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im 15! i always wanted kids and i dont agree with abortion!
im not with the guy i slept with it was at a party and we both had a bit too much too drink and hes one of those guys that every girls wants too be with and he just use girls!
i didn't care at the time because i didn't have any feelings for m but now theres more and i don't know how too tell him!
Sooner or later your mother is going to notice changes with you and she's going to ask. I would get it over with and tell her.
Since you want this child let her know that you are prepared to take full responsibility for the child meaning financially and emotionally. And because you are 15, I suggest getting a part time job to help pay for baby expenses.
The first thing is to tell your parents. They can then help you deal with the rest of it.
If this guy is like you say, then he is not going to want to be a part of your child's life. But you need to put his feet to the fire. He needs to know there is a responsibility that goes with spreading his seed.
Well...first off, talk to your mom!! And you knew exactly how this guy was...and you aren't gonna be the one to change him. No doubt he won't even want the kid.
And a word of advice, if you keep this child...for crying out loud, when it's 15...keep him/her at home. They will have no business going to drinking parties where they will run into this type of problem.
I really don’t like answering this post because I have to fight every fiber of my being not get upset.
Your 15 years old and pregnant I’m just going to ignore the fact that you misspelled that word. Education system is failing us.
Apparently, you decided that you were old enough to have sex, in assume that you were smart enough to use a condom and that perhaps that condom broke. Inspect the condom after intercourse each and every time because if it was to break you get go to a clinical and get a spermicide and destroy the sperm before it could impregnate you. Also, you should always have two levels of protection example birth control pill and condoms.
All of the above is crying over spilled milk
What do you do now? You don’t agree with abortion but you believe in having sex with people that you don’t really care about? This is kind of backwards.
I’m prochoice and in my opinion is one of the pregnancies that would warrant it. You’re too young; the male has nothing to do with you and will not want anything to do with the child. You haven’t finished school and your probably have no job. This boy probably hasn’t finished school, and he probably is unemployed as well.
But it’s a women’s choice and if you choose to continue the pregnancy then here is what you do.
1. Tell your mother NOW! Tell her that you had sex and that you are pregnant and your intentions are to keep the child. If you mother decides that she no longer wants you to stay there. There are safe houses that you can go to. Your mother will find out eventually don’t prolong it and its better that she knows right away she could support you, but that is her decision.
2. Start on a prenatal care right away. You have to give your baby chance to be healthy. Hiding the pregnancy is just selfish it’s not about you anymore it’s about you unborn child.
3. Call the father of this unborn child and you say “hello, John I went to the clinic got a pregnant test and I’m 1 ½ months pregnant I made the decision that I want to keep the child. I’m giving you the opportunity to be a part of the unborn child’s life from the beginning. If you don’t want to be a part of the child’s life that’s ok however you have to pay child support. Have this guys first, last name, home address get it before this conversation takes place.
I'm upset too, but not for the reason you think. While all of you are busy being angry at her, how about being angry at her parents as well, or even the dysfunctional school system? Last I heard, children were the parent's responsibility until age 18.
I swear, many of the adults on this forum have their heads buried in the sand and are in denial regarding the reality of the lives of teens today. Perhaps this U.S. Teen Sexual Activity Report will open some eyes. 25% have a STD!
Children make bad decisions without proper guidance. I don't know her education regarding sex, but I do know that the education I received in school and elsewhere was paltry at best. Any anger here would best be refocused on correcting the social issues that led to a 15 year old getting pregnant at a drinking party instead of blasting her. She doesn't bear the blame alone.
Wait a minute everyone, most of you say, tell your mom. Where was mom when her 15 yr old daughter was out drinking at a party and having sex? Perhaps she can find her to tell her she is going to be a grandma.
Try and be there for your unborn child, and know what they are up to when they go out, and perhaps keep them under your wing a little longer in their early teens. Or you may end up being a grandmother at an early age as well.
The only thing I can think to add is one other option that hasn't been mentioned. You said that you don't agree with abortion, what about adoption? There are tons of wonderful people out there that are financially and emotionally ready to take care of a child, but aren't able to have one. Talk to a counsellor, exhaust all options. You are only 15, you are no where near ready to have a child, but the fact is that you are pregnant. Don't be afraid to find out about adoption, it is an option.
I guess you found out the hard way what the consequences are to having sex. Now it's time to be mature and take care of the life growing inside you and think about that life after it arrives. Wanting something and being responsible for something are two different things.
The reason why I didn’t coming down hard on the parents I think it’s some what unfair. I will agree that parent(s) actions are a factor but the majority of the blame is on this abbii and her little boy friend.
I’m assuming that mother of this young woman has not created an environment in which this 15 year old believes having sex or children at this age is acceptable.
This girl knows she is wrong this why she asked how does she tell mother.
Like most parents they assume the best in there children, in the mothers eyes abbii x is trust worthy and does the right thing.
This party could have been a cut party or the girl could lied and said that she was sleeping over at a friend’s house. The parent(s) at this friends house is allows her daughter to go to a party or maybe that children has lied to her parents.
We can argue that the parents could keep a closer eye on these kids but really it would be pointless kids are having sex in school bathrooms, stairwells, behind dumpers, in livings rooms, in kitchens while parents on home thinking that they are in kitchen getting a snack. Honestly, what are parents to do quit there jobs and chaperon there children every where?
At age sixteen I remember sleeping the night out of a girlfriend’s house. It was a two family home and one sister owned the bottom floor and other the top. I was friends with my girlfriend’s cousin how lived downstairs. So I would tell my mother I was sleeping over his house and that was ok. Technically, I was however I would not tell my mother that the girl I was dating was living in the same house. We didn’t have sex but we definitely could of. We just slept downstairs on the living room couch and before daylight came she went back to her room.
I remember buying condoms for the local store with no problem. I brought them because there were no more condoms in my mothers top dresser draw. My mother indirectly knew her teenagers were having sex because that magic draw was re-stocked with condoms and we never was asked were we having sex.
As soon as these children have the ability to have sex I think we should give them the talk. Make sure they have birth control and condoms. You can’t be sure your teenager will start having sex but you can help make sure if and when they do, they do it safely.
The idea that they shouldn’t be having sex and parents are responsible for making sure they don’t is not working.
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