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My parents never listen to me or what I have to say. When I want to hang out or go to the mall with my friends its no. Pretty much everything is no. Meanwhile I'm a good kid and have grades over 90. Whenever i tell my parents you don't listen to me they don't seem to care. When will they give me freedom and start hearing what I have to say?
Parents think of overprotection as a way of showing you they love you. They dont want you to get in trouble, get hurt, etc. If you want a little more freedom, just sit them down and have a talk with them. Explain to them that you have friends you would like to hang out with sometimes, and you have a social life. Its not uncommon for a teenager to want to hang out with his friends.
How old are you? If you're 13 or below I can understand where they are coming from, but if you are a "higher up" teen then I dont see the problem.
When my mom used to tell that to me I would give her the whole this is where I am going, this is who I will be hanging out with and this is the time I will be home. Maybe try to approach your parents when they are in a relax mood, sometimes if you catch them at a bad time everything is no.
Do you all spend quality time together at all?
In the meantime great job on your grades and if they won't give you freedom it will be coming soon enough.
I agree Nauticalstar we need to know how old this person is. Also I think there are a lot more variables here. What kind of neighborhood do you live in. Have you disobeyed your parents in the past giving them reason not to trust you this time around? Did you recently get into some kind of trouble? We need to know the whole story, there has to be something here.
If thats the case i could understand your parents not wanting you to hang out unsupervised. It may even be that your parents trust you but don't trust the situations that may be presented to you.
When I was a teenager I wasn't allowed to go to the mall with my friends until i was in high school. At 13-14 I was really only allowed to go hang out with my friends at their houses. I never thought it was strict but I always told my mom where I was going who was there what we were going to be doing.
Then i completely understand your parents reasoning behind your limits. You need to be patient sweety, before you know it you will be 18 and can do whatever it is your little heart desires.
If thats the case i could understand your parents not wanting you to hang out unsupervised. It may even be that your parents trust you but don't trust the situations that may be presented to you.
When I was a teenager I wasn't allowed to go to the mall with my friends until i was in high school. At 13-14 I was really only allowed to go hang out with my friends at their houses. I never thought it was strict but I always told my mom where I was going who was there what we were going to be doing.
I agree with Glinda. 13 is a bit young to go out without an adult. They just want you to be safe and trouble free. I know you are unhappy with them for this, but you also have to understand where they are coming from. They care about you and dont want anything bad to happen.
My mother always told me if i wanted to go out with friends without an adult I had to prove I was responsible. Apparently, that wasnt proven until i was 16
You can still try at least going to a friends house...let your parents know you will give them a phone number they can reach you with. It will help build up the trust. If they still say no I wouldn't push the issue just wait in no time you will be able to spread your wings.
Yup I was pretty restricted in where I could go and how late but I proved to my mom all those years that i could be trusted to be where I said I would be and be home by curfew so by the time I was in my junior year of high school my rules were really relaxed. By summer I didn't have a curfew and my mom completely trusted me. Give it time. They'll come around
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