im 15 and may of 2007 i was raped by an older man. i pressed charges and hes in jail now. I had a real struggle getting over it and im not 100% okay but im starting to go out with my friends agian and im able to have a good night sleep.But im in a relationship with this guy who really wants to have sex. when we were makingout once he started going for it and i started hysterical crying, he backed off and tried to comfort me but he doesnt know what happend in may. as far as hes concerned im a virgin still. Now ive been having terrible nightmares again and ill wake up in a deep sweat either crying or screaming. i dont know if i should tell him the truth why i cant have sex or if i should breakup with him cause ill never be able to go past makingout..

KalFour

Meleeny,
You're 15, even if you hadn't been raped I would suggest you wait and seriously consider before having sex. You're much to young and you shouldn't have to justify that.
Ken's right (although I don't think making out should be considered a promise of sex, most people experiement physically for along time before they take that plunge), you need to get your life in order!!!
You need to be in therepy about your situation, cope with your addictions and try to get everything else worked out. Having sex should be the least of your priorities at the moment.

Kal

Jigicou

I kinda know were you comeing from, when I was six i was molested and its hard to get over it. Onething I had to do which was the hadest thing I ever did was forgive the person who did this tom I said forgive but not forgive. If your not ready to have sex than don`t. i have to agree with KBC if your not ready to have sex than don`t make out with the dude. If you keep makeing out with no sex he might get mad and frustated and than you`ll have more problems. If this is a long term reltionship you should tell,but only if you can trust him with out a doubt and try to find a surport grop(people who have had the same experice as you have and stick toghter threw there proble,s).