, if you feel as if sex is an obligation between you two, that's already a HUGE red flag to stop doing it. I'm guessing your not close to be being old enough, anyway.
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    Jan 19, 2009, 12:23 PM

    Well if I were you I would just be friends with both of them and try to move on, a relationship shouldn't be built on having sex, plus if you feel like you have to do "it" with him, there is the chance that he might be using you for pleasure and nothing else, so I think you should just be friends

    Good luck!
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    Jan 20, 2009, 05:22 PM

    Yeah, I agree with the others... Neither of them are interested, but guy #1 sounds like a good friend.

    Guy #2, I think you should let him know how you feel your about your "obligations" to him. Sex being an "obligation" is no way to build a friendship, or for that matter, a relationship.
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