Too paranoid?

Get NEW FRIENDS! Nobody should ever make you feel that you need to do something that you don't want to! Geeeeeeeeeze some people are unbelievable! (your friends not you!) If they call you a weenie or something then they just aren't worth your time!

Butbeing left out....ask your friends if they want to do something or go somewhere before they have the chance to ask anybody. Be realistic if they don't ask you maybe they were only allowed to ask one or two friends.

Friends getting mad at me......do they generally get mad at you? If so what types of things are they getting mad about?

Doing something bad and getting in trouble.....again are you generally getting in trouble and doing bad stuff?

And I feel if I keep on being scared,my friends won't like me,cause my friends aren't scared of anything......you are most likely admiring things about them and feeling inferior.
Try working on your self image and having more confidence.

Sometimes I feel left out..if I stop I don't feel right and I get scared,sometimes I am deppressed..please help,I don't know what to do......Maybe try not to analyze everything and just go with the flow and enjoy life. Have heart to heart discussions with your friends on their outlook on life and friends.

Maybe you should look for new friends. Do not do things because they are doing them or you feel pressured

I talked to my mom about it and she says that she can look into taking me to a psychiatrist and I can talk to them and they can tell me how to not be as afraid and catious as I am.I am 12 years old,7th grade,some things that I am scared of is if I say something that a friend doesn't like and they judge me,sometimes I don't want to be their friend,and sometimes I do.sometimes I think of bad stuff that is going to happen,like I think,if I say this oh my! This is going to happen.I don't know how to stop thinking about bad stuff,it is ruining my life..

It's good that you talked to your mom about it; hopefully they can help you figure out what's going on and hopefully put your mind at ease.

Keep me updated; I'd really like to know how everything turns out! And good luck, Dear.

They get mad at me sometimes because I don't like something they like,and if another person like the same thing they like then,my "friend" hangs out with them and not me,my friend is very confusing,she hangsout with me and is all happy with me,then she goes and ignores me..?I hate it,but I don't want to not be her friend..like one day she'll be bestfriends with someone and the next day and will be bestfriends with somebody else..and leaves me and her other "friends" and ignores them for a day or two.I don't know which side of her I want to believe,and I'm scared if I say that she is annoying me and will turn everyone against me.trust me,she did that before,if I say well your kind of getting annoying.shell say ohh your SUCH a good friend,why am I wasting my time with you.and I just said that your being annoying,and she goes all coco on me..?I don't know what to do..

Thank you for all your help and yes I will keep you updated.

Yes, it is good that you are going to get some professional help. Whether or not you DO have some kind of mental illness, depression paranoia anxiety, or anything else, a phychiatrist should still be able to help you better than we can here.

I, too, would be interested to know how it turns out.


Yeah, sorry to say, but it sounds like she is using you, and when she can't get what she wants from you, she just jumps to the next person who she can get something else from.
I'm sorry to say this, but you're not her friend. She doesn't value your friendship, and therefore doesn't view you as a "friend" as much as someone she can just use to get what she wants, and by not telling her straight (annoying is just an excuse) you're letting her get away with it.

Dear marissa (if that's your name)

Your friend sounds manipulative and cruel. In my lifetime I've had friends who haven't treated me with very much respect. You are clearly very sensitive, and worried about hurting other people, and you are right in talking to your friend about it, when she's upset you.

You haven't done anything wrong.

Being twelve is quite a hard time. I remember it. It's full of social anxieties. It sounds like you are very anxious, and wound up, and your self esteem is affected a lot by what other people think of you, and how they treat you. This is very common at your age. I don't think you are unusually paranoid - (when I was your age I would run home crying at a misheard insult that probably wasn't even anything to do with me) but you would probably benefit from counselling to help you deal with your anxieties.

People are very difficult sometimes. A lot of the time they are insensitive and cruel. One thing you can do to help yourself feel less paranoid, depressed or insecure is to realise that it isn't your fault. Whether you think the people you know are happy or have good lives, or not, people who are REALLY happy do not need to make other people feel bad about themselves. Happiness comes from self-believe and liking yourself, despite what the negative influences are in your life. It takes a lot of work to like yourself, and to feel able to deal with difficult situations, but it is worth it.

Don't be to hard on yourself for having a hard time. Talk to a counseller, and if it's really bad talk to your school. xxxxxxxxxxxx