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    Jeha Posts: 81, Reputation: 10
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    Feb 27, 2010, 10:21 PM
    Attracted to another
    I'm 18 and I haven't had a girlfriend in about 4 years I continue to try different girls in my school but most of them are too young and others just would not date I don't know. I know I'm doing something wrong but I don't know what, one thing I do know is that I'M TOO NICE , I LET GIRLS GET AWAY WITH EVERYTHING I do a lot of things for them,but it seems that just make them get used to using me for stuff.

    About a week ago this girl I met through my friends came over my house with my friends- to make long story short I ended up being attracted to her. But from what she has told my friends and I ( this is all true) she is like a hoe, she has given head to countless guys, had sex with 15 guys as of last week that I know about.my friends say that I should stay away from her but my urges are way too strong. I don't think she does, I don't smoke any thing she does some things, and unfortunately I'm still a virgin. We talk lot and are planing to go hang with each other some time. Any answers
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    Feb 27, 2010, 10:29 PM

    I think its up to you totally, you know what kind of girl she is, she doesn't have high morals, and doesn't care about much, just likes to have fun. So yoou could use her as a experience for you. But do you really want to lose your virginity to a hoe? Maybe you don't care?
    Also if you fall in love, and obviously she can move from one guy to another so easily. You could get easily heart broken.
    So I would suggest finding a much better girl, but you could use it for some experience. But I am sure you know what answers you are going to get from people, they will be a lot like your friends responses!
    I lost my virginity to a hoe, but I was the one who ended up ending the relationship. When we got together she really settled down and fell in love with me, but in the end her slutty past I could not get over. I was 15! I don't regret it though at all. Was fun, and she was a sweet (as in caring) hoe
    Good luck on whatever choice you take!
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    Feb 27, 2010, 11:25 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by dynocompe View Post
    I think its up to you totally, you know what kind of girl she is, she doesnt have high morals, and doesnt care about much, just likes to have fun. So yoou could use her as a experience for you. But do you really want to lose your virginity to a hoe? Maybe you dont care?
    Also if you fall in love, and obviously she can move from one guy to another so easily. You could get easily heart broken.
    So I would suggest finding a much better girl, but you could use it for some experience. But I am sure you know what answers you are going to get from people, they will be alot like your friends responses!
    I lost my virginity to a hoe, but I was the one who ended up ending the relationship. When we got together she really settled down and fell in love with me, but in the end her slutty past I could not get over. I was 15! I dont regret it though at all. Was fun, and she was a sweet (as in caring) hoe
    Good luck on whatever choice you take!


    That's the thing I'm not sure if I want to loser my viginity to a hoe, but I also need the experience
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    Feb 28, 2010, 05:43 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Jeha View Post
    thats the thing i'm not sure if i want to loser my viginity to a hoe, but i also need the experience

    Perhaps I've read this wrong,but if not,do not use this girl as a way of losing your virginity,that is not a 'nice guy' thing to do.

    If you like her,why not show her,what its like to date a guy who likes her for her not for what she can provide,she's a human being,with feelings,she's not just a body,or a learning tool!

    Date her if you like her,don't use her.
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    Feb 28, 2010, 05:49 AM

    I was not implying in any way to use her for sex, is what I meant, since she has slept with so many guys. That she is probably going to want to have sex with him and he is a virgin. And is she is a true hoe, she will probably just move on to the next guy, so I was just gearing him up for that. Not to get too attached.

    But your right, she just might change her ways when she has a great guy who shows her true love! I have seen it many of times when the bar, town hoe, goes from guy to guy, sleeping around, then bam, so in love with the one guy, and stays with him, and even see them get married!
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    Feb 28, 2010, 06:27 AM

    If you think you might care about her, then meet up with her and see if there's any chemistry there. Maybe she's just searching for a great guy too.

    If you do end up having sex with her, just be certain to remember her past and use protection. Since she has a history she could have an STD to go with it.
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    Feb 28, 2010, 06:55 AM

    Your attractions for her is more than likely lust, and very normal for guys to have for females. But on a deeper level, I think your more following the lust, even knowing what the rumors about her are. She is much talked about and so will you be. That's just the way it goes with you youngsters.

    Right now hormones and lust are driving you, but your not coping very well as having sex is a deeper priority than getting to know someone. While her reputations seems to mean nothing now, it will later, especially as the lust fades, as it always does, and only then will you see what you really have for her, and if you can cope with it or not.

    Best advice, is go slow, and think with the head on your shoulders, and not the one hanging between your legs. (If that possible for young guys).

    Talaniman Rule - If you can't treat them like you want to be treated, don't mess around with them.

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